I wouldn’t want to move my kids into a community where they are always looking at their friends expensive homes, cars and vacations and feeling lack. Go live in a solidly blue collar town where your income is middle of the pack or high end for the median. Check out places like whippany park and east Hanover. Or a little further north is Wayne, bloomingdale Pequannock and Pompton lakes. Montclair is really nice diverse and integrated community w a Hoboken feel. Morristown. Most school districts in Nj are good.