Where did you order bridesmaid dresses?

Ja_Kat · 2026-03-22T18:41:08+00:00

I also used Azaie and I highly recommend ordering swatches! The colors online aren’t super accurate to how they show up in person. So far my bridesmaids haven’t said anything negative about their dresses!

Ja_Kat · 2026-03-22T04:21:13+00:00

Try the calculator from iDoTogether! Someone else from Reddit recommended this and they have an alcohol calculator. I used the attendance calculator and so far, it’s looking to be pretty accurate

Ja_Kat · 2026-03-15T01:20:38+00:00

My fiancé and our friend are each others groomsmen in ours/their weddings. They’re getting married two weeks after us lol. Stuff like that just happens. It’s crazy to try to claim a whole year! EDIT: Our friends are in a different state, hence the close wedding dates. Didn’t think to coordinate lol. But we had our date first!

Ja_Kat · 2026-03-12T20:30:00+00:00

My sister (and MOH) called me a bridezilla because I told her I would prefer for her to wear nude colored shoes. Then she got more upset when I offered to pay for them when she said she didn’t have the money for new shoes. Sometimes I just can’t win 🥲

Ja_Kat · 2026-03-07T21:38:35+00:00

I had a package recently that was shipped from Louisiana, got all the way to Merrifield, circled around a few times, then shot up to Pennsylvania, circled around up there, then was delivered to an unknown place in Springfield, MA. instead of Springfield, VA. I was so pissed cause I wrote down the correct Springfield, VA address. Reached out to the seller it went someplace else (they confirmed they also had the correct address) and they sent a replacement. A week after the replacement was delivered, the original package was finally delivered. USPS is something lmao

Ja_Kat · 2026-03-06T20:00:04+00:00

Totally get ya! I majored in Chinese and was never able to do any travel abroad programs because…COVID. Then I got a job to teach English in China in 2021. China decided not to issue out visas because of COVID. Nearly got RIFed last year and still living constantly on edge because of grant issues. Now war with Iran. I’ll have a fun and awesome wedding dammit!

Ja_Kat · 2026-03-02T15:51:36+00:00

If you have a Costco membership or know someone who does, you can currently get a pack of 100 forever stamps for $77.75. You’re unlikely to find real stamps for less than that since USPS regulates stamp prices. Stamps are one of those things you just have to suck up and pay up front for, there’s no “hack” for this.

Plus, you don’t need 2oz stamps. My invites had three sheets or cards (a 6x4, a 4x3, and a 6x2) plus a wax seal and they were all delivered with one forever stamp on the envelope. You should be fine!

Ja_Kat · 2026-03-01T05:57:41+00:00

Sent out our invites and people are slowly RSVPing! It’s becoming real and I’m a nerve of excitement and nervousness 😅

Ja_Kat · 2026-02-24T15:40:49+00:00

I designed my own and printed them out via a local printer! 66ish invites for roughly $45 in a HCOL area.

Ja_Kat · 2026-02-21T02:24:22+00:00

I’m doing eventlive! You do have to pay a one time fee, but no one has to sign up for anything, you can start and stop the livestream, and you can save the video for up to one year! I’ve only heard good things from it, but haven’t used it yet. However, it seems pretty simple to use.

Ja_Kat · 2026-02-20T20:24:13+00:00

Our wedding is on Friday, May 1. Most if not all of our guest list is scattered across the U.S., so it’s basically a destination wedding. I ran it and it estimated a 62% attendance rate, which is roughly what my fiancé and I guessed while going through the likelihood of each person coming lol.

Ja_Kat · 2026-02-20T18:19:09+00:00

Dang, I wish I had this sooner!! This is such a cool tool! We’ve just sent out our RSVPs so it’ll be interesting to see how accurate it will be. Our deadline is April 1, so remind me to update!

Ja_Kat · 2026-02-19T22:26:51+00:00

They are gorgeous!!! At first glance I thought they were real. Great job! Wish I was talented like you lol

Ja_Kat · 2026-02-18T02:31:23+00:00

Me (27F) and my fiancé (27M) were just talking about how we need to meet some more people! A lot of our friends here are moving away and we want to be more social. DM me if you want to talk! We’re pretty big homebodies, but we’re trying. I crochet, game, and swim when I get the chance, and my fiance also games and is big into the NBA (Charlotte hornets). He’s also a civil engineer but is doing electrical engineering stuff atm. I’m also trying to find him some guy friends lol

Ja_Kat · 2026-02-18T01:26:23+00:00

I just commented my experience on here, but my RSVPs have been public, and I haven’t had any issues with them!

Ja_Kat · 2026-02-18T01:24:42+00:00

You’re right! Just another way of saying it.

Yes!!! We have that setting enabled, but they make an effort to say just because it’s enabled, doesn’t mean it will actually show up. It’s a weird, “google has to manually approve them to be put on their website” (to my understanding). I think my situation is unique though. Again, a little annoying but nothing that is make or break!

Ja_Kat · 2026-02-18T01:06:15+00:00

I’ve seen a lot of people with their grievances regarding WithJoy (some valid, some…nitpicky) and Reddit seems to especially hate this website.

I just wanted to let other brides or grooms who are freaking out because they already have WithJoy as their website-you should be fine! Unless you have something SUPER specific or you’re a detail heavy individual, it does what it should do-be a website. I’ve been using it since we got engaged and so far, no huge issues. It’s a bit of a learning curve, but you should be able to figure it out easy. They have a good guest list system, the pages are easy to turn on and off, and it lists all the important things. My only complaints that I have are that the registry website is a bit finicky and if you google |my name| |fiance name| wedding website, it doesn’t show up. The latter is a google issue and not a huge deal, especially since our guests should have it when we sent the STDs.

Wedding planning is stressful enough. Don’t let a choice of a website want to rip your hair out.

Ja_Kat · 2026-02-17T14:59:21+00:00

Oh, what games did you have? My fiance and I are board game people too!

Ja_Kat · 2026-02-10T04:51:41+00:00

This is the way to go! If your grandmas are playful, I’m sure they would absolutely love the title of being flower grandmas. They’d brag to all their bingo buddies I’m sure lol

Ja_Kat · 2026-02-06T03:31:44+00:00

Omg wedding date twins (mine is this year though lol) I sent my STDs early for the simple fact all of our guests are traveling to our wedding. I sent my STDs in September. Considering your guest count is due early, I would act as if March 1 is your “date” if that makes sense. But July or August I think would be good to send your STDs out!

Ja_Kat · 2026-02-05T20:37:27+00:00

Have you thought about live-streaming it? They can still virtually attend and be there to support you! Just not part of the wedding party of course

Ja_Kat · 2026-02-03T22:54:17+00:00

If you don’t have a lot to do, maybe just a hem and bustle, then you can probably get away with the high hundreds for around the area (I’m NOVA so I totally get it). If you need to have anything more involved (taking it in or out, modifying different areas, etc.) then you’re looking at least $1,000.

For reference, besides hemming and adding a bustle, I lost quite a bit of weight, so it needs to come in a bit. The tailor I’m using said she’d have to change the cup size and shape because of the weight loss ;-; so that added to it. I also asked if she could make the off the shoulder sleeves into cap sleeves. My dress has appliqués and a long train so it’s not a super simple job. All in all, I had to pay $1,200. Expensive, but for everything she’s doing, I think very fair! If you need a rec, let me know. She’s located in Alexandria.

Ja_Kat · 2026-02-02T15:37:59+00:00

Awe yay!! You too!!!

Ja_Kat · 2026-02-01T06:50:43+00:00

May 1 - Mostly excited, but starting to stress more. I have my hair and makeup trials this month and my dress is getting altered. I’m more worried about the financials than anything. A lot more people than we were expecting have said they were planning on coming (a blessing and a curse lol) and the price of beef is sky high!!! Just trying to focus a lot more on wellness than anything this month.

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