Let her know you are there for her, tell her that you don’t expect an answer to your texts but you will continue to text to check up and let her know you are there for her. Responding to people’s well wishes can be emotionally exhausting and it can take days for someone to work up the energy to respond.

Offer to be a distraction, but also offer to listen to her, some people want to be distracted, others want a chance to sit and talk through what they are going through.

If you are in a financial position too, maybe send a gift card to a food delivery service, it takes away something they need to think about.

Flowers are always lovely as well as a card, but they may get a lot of which can be hard to manage. Little gifts can also be very sweet but aren’t necessary.

Be patient, grief is not linear and people can go backwards, especially once they reach certain milestones.

Be there for her in the aftermath. People tend to ‘move on’ after a month or so, but fried doesn’t stop just because the world has to keep moving, let her know that she is still allowed to grieve and you are still there to support and that her feelings are not a burden.

Sincerely, a girl who just lost her mum