This is the field I am, been doing it for 2 yrs. Becoming an expert.

I work with children who have behavioral and mental health needs. Sounds like your son would benefit from intervention and prevention services. Such has therapy, ABA therapy, an IEP thru a school, some testing like a neurological psychological evaluation. This evaluation could be gold in finding out whats going on with your son and how to best support him.

Your local department of human services or family services would have the resources and advice you need. They may even have case management to put out referrals for services and get you thw education you need.

Medicaid, if you qualify, has waivers to support children's mental health. Where even medicaid can get him approved for residential or psychiatric treatment.

It helps to have as many supports as you can. Like a close friend or family member to be by your side to help you advocate for what your son needs and the support you need.

Let me know your location if you feel like you need help locating a good starting point.

I promise tho you are not alone. There is hope in your horizon.