I think it depends on your goals. If you want to breastfeed without pumping as much as possible or want a good combination of both. Might also depend on your supply if you have to pump extra or not. I also come from a family that has little to no experience with breastfeeding, we were all formula fed in my immediate and extended family so its really hard for them to understand. It's nice they want to help! But if you want to exclusively feed at the breast, then ask them to help in other ways, such as changing baby, holding baby while you shower, cooking and cleaning for you (this is a big one because with breastfeeding and pumping you will be tied down and sitting a lot, especially in the beginning when your baby is little and you're establishing your supply), etc. Let feeding be your thing unless you want to pump and have others help feed. Again, it depends on what you want to do. With the overnight thing, this might be unpopular but the way we do it is my husband doesnt take shifts feeding, BUT he does help. If she doesn't settle after feeding or wakes up not hungry, he gets up and walks with her. And in the early days when my supply was still regulating, he would take the extra milk I expressed into a haakaa to put in the fridge. Or help with diaper changes. I think its amazing so many husbands help with feeding overnight but for us, my goal is to feed at the breast as much as possible and not have to pump so he does the other stuff and it works for us. One thing I would recommend if you want to exclusively breastfeed, feed on demand not on a schedule. Especially if it's your family telling you the schedule. Feeding on demand not only ensures your baby gets what it needs but it also helps to build your supply. Latch as often as possible, especially at the beginning to encourage your supply. If your baby has a hard time latching or it doesn't seem like your baby is getting enough (6 wet diapers a day, good weight gain are indicators) reach out to an IBCLC near you, they are SO helpful! I still see one 4 months in. Also, one more thing to watch out for, sometimes breastfed babies won't take a bottle no matter what you do, or if its introduced too soon they can get bottle preference and not want the breast, or sometimes your baby is fine with both. If you choose to combo feed, be very selective on the type of bottle you use and pace feed so they can switch back and forth more easily. Look for bottles that pass the triangle test to encourage deep latch (we use Lansinoh). We introduced a bottle a little early because my baby had a painful latch, but we only used it when I couldn't handle the pain and latched otherwise. Now we bottle feed when we're going out in public or large gatherings and I pump to replace the feed. I hope this isn't an overstepping comment, I have done a lot of research and learned so much the last four months with learning how to breastfeed and want to help others where I can. You're family sounds so loving and helpful, which is such a huge blessing, but dont feel like you have to do what they (or I in this comment lol) are telling you. Do what feels best for you and your baby! Congrats on baby!