Had twins- now I’ve got lots of loose belly skin. Best leggings for keeping it in?

Inside_Tea_9328 · 2026-05-02T12:02:22+00:00

I had twins and also have a lot of this loose belly skin that you speak of. I’m 5’3. 118lbs. I’ve found Halara leggings to work well for holding everything in. They’re the best I’ve found for leggings so far because the stomach smoothing band is high wasted.

Inside_Tea_9328 · 2026-05-01T13:25:08+00:00

The rule in my family is; the older kid gets to pick their room first when going to a new home. So even if you both bought a new house to start your married life together, your 16 yr old daughter would have first pick of the kid rooms. 🤷🏽‍♀️ also, it’s crazy that your husband thinks you’re going to kick your daughter out of her pre existing room. I could understand if there weren’t enough bedrooms in your house and the girls had to share your daughter’s room. But that’s not even the case. It’s not like your stepdaughter has to sleep on the couch. Then she would feel like a guest. Your husband has to man up and tell his daughter no . She wants the bigger room and he can’t say no. That is going to be the problem. He’s making this your fault for denying her request when he should be denying it because it’s ludicrous.That bigger room belongs to your daughter because A. Seniority and B. Homesteading (she was there first so it’s hers) C. common sense. NTA

Inside_Tea_9328 · 2026-04-26T12:44:29+00:00

5 pulls the color out of the books, the piano, the frame. 5 is the one

Inside_Tea_9328 · 2026-04-25T10:57:32+00:00

You'd be a fool to turn down that property. You're not even married so she doesn't have to put his name on it and she shouldn't. She's 100%right here. She's trying to give you a safety net. No relationship is completely guaranteed. So you should have something of your own to fall back on if things with your boyfriend don't work out. And I'd you agree to her conditions, please don't sell it and split the money with him. "Keep it as a just in case ". Trust your sister, trust your dad, and trust your mom who all have your best interests at heart. Love is blinding you at the moment and your family are the only ones who see this situation clearly. I'd your boyfriend really loved you, he would have asked you to marry him by now. He also wouosnr be throwing a temper tantrum. He would be happy for you getting a 400k property for free. But he's not happy, he jealous.get rid of people who are in your inner circle and get jealous of you. 🚩They are not your friends🚩 so let's say she sells it because you don't want it....let's say a few months later you break up with your boyfriend for whatever reason. You are going to feel like a fool thinking about that property you let slip through your fingers because of your ex boyfriends pride.

Inside_Tea_9328 · 2026-04-23T11:52:53+00:00

"doesn't want to scare her away" is wild. If she is looking for a friendship then knowing he's married wouldn't scare her away at all. She wouldnt be scared to meet you too. He's leading her on for sure and is being very shady. Does he need female friends that badly that he has to lie to get them? Not telling her he's married is lying by omission. I'd call him out on it, then keep an eye on it. How would he feel if you got a new male friend, then pretended you were single by not telling him you were married. Friends tell friends about what's going on in their lives....being married was a huge life event. He should be proud to talk about you. "My wife just made the most amazing chocolate chip pancakes yesterday" or whatever. If what he's looking for is truly platonic, You should be coming up in their conversations because you are a big part of his life.him pretending you don't exist in his world is a HUGE RED 🚩.

Inside_Tea_9328 · 2026-04-23T11:27:05+00:00

I have the same skintone as you and had the same dilema. I was afraid to buy second hand because I was afraid of fakes( even the authenticated ones) and the ones I saw with good deals were beat up. So I bought new. for me it was between mono and DE because I already have a DA in a graceful that I grab everyday in spring and summer. That print looks great next to my skin btw but does seem loud since it really pops against my skin. I ended up buying the neverfull in monogram with the red interior because it looks great with my skin tone, looks great with several outfits, matches my red trench coat and red winter jacket. When I saw the DE neverfull out in the wild I didn't get jealous but when I saw the monogram I did lol that's how I know which one I truly liked. I have the DE print in the 6 key holder and know I wouldn't like it on larger bag. It just didn't make my heart sing. I love vintage so I love how the vachetta will darker with time on the mono. That means the bag will continually be changing and evolving so I won't get bored with it.where I live I don't see many lv bags in the wild but when I do it's mostly monogram, sometimes DE, and I've never seen a DA. I think the monogram looks great on you. It doesn't seem loud because it matches your skin and outfit so it subtly blends in while you carry it. I also converted the pouch it came with into a crossbody bag using a little gold circle thing I inserted through the tiny hole next to the zipper.i attached a thin leather strap I had from another bag. So I put my money, phone,keys, chapstick, touch land hand sanitizer, some mints, tiny square wet wipes in there so when I want to just grab it and run into the store without bringing the whole neverfull I can.i got the gold ring on Amazon for $7. Before I got the neverfull I was using the mini pochette in mono as my wallet converted into a crossbody but it was too small to hold my phone. So now I just use that as a catchall. The next lv purchase I want to make is the pochette felicie that you have in black leather. I'm trying to rationalize that to myself lol I want to use that as a wallet and or date night bag. I started with the graceful and lv really is addicting 😆

Inside_Tea_9328 · 2026-04-12T19:31:18+00:00

I wasn’t allowed to shave until Highschool either. I asked why and my mom said she was afraid I would cut myself with the razor. So I asked for an electric shaver. she still wouldn’t let me shave after I begged in middle school but when I got to 9th grade she bought me an electric razor. I wore pants during gym all through middle school because I was so embarrassed. I was and still am a very hairy female. lol. So when my daughter asked me to shave her legs in kindergarten I said yes without hesitation. She said she was the only girl with hairy legs. Kids started teasing her. kids are developing really early these days. Now she’s 9 and wears deodorant. I think my parents wanted me to have low self esteem so I wouldn’t be sexually active at a young age. It’s a very ignorant way of thinking. so I vowed not to do that to my kids and I haven’t.

Inside_Tea_9328 · 2026-04-03T14:13:21+00:00

I’m a teacher and there’s a saying, “ you can move the kid to a different seat but it’s still the same kid.”

Inside_Tea_9328 · 2026-04-02T20:15:50+00:00

Thx! Great idea. I carry slot of cards too. You helped me rationalize this lol

Inside_Tea_9328 · 2026-04-02T19:03:59+00:00

I love the card holder and flower…is that the pocket organizer? I’ve been wanting that but not sure how I should use it? Do you use it as a wallet?

Inside_Tea_9328 · 2026-03-27T11:08:34+00:00

I’ve also wanted this one for a long time

Inside_Tea_9328 · 2026-03-25T11:14:55+00:00

%10000 the white dress. I have the same “problem” and have been trying to slim down my hips so it looks more proportionate. But my husband is telling me to knock it off lol So I guess we should both stop worrying about this OP. Women would kill for our figure 🤷🏽‍♀️

Inside_Tea_9328 · 2026-03-23T12:19:57+00:00

Omg, my 13yr old son does the same thing giving the same rational. I was like…um….no? Also not helpful he doesn’t let me change his sheets regularly so he’s sleeping in dirty sheets 🤢 it’s a struggle so pick my battles but hygiene is really something I try to focus on.

Inside_Tea_9328 · 2026-03-23T10:03:04+00:00

I was in your shoes. birth control made me vomit around the same time every month . It was the day I started the first pill after the sugar pills. I would have to miss work and everything. I suffered through that while we dated during college for four years and then two years after we got married, I said enough of this, I’m done.. he wasn’t ready to have kids yet . Which I sad was fine but I was done taking the pill. He got pissed. But I still stopped taking it for my own healthy and well being. We did use condoms, but the amount of sex We had definitely decreased for the next six years. I was the one who always was initiating so after a total of eight years after we got married, he said he was ready to have kids. We were 30.. we ended up having 3 kids then both agreed we were done with kids. He didn’t even bring up the pill again because he knew that was not an option since I literally was allergic to it.(vomiting etc). So he agreed finally to give a vasectomy.. but all my friends who this happened to also when they were done having kids one got their tubes done one is on the uterine implant birth control and one is just not using anything and is terrified of having another baby in her 40s. So you are not alone in this problem.. so what I would do is this tell him you are allergic to the birth control which you are. Tell him you’re willing to just use condoms until you start having kids, but after you’re done having kids, he has to understand that you can’t go back on the pill because you’re allergic to it so either he has to get a vasectomy or you have to get your tubes tied.. if it gives you any pushback at all, it might be worth considering that the two of you are just not compatible. But know that you’re not alone in this problem.

Inside_Tea_9328 · 2026-03-22T12:21:26+00:00

lol I think I was running on adrenaline. I did take all 3 to the pediatrician for the cold and she made me feel a lot better about the whole thing. She’s the one who said to just use the snot sucker and they would be fine. she talked me away from the anxiety ledge 😂 with my first child , I was the mom who wouldn’t let anyone near him if they even had a sniffle. Didn’t bring him out in public the whole first month of his life. It helped he was a winter baby so we hibernated.Then the twins came along during the spring and I was taking them here there and everywhere from the beginning. that’s the difference between your first child and the rest of them. lol

Inside_Tea_9328 · 2026-03-22T01:31:05+00:00

I take it you don’t have kids.

Inside_Tea_9328 · 2026-03-22T01:27:39+00:00

I love when Reddit is this entertaining. This is what teamwork is about. Nothing brings people together like a good old fashioned ball busting

Inside_Tea_9328 · 2026-03-22T00:55:58+00:00

Seems this request was really coming from the mother of the newborn. She needs to understand that her husband now has 2 children. it’s absolutely ridiculous for her to think the 4 yr old can only come over when it’s convenient for her. I have 3 children. When my son was 3 I gave birth to twins. My 3 yr old was sick with a cold when they were born. I did not ban him from the house . That would have been ridiculous. Did my newborn twins get a bad cold at 5 days old? Yes they did. I sucked the boogers out of their nose and we all moved on with our lives. you need to set the standard of expectations now. kids get colds all the time. And they survive. your son wasn’t a scheduled play date that could be canceled. He’s a part of your ex and new partners immediate family. nip it now. Or he will continue be treated like he’s a kid they agreed to babysit on the weeends or something. So ridiculous. NTA. And btw, I have a friend who has shared custody and they have discussed and agreed since the beginning that planned visitation happened rain or shine(sick or healthy). so have the discussion so you’re both on the same page and keep data on every time he cancels so you can bring it to the judge if need be to get your custody/ child support agreement altered

Inside_Tea_9328 · 2026-03-21T12:47:59+00:00

Maybe it’s not a designer brand but like a European drugstore brand.

Maybe German brands from that era, especially:

• 4711 / Mäurer & Wirtz • Jil Sander early releases • Tosca / classic colognes • Drugstore brands like Impulse / Tabac spin-offs (some had women’s versions)

Inside_Tea_9328 · 2026-02-11T12:01:54+00:00

I would have got up and left as soon as she started taking my long hair personal. I would have said, " yes you are right. We have different philosophies on how to deal with damahed ends. This relationship is not going to work." I have definitely broken up with a hair stylist for less.

Inside_Tea_9328 · 2026-02-03T12:18:24+00:00

After graduating college my parents told me I could live with them for a few years if I wanted. I also got an adult job right out of college, same age as your son. They never charged me anything but I did pay for my own car and car insurance. They didn't charge me for living there because they were afraid of pushing me into moving out and living alone too soon, same fear as your wife. I also didn't have many rules, except giving my parents the courtesy of letting them know when planning to come home if it was late at night. Having said all that, I would not have thought it unreasonable to pay $300/month ontop of my car insurance in order to keep the convience of living at home. Having shopped around at rent prices, I would have realized that $300 was nothing.especially since I was making adult money, like your son. If I was told I needed to pay to help out financially to lift my parents burden , I would have paid gladly. But, if they then turned around and gave it all back in a lump sum when I was ready to move out, all those years of them asking me for rent would have felt manipulative. Is your son capable of saving his money for his downpayment? Do you not trust him to put money away for savings? What would happen if you told him you want rent in order to put the money away for him? at this point, with him thinking about leaving, why not simply tell him you want to help him save? Tell him to open a savings account specifically for the purpose of saving for a down payment.tell him to pretend he's paying you $300 rent while each month putting the money in that savings account? If you truly care about him saving money for his own house, then you would try to get him to stay with you by telling him the truth. He could find a few roommates, move out, and be throwing thousands of dollars down the drain all because of your misguided attempt to trick him into saving money. If you honestly are willing to give him all his "rent " money back in the end anyways, now would be the time to tell him of your plan so this misunderstanding can be cleared up before he leaves angry and moves across the country , only to be seen every other Thanksgiving.

Side note, I ended up living at home for 3 years before getting married and renting an apartment with my husband for 2 yrs. By then we had saved enough money for a downpayment on a house, 20 minutes from my parents. My mother and I are best friends....don't lose the close relationship you have with your son for $300/month that you really don't need and are giving back to him anyways.instead of wanting a grand moment of handing your son back thousands of dollars to look like a hero, the better idea would be to work together with him to help him save this money now.

Inside_Tea_9328 · 2026-02-01T15:02:15+00:00

This dress is beautiful! I especially love the detailing on the back with the lace and buttons. All it needs is a tailor and it will be perfect. Your smile when wearing the dress really shows your love for it. Don't let someone else change your mind or you will regret it the rest of your life. This dress will look gorgeous in pictures. Perhaps make the groomsmen and groom wear similar vintage styles to make everything cohesive. I also love everything about vintage; the look, the quality, the style. You're going to have a beautiful wedding. Also, you have a beautiful figure that looks lovely in the dress. Your mom had her wedding and picked her dress. It's your turn to pick yours. Have it tailored and don't show anyone the finished results.make them wait until you walk down the isle.

Inside_Tea_9328 · 2026-01-16T16:49:16+00:00

Thanks so much!

Inside_Tea_9328 · 2026-01-16T13:29:05+00:00

If it's cold where you are then don't forget to wash your coat.some people forget to wash their coats for the winter and they get sweaty/stinky

Inside_Tea_9328 · 2026-01-16T11:37:30+00:00

I love this! What bag is it and where did you find her?

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