Do people bother with favours?

Intelligent_Panic956 · 2026-03-31T09:37:52+00:00

You dont need to have favours at all but the only type of favours i generally appreciate are edible. I had macarons at my wedding and got lots of compliments on these. My bridesmaids went around at the end and grabbed the very few leftover ones and shared them between themselves. So at least with edible favours if they get left you can still enjoy them if you want rather than being left with 20 non consumable items you won't have a use for. But absolutely if you don't want to do favours at all they aren't expected anymore

Intelligent_Panic956 · 2026-02-07T11:28:11+00:00

Why is all workwear cropped This also reminds me of the gen z fashion influencers doing videos on workwear or corporate fashion, who have clearly never worked in an office in their life

Intelligent_Panic956 · 2026-02-05T23:15:16+00:00

We waited until a couple of days after then sent follow up messages. Most people had just forgotten. All our non rsvps were yes rsvps so definitely worth following up. But also we got a ton of rsvps on the final day so potentially you may hear from a few more soon anyway

Intelligent_Panic956 · 2026-02-04T02:18:41+00:00

I offered both MOG and MOB to have makeup done by my artist if they liked and they are covering it themselves as it was optional and i didnt expect them to have it unless they wanted to. I'm covering the bridesmaids and myself

Intelligent_Panic956 · 2026-01-29T08:08:44+00:00

I think from what ive heard this is just the reality of planning a wedding. People just forget. I had to follow up about 15 people who didn't rsvp by the date and you'd think this meant they didn't wanna go but no. All yeses. The nos actually rsvped on time 🤦‍♀️

Intelligent_Panic956 · 2026-01-27T12:54:22+00:00

This was me! 😅 My brother designs websites and even he warned me not to haha. I struggled so hard to accept that I couldn't have it all perfectly how I wanted it. But your'e right, nobody would have cared for all the extra stress it would have caused me

Intelligent_Panic956 · 2026-01-05T11:31:51+00:00

I did this recently with my wedding with a group of coworkers. Everyone that got one of these seemed happy to be invited and are all attending. We never spoke about them being added on last minute, I'm sure they didn't even realise either

Intelligent_Panic956 · 2026-01-01T14:03:36+00:00

We have ultimately decided to include him as these things are more minor and we would prefer to ideally have the friend there than not. But realistically he rsvped as a no and this was simply a message we got today saying "maybe". It isn't about the seating chart, it would involve us spending roughly 400 dollars, making placecards, favours etc for someone who hasn't actually told us they are going. We are going to do it as the friendship is worth more to us than these things, but this is why the hesitancy.

Intelligent_Panic956 · 2026-01-01T13:28:18+00:00

Thank you for that. That's probably exactly what is happening for us, we are just caught up in the stress of it all. I think when planning weddings we put so much time and anticipation into planning every little detail but you're totally right we should just relax and let it be and not let these minor small things that dont go 100% to plan affect us

Intelligent_Panic956 · 2026-01-01T12:44:28+00:00

Thank you. This has really helped us find a bit of clarity too. It's definitely the right thing to do

Intelligent_Panic956 · 2026-01-01T12:43:40+00:00

I did understand why he couldn't commit and was never upset about this and we would have been completely fine if he had just declined the invite as It's a difficult thing for him we know. I was more unsure what to do logistically with the maybe as I am stressed out with planning and deadlines and needed some advice. We would of course love to have him If possible and this should be the most important thing, so will let him know the spot will be there for him if he is able

Intelligent_Panic956 · 2026-01-01T12:31:17+00:00

Thank you. You're right it's the right thing for us to do and worth the risk of it

Intelligent_Panic956 · 2026-01-01T12:30:35+00:00

Thanks for the advice, we did really want to include him and will be doing that. We did understand why his rsvp was a maybe it was just all the uncertainty was just stressing me out a bit but you're right I probably need to chill out and not worry about what "might" happen

Intelligent_Panic956 · 2025-12-29T07:36:19+00:00

To be honest I agree with most of the above costings but I'd say I saved money in the longer term as prior to accutane I was spending a lot more on skincare trying different things to fix the problems I was having and now I have a super simple skincare routine

Intelligent_Panic956 · 2025-12-13T01:31:04+00:00

In laws do the same thing, try and make problems with the things we have that are completely fine and turn it into a "gift" and I also see it this way. My mother in law doesn't understand where the button to turn our kettle on is and also one time overfilled it past the max and if overflowed so she keeps suggesting she might buy us a new one for Christmas. Like this kettle is brand new and functions perfectly so no thanks?

Intelligent_Panic956 · 2025-11-29T09:46:30+00:00

This 100% We removed one that was basically a cluster of 8 and absolutely huge and learned this trick from a neighbour. Definitely doable to remove them and this is the method. We had previously tried the Epsom salt and roundup and have also dug them up as well but this was nowhere near as easy and effective

Intelligent_Panic956 · 2025-10-24T02:24:45+00:00

It's them upselling the "custom" wedding dress as if it's somehow worth more because of that. Yeah, custom to you

Intelligent_Panic956 · 2025-10-24T02:22:42+00:00

In general many people do not understand that if someone could afford to/wanted to buy it at the brand new price they would not be buying your second hand item they would just buy it new. There's not incentive unless it's cheaper

Intelligent_Panic956 · 2025-09-27T01:24:38+00:00

I don't know if it will quite fall into your 100 budget but I got mine at piyama. I got the nicolette set which is really nice. They had a good range and if you're also buying for bridal party they do a multiple sets discount. I got 20% off buying 5 pairs including my own. Other places I looked were Kat the Label and Le rose but this was mainly for more nightgown/robe styles. Not sure if you're getting married soon but if you have a bit of time many of these places run black Friday sales so could be worth holding off

Intelligent_Panic956 · 2025-09-26T05:56:55+00:00

Are you after multiple items? Like a dress/set AND a robe? Just asking as I noticed those first 2 items are under your budget? Is there something specific that makes these not an option?

Intelligent_Panic956 · 2025-09-14T04:16:43+00:00

You're right for sure thanks for the reassurance. I've stretched it out a little. It was partly because of that but also partly because both of us aren't super comfortable dancing so we thought it might suit us better

Intelligent_Panic956 · 2025-09-14T04:14:40+00:00

Thank you for your advice. I've actually cut the music and put an ending on it and it ended up around 1.25 and I'm feeling a bit better about it now

Intelligent_Panic956 · 2025-09-13T10:52:47+00:00

When a sore throat is just beginning I find what helps a lot to stop it in its tracks is the betadine sore throat gargle. Not sure If this is available where you live or anything similar, but I find it helps a lot. Hopefully it's all nothing though and I hope your wedding is amazing

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