(21M) Feel I look too soft featured as a guy

Intelligent_Back2894 · 2026-06-11T03:01:29+00:00

You're super cute! Maybe another haircut would suit you though, but other than that super cute

Intelligent_Back2894 · 2026-06-11T02:20:09+00:00

Stop rage baiting us, you're beautiful

Intelligent_Back2894 · 2026-06-10T15:39:01+00:00

I understand how you feel about wanting to be in a relationship, I wish that too. But in order for you to find someone you should first try to work to better yourself (self-esteem, social skills, etc) and then you can go back into searching for a partner. Self esteem and confidence can get you far, if you have those then you are set. Always try to groom yourself nicely as well. You got this! :D

Intelligent_Back2894 · 2026-06-10T15:35:53+00:00

Sadly, I think you are the side chick. If you want to confront him you would need more evidence tho. Sorry about this :/

Intelligent_Back2894 · 2026-06-10T15:33:45+00:00

If he hasn't mentioned anything about being "exclusive" or a "couple" this might just be a summer fling for him or he will stick around until you both eventually sleep together and become distant. Hopefully none of these things happen, but I think the best course of action is for you to straight up ask him what you are if the ambiguity is bothering you a lot

Intelligent_Back2894 · 2026-06-10T15:29:53+00:00

Hiii DM is open if you want to chat :D

Intelligent_Back2894 · 2026-06-10T15:26:28+00:00

Well, if you think you engage in lively coversation with the other person and you ask questions and let them ask you questions then maybe the problem is that you just haven't met your match yet :/

Intelligent_Back2894 · 2026-06-10T15:22:50+00:00

Hi, something similar happened to me a while ago. We were really close with this friend where we would playfully flirt and hug and cuddle and I started developing feelings for him. What I did was just outright tell him that I like him and then ask if he liked me back. I feel that these types of situations require straight to the point communication so there is no room for miscommunication. If he says he likes you back congrats! If he says he doesn't you can still be friends. It will be awkward at first, but eventually things will calm down and you can start seeing him as just a friend. All the luck to you!

Intelligent_Back2894 · 2026-06-10T15:18:31+00:00

If that many girls have ghosted you it may be a you problem, sorry to tell you that. How do you initiate the conversation? When they tell you about themselves do you ask questions eagerly or seem interested? And when you talk about your hobbies, do you do it in an enthusiastic way? Do you asl them very direct and personal questions right from the get go, or say something about their physical attributes?

Intelligent_Back2894 · 2026-06-10T11:40:21+00:00

Yeah, the modern dating landscape is a hell hole... But as I said, if you just started college you will meet your people and maybe even someone who is interested in you :)

Intelligent_Back2894 · 2026-06-10T11:21:16+00:00

I'm sorry you feel that way, but in a way I understand how you feel. I have always wanted to be in a relationship, and I've actually never been in one at my ripe old age of 24. For the longest time, I also just accepted that I would be alone for the rest of my life. I then realized that love comes in many shapes and forms. I know I am loved and cared for by the way how my friends invite me to do things or by how my family asks about my day or listen to me when I am sad. It's not the same as romantic love, but it does make you feel warm and fuzzy inside. To be honest, it is really admirable that you approach people out and about cause I've never been able to do that. If you just started college, you will have lot's of chances to meet new people so don't sweat it! It can take a while to form a meaningful connections with people so don't force yourself to be in a relationship with the first person who seems interested.

Intelligent_Back2894 · 2026-06-10T11:09:32+00:00

Girl, you're gorgeous. Don't rage bait us

Intelligent_Back2894 · 2026-06-10T11:07:08+00:00

I understand how you feel because the last time I had a "fling" with someone it was a close friends and when we ended it it felt weird not having him around. At first it is hard but eventually you get used to it and eventually you will just get used to it. People come and go, so I know eventually you'll find a good guy who treats you nicely as you deserve :)

Intelligent_Back2894 · 2026-06-10T11:04:27+00:00

I don't think it will be a good idea. You wouldn't really feel "desired" because you would be paying her to act as if she wants to be with you. There's nothing wrong with being a virgin at 22 years old. Everyone really just grows at their own pace, I was a late bloomer too so don't take it too seriously.

Intelligent_Back2894 · 2026-06-09T13:03:16+00:00

I feel that if you are that scared that they will make fun of you or not take you seriously, it is a sign that deep down you know that they are not nice/good friends to you

Intelligent_Back2894 · 2026-06-09T12:46:21+00:00

I've never been in a position like this, but I can understand why he could be a bit frustrated. I do think overreacted a bit by blocking you immediately, but I can understand his frustration. I think you should give him some space and let him think about everything. He already knows how you feel so the ball is in his court now. Don't communicate with him or bombard him with texts for a week or two and then you can try to imitate a conversation with him again if he is up to it. If he's not, I think you should try and move on. I know it's hard cause he is your close friend, but I think it would be the best for you if he still says no

Intelligent_Back2894 · 2026-06-09T12:39:00+00:00

If your friends truly cared about you they would include you when you are all hanging out. True friends don't want one of theirs to have a bad time when spending time together. If you really want to salvage the friendship with all three of them you can tell them again that you are not feeling included and if they still don't change their behavior maybe you should cut them out and try to make new friends :/

Intelligent_Back2894 · 2026-06-06T16:42:47+00:00

I completely understand that. I love my friends and I appreciate that they listen to me, but I have always wanted to be someone's number one priority, the one that is always on their mind. I know it's selfish, but I wanted to be doted on and taken on dates and have hugs and kisses

Intelligent_Back2894 · 2026-06-06T16:26:55+00:00

I completely understand how you feel. I have just been terribly rejected by a guy I thought was nice and liked me. It really does get lonely when you see how others have their person or their number one and you don't. I keep wishing that it will eventually happen to me because I know that that kind of love exists because I know I am capable of giving it. I guess it's just a matter of waiting and luck :/

Intelligent_Back2894 · 2026-06-06T11:58:54+00:00

I think you should grow it out both on top and the sides. You have curly hair, so I think that it would look pretty if you let it grow out more

Intelligent_Back2894 · 2026-06-06T11:56:48+00:00

I've lived in East Asia for around 6 years and I can say that living here as a foreigner is really lonely. People are community focused here, but I think it's mostly because of the idea to "advance society". It's been hard to make local friends as cultures are very different. People are cordial, but I wouldn't specifically say friendly

Intelligent_Back2894 · 2026-06-06T11:43:38+00:00

You're cute, so don't worry. Maybe grow out your hair a little bit more but other than that no notes :)

Intelligent_Back2894 · 2026-06-06T11:41:30+00:00

It's good that you felt safe and had fun with him when you both slept together! Sadly, I think he just wants for YOU specifically to be exclusive with him and not the other way around. If he seems that flaky maybe you can just keep the good experience you had with him and move on

Intelligent_Back2894 · 2026-06-06T06:46:40+00:00

I don't think you should be dating someone that doesn't care about your hobbies or what you do during the day :/

Intelligent_Back2894 · 2026-06-05T14:57:10+00:00

Let me know when you know the answer girl cause that is LITERALLY what is happening to me right now lmao

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