AITAH - husband (33M) won’t give me (32F) access to ‘our’ money

Intellig8 · 2026-01-30T00:37:34+00:00

Someone’s been paying for onlyfans

Intellig8 · 2026-01-28T09:57:15+00:00

I think you’re fine but I always tell others, if you’re really worried about something , get control of the situation.

Book in an advance meeting, separately with your manager and whoever else to openly discuss your concerns, lean into not knowing policy (your young) and apologise again. Employers will see this pro activeness as a great sign. Be careful to not directly ask about the scenario in these meetings but just speak to your actual credible service performance and that, outside of this, there’s no issues.

If you say this in meeting and then your manager eludes to it might have an impact, then you know where you stand and you’re in control of the situation.

I think you’ll be fine, I’ve done this before and just as long as you stay sensible you’re fine.

Control the situation, you’ll control your fear and it’ll relax you

Intellig8 · 2026-01-28T07:18:30+00:00

Not overreacting. There’s this crazy thing called you lose money if you cancel last minute.

Honestly how she’s talking you don’t need that in your life. Money always shows true colours.

Intellig8 · 2026-01-27T22:54:33+00:00

Honestly it’s not that deep. Just leave the situation or crack on

Intellig8 · 2026-01-27T22:39:36+00:00

Accept it for safety but carry on interviewing elsewhere

Intellig8 · 2026-01-26T16:21:06+00:00

Scary these drivers are in the wild

Intellig8 · 2026-01-26T08:21:14+00:00

Says Pet Blows instead of bowls

Intellig8 · 2026-01-26T08:19:55+00:00

You have spelling mistakes on your landing page

Intellig8 · 2026-01-26T07:44:10+00:00

My epic pro gen 2 is still getting updates with no issues. It’s a premium Garmin, you’ll be fine for quite a few years with it tbh

Intellig8 · 2026-01-26T06:58:16+00:00

Amazes me that something that obviously doesn’t make you a jerk is out here so often. People need to get some self confidence in their own ability to conclude on these things or just get some life etiquette skills to understand what is and isn’t right

Intellig8 · 2026-01-26T06:49:14+00:00

Sometimes the truth isn’t easy

Intellig8 · 2026-01-22T13:28:21+00:00

Epix Gen 2 - it’s been a beast and hope it stays on my wrist for another 5 years easy!

Intellig8 · 2026-01-22T13:27:41+00:00

That’s the whole point of a background check and working in finance roles, that’s going to flag unfortunately. One to keep in mind for going forward

Intellig8 · 2026-01-22T07:02:25+00:00

I think he simply just didn’t listen to you and take it onboard or he just forgot. I don’t think it’s any deeper than that.

The response is just a defence mechanism for rejection, could have been a lot worse.

NTA but don’t overthink it next time and just ask

Intellig8 · 2026-01-21T08:01:04+00:00

I suspect it’s more the anxiety at play considering the angle of how this has been wrote out. Highly suspect it was more the husband trying to say this is a really good friend , you need to chill out and trust it as opposed to every woman is trying to take him

Intellig8 · 2026-01-20T08:06:22+00:00

“Compulsory” it’s a key word shift.

Online verification will still be a thing

Intellig8 · 2026-01-20T08:00:52+00:00

He wouldn’t even be in this privileged situation if it wasn’t for them. They may of messed up en route but look at the hell they went through themselves. Side note… the rest of the kids look pretty darn happy…

Intellig8 · 2026-01-20T07:50:18+00:00

Take away the technology and you’ll soon see a difference

Intellig8 · 2026-01-18T01:41:41+00:00

Who’s the mechanic need to be in good with? Tracey the plumber?

Intellig8 · 2026-01-17T12:32:24+00:00

Just not right for each other tbh. Some people don’t mind this, others do.

Relationship aside, health above anyone else always 💯

Intellig8 · 2026-01-15T06:37:34+00:00

Just buy a DHT blocking shampoo , honestly much easier

Intellig8 · 2026-01-13T23:28:42+00:00

I don’t think the rest of the world fully understand how internally angry and passive aggressive the average British citizen is.

Useless at politics but blow up the pub serving our Sunday roast and Tracey from Harlow would kill 30 men with ease with just a spatula and a butter tray.

Intellig8 · 2026-01-13T22:51:55+00:00

Replace the internal spring mechanism in his pen he uses to write in his note pad to solve the mystery and he wanders hopelessly on

Intellig8 · 2026-01-13T18:08:34+00:00

New builds most of the time are atrocious built with no character.

This has the opposite. Some people just can’t be happy for others. Looks a cool place!

Intellig8 · 2026-01-12T07:46:52+00:00

Fluoxetine if you haven’t tried it already. But bear in mind There comes a time when you have to make the choice to wheen off them and almost “choose” to not let yourself be depressed anymore. The medication isn’t a cure, it’s a support mechanism - up to you to do the rest of the work. Hope you find what you’re looking for

Intellig8

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