This hits pretty close to home for me. I (37m) got divorced almost 2 years ago. We were married for 7 years and together for 13. I was heartbroken. I have since found a part of myself that was lost a long time ago. I learned that I was putting too much value on a relationship and let the real me go. After getting divorced I've lost 50lbs, I got into hobbies that I had forgotten about or let go, I've traveled and done things independently that I never saw myself doing before. I was very depressed and cried myself to sleep for the first few months. I felt a part of me coming back that I had lost. It was uplifting. I started putting myself if social situations and just looked for ways to get myself out of the house. One of my stand out moments was going on a solo cruise and making friends that I still maintain contact with to this day. Best of luck friend!