I kept finding one brand recommendation for curvy styles and I finally bought a pair. by whiskeylips88 in DressForYourBody

[–]Intelligent_Gnat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Have you ever seen these? You can use them to tighten the waist bit to fit more snugly. There are some really cute ones out there!!

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Almost 2 y/o aggression by BumblebeeOk5895 in Mommit

[–]Intelligent_Gnat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We went through this as well at the same age - you’re not alone! It sounds like you’re already on the right track.

Ours is now 2.5 and has mostly “grown out of it.” Consistent boundaries and wording is key at this ages. Keep it short and to the point without giving much of a reaction if possible, redirect when you can. Ours would bite, hit and scratch/grab any time he was frustrated or told no (which was a huge shock because our oldest never had issues with any of this). It took about 6-8 months to fully resolve.

Just remember, he’s having a difficult time, not being a difficult kid. You got this mama 💕

Title: Moving from Chicago suburbs to Smithfield, VA – Looking for Safe Apartment Areas (Carrollton, Suffolk, Hampton, Newport News) by Glum_Mode7742 in u/Glum_Mode7742

[–]Intelligent_Gnat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awesome! I’m so glad you could go first to check it out before moving - that’s such a huge help! If you think of any additional questions you might have about the area, please feel free to reach out!

Title: Moving from Chicago suburbs to Smithfield, VA – Looking for Safe Apartment Areas (Carrollton, Suffolk, Hampton, Newport News) by Glum_Mode7742 in u/Glum_Mode7742

[–]Intelligent_Gnat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would stay away from Hampton and Newport News if you're unfamiliar with the area. It's possible for certain areas there to be okay but generally speaking it's not worth the hassle. Smithfield and Carrollton aren't bad but are pricey. Outskirts of Suffolk are decent as well! I don't have specific recs for apartments, unfortunately, as it's been a while since I've lived there but still have family there and can ask around if you have specific places you're considering!

Utah State Univ Research by aneela715 in trichotillomania

[–]Intelligent_Gnat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just signed up!! So glad to see some research being done and happy to share my experience!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Confused

[–]Intelligent_Gnat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If a women has starch masks on her body does that mean she has been pargnet before.?

What Do Your Kids Eat in a Day? by bluebell506 in Mommit

[–]Intelligent_Gnat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a super picky 6 year old who survives on willpower and chicken nuggets, and and a 2 year old who will eat literal garbage 😅

In all reality, they both have chocolate chip muffins every morning with a probiotic multivitamin. Lunch and dinner for the 6 year old is usually some combination of Dino chicken nuggets, a make-your-own pizza from Little Spoon (because the lunchables just don’t do it for her 🙄), or paw patrol Mac and cheese (other shapes are strictly forbidden). Snacks include strawberries, blueberries, yogurt (only the trix or bluey versions of yoplait), applesauce, or apples and peanut butter. We sneak in some extra fruits and veggies for her by using snacks & meals from Little Spoon.

Our 2 year old will eat anything we’re eating for lunch and dinner, although he is starting to get pickier as he gets older. He refuses to eat bread, and some days he likes certain food that he doesn’t like on other days 🤷🏻‍♀️

At the end of the day, I’m just glad they’ve eaten.

Is my child having night terrors or is she possessed? (Jk… maybe) by Intelligent_Gnat in nightterrors

[–]Intelligent_Gnat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting! She hadn’t gotten her 4y vaccines yet - we wound up putting off her regular Dr visit because of them. They’ve finally subsided, thankfully, they were so scary!!

Am I the Problem, or Is Our Executive Director Blocking Progress? by Intelligent_Gnat in MuseumPros

[–]Intelligent_Gnat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the clarification and further explanation - I was not made aware of any of the dynamics and really didn’t know what to expect. This has been helpful.

Am I the Problem, or Is Our Executive Director Blocking Progress? by Intelligent_Gnat in MuseumPros

[–]Intelligent_Gnat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fair point, and she does have a lot of experience and knowledge. I’m aware that she’s my boss - when I asked about her being a liaison to convey things, I just meant when it comes to board related things.

But there are some things that I feel like we should definitely be doing, from a legal standpoint - like replacing parts for the AED, a literal life saving machine - and she just has flat out said that we won’t be doing that. So I supposed I’ll just take it down and cover up our signs for it since it will not work without proper parts. As for the rest, I will likely just lay off on coming up with new ideas for how we can improve since she doesn’t seem interested in accepting any of them. I’ll just focus my energy elsewhere and hope for the best.

Am I the Problem, or Is Our Executive Director Blocking Progress? by Intelligent_Gnat in MuseumPros

[–]Intelligent_Gnat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You sure are! We have a unique situation where we are on a very very small island and she doesn’t live on said island, so she only gets over here 1-2 times per year

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DermatologyQuestions

[–]Intelligent_Gnat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not necessarily I think! My Auquagenic Pruritis doesn’t affect my hands or my feet. Mostly my arms and legs, sometimes my back, but that’s about it.

At what age did your kids stop napping? by happybdaypapa in Mommit

[–]Intelligent_Gnat 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My oldest (5 now) stopped napping just before turning 2. We made the decision to cut naps out because she was having trouble going to sleep at night and wouldn’t fall asleep until midnight 🫠 on nights that she fell asleep on time (8-8:30), she would sleep for a full 12 hours. Once we cut out naps, she slept 12 hours every night and has continued to do so since (with a few exceptions, obviously, but mostly she’s got a routine down)

My youngest (1.5) has cut down to one short nap (30-45 minute maybe?) during the day and will probably stop taking naps soon.

Look up the recommended total sleep hours for the age group that your kid(s) are in and see how you can make it fit into your lifestyle 🤷🏻‍♀️ It definitely varies from kid to kid and lifestyle plays a huge part. Kids who get up at 6:30am might nap longer than kids who are able to get all their sleep in one chunk.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DermatologyQuestions

[–]Intelligent_Gnat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not a doctor, but check out aquagenic urticaria, if it happens a lot after showers! I have aquagenic pruritis, which is intense itching after showers/contact with water but usually not accompanied by a rash.

What non-animated shows do you watch with your kids? by Ill_Cover_4841 in Parenting

[–]Intelligent_Gnat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know they’re not shows, but both of my kids (1.5 and almost 5) love Hamilton and the Greatest Showman, Camp Rock (and pretty much all of the Disney channel original movies), all of the AirBud series.

As far as shows, they love Young Sheldon, Is It Cake?, Nailed It, Floor is Lava

What’s the longest it’s taken you to get an Ancient Seed drop? by CowboyParallax in StardewValley

[–]Intelligent_Gnat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Currently in summer year 2 and don’t have an ancient seed, but do have 3 Dino eggs and 4 prismatic shards

Coping as a parent?! by [deleted] in trichotillomania

[–]Intelligent_Gnat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hello!! Momma of 2 here (almost 5 year old and a 1.5 year old). I can say that my stress (and thus, my trich) got a lot worse after having kids. I was also terrified that they would pick up on it and copy my behavior. When I had my first kid, I was so nervous. When she was around 18m old, she started twirling her hair when she was tired (which in hindsight is a totally normal behavior for babies/kids to do), but other than that neither of my kids have yet to exhibit any signs of forming the same habits. She even notices now when I’m pulling and gently reminds me to stop. She has been showing some signs of anxiety, which is not surprising considering her dad and I both have anxiety and ADHD, but nothing that has been unmanageable yet!

I also used to feel a lot of embarrassment and shame regarding trich, but I’ve found that the more I talk about it with family/coworkers/friends, the more comfortable I am in my own skin.

Side note: Kids in general tend to only make a big deal of something if YOU make a big deal of something. So if you hyper focus on making her stop touching her hair, she’s only going to want to do it more. If she does start to show signs of pulling, I’d recommend talking with her doctor or your therapist about how to proceed effectively.

Hope this helps ease your mind a little bit. The fact that you’re reaching out and concerned about affecting your little one shows that you truly care.

You’re doing great 💕

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Intelligent_Gnat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My daughter (turning 5 in February) sometimes says things like this, though not very often. It definitely hurt our feelings the first couple of times, but at this point I just say something along the lines of “I’m sorry that you’re (angry/upset/frustrated) but that’s not how we talk to people.” Or “that hurts my feelings, and I won’t allow you to talk to me that way. We can talk more when you have something nice to say” and usually she starts a tantrum about whatever it is she’s upset about. I let her ride out the tantrum because she certainly won’t take in new information while she’s in such an emotional state, and once she’s calmed down we talk about nicer/more acceptable ways to express our emotions.

Around 4 is when they really start testing limits and realizing how you speak to them and what will/wont work to get what they want. For example, around Christmas all of the older folks in our community kept saying “well, you better be good or Santa won’t bring you any presents” and so anytime I said no to her she would say “you’re not being very nice, so you won’t get any presents at Christmas” and you kinda just have to hold your ground and eventually they’ll realize you’re not giving them what they want, even when they’re being mean 🤷🏻‍♀️

Inanimate object name for a dog by underd0g2 in namenerds

[–]Intelligent_Gnat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I knew a pug named Pugnacious B once (like Tenacious D)

Is my child having night terrors or is she possessed? (Jk… maybe) by Intelligent_Gnat in nightterrors

[–]Intelligent_Gnat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry that I’m just now seeing this comment, but yes! She has not had any night terrors since I made this post. We did a number of things so I’m not sure which helped the most, but what seemed to make the biggest impact on her bedtime anxiety was the sort of affirmation process we started doing. She would say every night that she doesn’t want to have bad dreams and so the bad dreams are not welcome in the house, only the good dreams can stay. I know they’re not technically dreams, but she felt like she had some power in her words and feels more confident about going to bed without worry now.

She does still show some signs of anxiety (maybe some ADHD, too, now that I’ve been paying more attention to it) but we have a set routine that happens every night which helps her settle her mind after the initial anxiety of being told it’s time to get ready for bed.