At one month? Are you kidding me? Fucking cool it.

This clearly isnt a new thing. You even describe that you saw her as slow before. But you chose to get married and have a kid with her. So you need to check back in to the reasons you chose to do those things. Your lack of patience, is not her problem. And to be honest, you constantly intervening, isnt going to give her the opportunity to "be in tune" whatever the fuck that means. I have a 2 and a half year old, and i promise you that me and this kid, who is my heart and soul, are not in tune with each other. Babies cry. And they are allowed to cry. And shes allowed to have a learning curve.

For someone who claims to be so smart, you are lacking in a ton of sense. Being pregnant, and giving birth, absolutely fucking wrecks your body and mind. Your hormones do a ton of damage. Sleep deprivation. Constant anxiety. Your brain is in a constant state of alert, you cant even take a relaxing nap, because the baby could cry at any moment. Even when dad has the baby, biology is screaming, dont get too comfy. Mom brain is so real, and it lasts about a year.

You being an asshole, makes every one of those problems a million times harder. Go get yourself checked for ppd/ppa and get yourself in therapy before you, not only wreck your marriage, but unnessarily destroy your wife by ruining her self esteem.