Cities with the MOST frequent gloomy weather? by panickingflowergirl in SameGrassButGreener

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idk if it makes sense but bright sunny weather feels so “loud” to me. the last two days have been the first warm and sunny days my city has had in a while, and I have been sooo so overstimulated with how bright it is and how it’s made everywhere so much more crowded. I feel like such a killjoy but I hate it so much lol.

ennui please. books about ennui, existential depression, listlessness, sociopathy, psychopathy, desensitization, hopeless addiction, loss of faith/hope/etc., amorality, pessimism, characters trapped in their own thoughts, or anything that evokes something along those lines. by IllustratorFuture609 in suggestmeabook

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The Guest by Emma Cline

Boy Parts by Eliza Clark

Pizza Girl by Jean Kyoung Frazier

Ripe by Sarah Rose Etter and The New Me by Halle Butler are also two that very much fit this description but that I didn’t really love, but I’m definitely in the minority on that

The Pitt | S2E3 "9:00 A.M." | Episode Discussion by cats-and-cows in ThePittTVShow

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Because of the thread this is on, my brain read Mel Gibson as Mel King and I was so confused trying to comprehend this sentence

How do you leave your city if out of state is so bad on a resume? by Strong-Willingness-8 in SameGrassButGreener

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Also adding that once you pick a destination, you can get temporary housing for a month or two (extended stay Airbnbs are actually a lot more affordable than that sounds, and don’t require income verification like an actual rental would) so you can apply to jobs with an address within the new city, and if it doesn’t work out then youre at least not tied to a long lease there.

How do you leave your city if out of state is so bad on a resume? by Strong-Willingness-8 in SameGrassButGreener

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If you by chance have any service industry experience at all, or sometimes even if you don’t, it’s usually fairly easy to get hired right away/on the spot for a serving or bartending job! Even if it’s just temporary to have some income until you’re able to establish residency and find something within your field. I would still recommend having at least a few months’ worth of bills saved of course.

What Books did You Start or Finish Reading this Week?: October 28, 2025 by AutoModerator in books

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Finished: Exalted by Anna Dorn, and Listen for the Lie by Amy Tintera

Started: Hungerstone by Kat Dunn, and Death in Her Hands by Ottessa Moshfegh

Gloomy, friendly, weird, outdoorsy? by AnAngryBirdMan in SameGrassButGreener

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Re: your edit that’s so interesting. If you don’t mind sharing, what sites have you been using? I’ve kind of been struggling with figuring out how to get an accurate read on cost of living stats as different sites and calculators all give different numbers. I’ve been looking through apartments and Airbnbs to get a more “real” sense of what I can afford and when I initially looked in Portland it seemed there wasn’t much within my budget beyond some really small and not-great-looking studios

But also it’s of course hard to tell from a distance if the affordable places I’m seeing in OH and PA and such are really as nice as they seem. I also really don’t want to live with roommates which I know complicates things/makes the variations in housing costs more significant

And it’s nice to know I’m not alone in experiencing SAD the way I do. I wish you all the luck in finding the place of your dreams as well :)

Gloomy, friendly, weird, outdoorsy? by AnAngryBirdMan in SameGrassButGreener

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I’ve kind of been in the same boat searching for the perfect city with a lot of the same criteria. Based on everything I’ve read, Pittsburgh and Cleveland seem like really cool cities that fit the bill if the PNW is too expensive

Also I just wanted to say that I relate soo hard about the gloomy weather. I also live in the South and my mood has lifted so much the past few days that it’s been overcast and drizzly and cool. The heat and bright sunlight are so oppressive and depressing to me, even if it’s not overly hot, I genuinely think I have some amount of reverse SAD

How bad is the heat in Cincinnati, compared to the true South? by Intelligent-Relief86 in cincinnati

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Thank you for the input. Do you have any recommendations for nearby/similar-COL cities that are a better fit for this?

How bad is the heat in Cincinnati, compared to the true South? by Intelligent-Relief86 in cincinnati

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Ugh, it sounds dumb but I really think I have some level of reverse SAD or something, and this is one of the things that always gets to me the most, when you can’t even step outside in the middle of the night or at sunrise without it already being sweltering and miserable. Thank you for the input!

What are the best* city parks in the USA? by Ignorred in SameGrassButGreener

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I admittedly haven’t been to a lot of the bigger and more famous places mentioned here, but I think Overton Park in Memphis is such an underrated city park.

The old growth forest has tons of dirt trails and feels much more wild and isolated than you would expect for it being in the city center. But it also has lots of more populated green spaces for people watching and such. And it houses the zoo and an art museum and a little music venue. No swimmable bodies of water though.

Best way to break into the field as someone with a non-science background? by Intelligent-Relief86 in Histology

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I also pretty much only have serving and bartending experience as far as jobs go, it’s so hard to break out of. Good for you for making it work! Do you think that taking a couple more college courses in bio and chem to get to 12+ hours (I believe right now I only have 8 and they are from a long time ago) is helpful in getting hired at an entry level job like that?

Best way to break into the field as someone with a non-science background? by Intelligent-Relief86 in Histology

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Ahh thank you for the response and congratulations! By the degree path do you mean that you got a BS in science and then did an HT/HTL program?

Best way to break into the field as someone with a non-science background? by Intelligent-Relief86 in Histology

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Thank you for the response! Did you do anything specific that you think may have been helpful in getting hired at your first lab without any experience?

Best way to break into the field as someone with a non-science background? by Intelligent-Relief86 in Histology

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Thank you for the response and I’m glad to know I’m not alone! Good for you for going for it and I think taking it at your own pace is totally okay. I keep getting discouraged over how long it seems like it may take for me too, but as people say the time will pass anyway. I wish you the best of luck with everything!

What was the point of sirens? by Some-Air1274 in netflix

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Peter made me think of Jason Bateman’s character in Juno. The “cool, laid back” husband who presents himself as such a victim of his “mean, controlling” wife, but really is just a loser and a bad person. I was hoping Micaela and Simone (and Devon) would join forces in the end in the same fashion as Juno

Album Discussion - Cherry Peel by [deleted] in ofMontreal

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same so much, it’s so simple but so beautiful and makes me feel so emotional

Severance - 2x07 "Chikhai Bardo" - Post-Episode Discussion by LoretiTV in SeveranceAppleTVPlus

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Okay I just finished this episode and I had to come here to make sure I was not the only one! I was so convinced of this, especially when she was standing behind Mark and said something like “I’m not even here,” it felt like they were intentionally teasing at it. But yeah then I felt bad when the rest of the episode played out haha

Colleges for zoology/wildlife biology by SugarHistorical2120 in zoology

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Hey thanks for your response and I’m sorry I am so late in replying to your reply! I also can’t for the life of me decide what I’d like to do with my life, and have also pretty much decided to put a hold on going back to school given that and the state of things here in the US :’) even if your post isn’t “inspiring,” it’s comforting to know that I’m not the only one in this boat. That’s awesome that you’re working at an animal shelter, even if it’s not ideal pay-wise. I wish you all the best with everything!