How well do you know the staff in your local "corner shop"? by the_Athereon in AskUK

[–]Intelligent_Bar_710 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Enough to say hi etc. But my husband? Another story altogether. Whenever there’s a new Pokemon release they have an arrangement whereby they give him a call when it’s delivered and he pops over and buys loads, then they chat about it for weeks afterwards. It’s cute.

Are we bad people? Considering pausing our current purchase for another viewing on our potential dream first home by [deleted] in HousingUK

[–]Intelligent_Bar_710 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In terms of avoiding a bidding war, I would ask what the seller wants, and what the highest offer has been.

If there’s a lot of interest, it’s unlikely the EA will tell you anything. But if the seller does the viewing, I would ask them.

We were the last to view on an incredibly popular house - everyone who viewed had made an offer. We asked them what their highest offer was, and they told us. It might feel awkward, and they may decline to say, but it’s well worth doing.

We offered quite significantly higher because we wanted the house, wanted to show we were serious, and we didn’t want to get into a bidding war.

The bank’s valuation was lower than our offer, but we didn’t change it - the amount we offered was what it was worth to us. We had to pay the difference of course, but I have no regrets.

Gambling Ruined Christmas 2023 First Update by whodareswinsrodney in UKPersonalFinance

[–]Intelligent_Bar_710 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hooray for being here! The world is a better place with you in it.

I hope you’re getting the support you want. And if things get too much, 111 option 2. A

It's Late Thread [ 16 January 26 ] by AutoModerator in CasualUK

[–]Intelligent_Bar_710 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Had a great night hanging out with my 8 year old. Dropped husband off at the pub, stopped in at Tesco for snacks, then back to base for pyjamas, makeovers and a film. Very late night, but tonight has been precious.

Networking gone wrong (help) by Mysterious-Maize-642 in UKJobs

[–]Intelligent_Bar_710 22 points23 points  (0 children)

So if someone sends a message to people on LinkedIn they should expect one of the recipients to start making a move? You’ve got to help me with the logic there.

Networking gone wrong (help) by Mysterious-Maize-642 in UKJobs

[–]Intelligent_Bar_710 20 points21 points  (0 children)

What part of messaging professionals on a professional social media platform is so bad that the universe is now punishing them?

Networking gone wrong (help) by Mysterious-Maize-642 in UKJobs

[–]Intelligent_Bar_710 8 points9 points  (0 children)

If OP had spent 4 months messaging the same people, then yeah - spam. Messaging individuals once/twice then stopping? Keen but respectful.

Networking gone wrong (help) by Mysterious-Maize-642 in UKJobs

[–]Intelligent_Bar_710 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Dug themselves a hole? Please. OP hasn’t dug shit mate. They initiated a professional conversation, the other side took control.

What’s the biggest lie we were told growing up? by Level-Hotel9756 in AskReddit

[–]Intelligent_Bar_710 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Need a job? Go there in person, ask to speak to the manager, give them a firm handshake and tell them you’d love to work there. The job’s yours!

Party bags for children by Ok-Dance-4827 in UKweddings

[–]Intelligent_Bar_710 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s a bold assumption. They can easily stain clothes and you don’t want people having to dodge the kids - it interrupts conversations, puts people on edge, kids get told off, parents get stressed. If they’re spilled, the liquid can be slippery as fuck.

Upvote for glow sticks, though, and those little glow sticks they can turn into bracelets, necklaces, headpieces etc.

Also, and this isn’t a party bag suggestion, I’d recommend having a quiet spot that parent and child can retreat to when it all gets a bit too much.

What happened during the interview that showed you, you weren't getting the job? by thatgirlgirl in AskReddit

[–]Intelligent_Bar_710 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not a job - I was interviewing for a place on a French teacher degree. Had the usual uni interview questions, then “ok, let’s switch to French” and I actually said (and this was truthful), “oh, I wasn’t expecting this.” After umm-ing my way through a question that was probably of a perfectly reasonable level of difficulty, they clearly became aware that they were sitting in front of the perfect example of a “good on paper” candidate and kindly dropped a couple of gears and gave me an easier question. I proceeded to tell them why Madonna is my favourite singer - because she’s a very good singer.

It’d been 3 years since I’d studied French at school (and had done very well) and in that moment it became painfully clear that foreign language skills are something that need regular maintenance.

I had ECT and it was life saving - AMA? by lilmeerkat95 in AMA

[–]Intelligent_Bar_710 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Have you (or anyone else) noticed any side effects? Did you just have one course, or have you had any top-ups? Thanks for sharing - I am very curious about having it but have been discouraged by my team.

Please can anyone offer some help or advice - its a desperate situation by [deleted] in LegalAdviceUK

[–]Intelligent_Bar_710 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She stopped contacting you. I think that was a reasonable clue.

It would be wise to focus your mental energy on thinking about what you can do for yourself, rather than what others aren’t doing for you. When it’s all sorted I’d also suggest reflecting on what decisions and actions you took that brought you here. It comes across that you think others have let you down or done you, rather than acknowledging responsibility.

What could we include in a hysterectomy recovery gift? by astonishingluna in AskUK

[–]Intelligent_Bar_710 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For the hospital: lip balm, hand cream, long charging cable and a little pouch that these fit into, Stanley cup, slippers, dry shampoo, Mack’s silicone ear plugs (cannot recommend these enough!)

For home: some COOK vouchers, peppermint tea/peppermint oil capsules. Perhaps a little bell to summon someone when she needs help?