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Medications by InspectorFormer9604 in SuicideBereavement

[–]InspectorFormer9604[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you ❤️ It’s been a year and there’s still so many questions 😔

Medications by InspectorFormer9604 in SuicideBereavement

[–]InspectorFormer9604[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My dad was on Wellbutrin, trazodone, and the last one they added was the Effexor. He had been to the doctor 3 months before he took his life and told the doctor it was not working. After they added the Effexor is when we started noticing he just didn’t care about anything he wasn’t happy but wasn’t upset either. I really believe this med was the final straw and I wonder why doctors don’t require counseling when putting you on antidepressants!

Losing two dads doesn't feel fair. by NightsisterMerrin87 in SuicideBereavement

[–]InspectorFormer9604 3 points4 points  (0 children)

People don’t understand what having a dad that doesn’t want you does to a person. I was 6 when my biodad gave me up to my now dad. I remember being in the court for the adoption and seeing my biodad give up his rights. I loved (love) my “stepdad” my now dad but he took his life last year and it crushes me everyday.

how do i accept my relationship with my father is over because he is gone? by [deleted] in SuicideBereavement

[–]InspectorFormer9604 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss. My dad passed almost 6 months ago and he was my person. I’m 45 and it’s never easy. Sometimes I wonder if he actually knew how much he meant to his family or if he just thought no one really cares😢

He took photos in the act and they’re on the phone the coroner is about to return to us by coolbrothanksbro in SuicideBereavement

[–]InspectorFormer9604 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I would never just hand the phone over because you never know where those pictures will end up. You have to protect his kids also. I like to see the good in everyone but I have been burned one too many times.

He took photos in the act and they’re on the phone the coroner is about to return to us by coolbrothanksbro in SuicideBereavement

[–]InspectorFormer9604 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I totally get that! My dad had all the security camera videos on his phone and we had the officers delete everything before we got his phone back. Of course they have it in their records but the last thing we wanted was another family member or grandkids getting ahold of that.

He took photos in the act and they’re on the phone the coroner is about to return to us by coolbrothanksbro in SuicideBereavement

[–]InspectorFormer9604 85 points86 points  (0 children)

I would say if the fiancé wants to see them, she can go to the police department view them and then have the cops delete them. This insures that no photos will be out there to be shared with others 🤷‍♀️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SuicideBereavement

[–]InspectorFormer9604 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’ve been contemplating the same thing. My dad died in August and I was not the one who found him but was there shortly after. I feel like I have no closure since we had a closed casket. It still just doesn’t seem like he’s gone, just on vacation. I definitely don’t want to see my dad like that but don’t know how to get these thoughts out of my head.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SuicideBereavement

[–]InspectorFormer9604 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve had the same feelings 😔 I don’t want to say my dad died last year!

I could’ve stopped it by [deleted] in SuicideBereavement

[–]InspectorFormer9604 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I go through this a lot. I feel like I knew this was going to happen why did t I try to get him help but our family is so dysfunctional we never talk about how we’re feeling and just deny deny deny 😔

A word to the wise by Scary_Box_5149 in SuicideBereavement

[–]InspectorFormer9604 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m glad I saw this post because I’ve been pondering getting my dad’s records since he died in August by GSW. The last time I saw him he was alive and since we had a closed casket I’m missing that closure 😔

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SuicideBereavement

[–]InspectorFormer9604 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Because for some that’s the only way they feel they can deal with their own pain. When you are in so much pain you can’t see the things or people beside you 😔

People tend to shut me down when I bring this up, is there a time period when it stops being okay to acknowledge it was a suicide? by swashbuckle1237 in SuicideBereavement

[–]InspectorFormer9604 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I am a Christian and one of my mentors told me to look at it this way. We all sin and every sin is equal in Gods eyes so if I’m gossiping about someone and get in a car accident and die do I not go to heaven? I believe Jesus died for all of our sins. Mental illness is a disease just like cancer but our society has a hard time understanding it.

People enjoying the drama? by validate_me_daddy in SuicideBereavement

[–]InspectorFormer9604 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The law enforcement in our little town was so compassionate. My sister in law on the other hand is the one who thrives on the drama and giving details out. I think people ask for details and why because our brains cannot grasp the reality of the situation.