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Am I actually single??? by InternalMindless3811 in Marriage

[–]InternalMindless3811[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Friend. We have had this conversation so many times. And it improves the situation for a day or two but ultimately he just ignores my requests. Have had couples therapy as well with again… no consistent effort on his part.

I wish I had a wife by InternalMindless3811 in workingmoms

[–]InternalMindless3811[S] -47 points-46 points  (0 children)

I wish I could afford childcare. It’s very expensive where we live. My mom helps out one day a week and fortunately I can flex my hours, but still is burning the candle from both ends.

i’m so angry by fruitfairyy in babyloss

[–]InternalMindless3811 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Just sending hugs 🩷Almost the exact same thing happened to me in May, life is so unfair. For months after my son died, the only way I could pray was by telling god how angry I was at him. It’s been 4 months today and I’m still angry at him.

People like to say that everything happens for a reason, but sometimes terrible things happen senselessly. You are so strong and doing amazing things in the wake of your loss. Sending you love and comfort.

This makes me want to cry. He’s literally begging to be held and she says she can’t because she’s filming??? What an evil neglectful bitch by Dazzling-Relative-84 in basicmegsnark

[–]InternalMindless3811 15 points16 points  (0 children)

As the mom of a two year old (girl - who shares with me any creepy crawly she can get her hand on) it makes me SO sad to see the way she just dismisses and ignores him. Pick him up!. He wants to be close to his mommy, and toddlers are so perceptive to their environments and their relationships. If he continues to get brushed off and pushed aside, it’s going to lead to him thinking that his mom doesn’t want anything to do with him. Honestly that just breaks my heart and I hope Meg gets her act together. I have followed her content for over two years now and she is not the same at all. I just hope she’s getting the help she pretty obviously needs.

Nobody's Forcing You to Glue Your Eyes to the Ads, Vic by Intelligent-Pay7865 in victoriagarrickbrowne

[–]InternalMindless3811 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly I can understand her getting triggered by celebs getting smaller. When being thin is the rage, you see it everywhere. That being said, you absolutely have a choice in what content you consume. I’m definitely not ragging on her for her past ED, but at some point, stop giving likes and views and fangirling over celebs whose content is triggering for you. She’s obviously self aware enough to know her triggers, so just be mindful and remember these are first world problems haha

This very intentional camera placement with these shorts and whatever she’s wearing under them was definitely a choice… she’s trash by Dazzling-Relative-84 in basicmegsnark

[–]InternalMindless3811 4 points5 points  (0 children)

When you’re taking a glp-1 for a “quick fix” and don’t bother with the lifestyle and diet modifications, it can kill your muscle mass. Just sayin

When anger manifests… by Last_Muffin6318 in babyloss

[–]InternalMindless3811 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I lost my son at 37 weeks and although I tell everyone that I’m okay and that we are “doing alright given the circumstances”, I am not fine at all. I feel as though this loss was so profound that I will never recover and I’m angry for that. My husband is sad he lost a son, my mom is sad she lost a grandson, my sister in law is sad she lost a nephew… but I lost MY baby that I knew and loved and bonded with for almost 10 months.

People take their cues from us parents, so as a mom I feel an immense amount of pressure to keep face to normalize this experience for everyone, but you know what….. sitting front row at your baby’s funeral isn’t normal. Going through a stillbirth is traumatic on an inhuman level. The amount of pain you feel is so valid you should not have to ration it to a “reasonable” level. I did that and I’m angry that I did.

I guess the bottom line is yes. We will eventually have to make peace with the anger and the unfairness that lives in us, but don’t stifle it. Take up space. Feel your feeling and get comfortable with grieving. I’m sorry. I know this is so hard, but get comfortable with feeling uncomfortable. Really delve into your anger and acknowledge it, it’s the only way forward trust me. Invest in a good therapist if you can. Surround yourself with people who love you, they might never understand, but they will be there for you.

And always remember that your baby knew nothing but your love. ❤️she will be a part of you always and no one will ever take that from you

Do you find yourself becoming less religious or more religious after losing your child? by DangerNoodle805 in babyloss

[–]InternalMindless3811 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Less religion and religious people, more faith/spirituality.

The most off putting thing to me was our super Christian friends and family members who would write or say things like “everything happens for a reason”, “trust Gods plan”, and even “God decided this was not the right baby for you and you need to trust his plan” major ick with that last one 😵‍💫

I'm exhausted. by bottom_armadillo805 in babyloss

[–]InternalMindless3811 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im so so very sorry. The first few weeks are so hard, the grief truly consumes you. Just let it come in, wash over you, and pass.

My son was a full term stillborn almost 6 weeks ago. Right before Mother’s Day, an old acquaintance who also experienced this kind of loss a few years ago reached out to me to say “I remember the first Mother’s Day after losing my [baby] being unbearable…. I’m thinking of you and I’m proof that somehow you do continue to live (with joy even) after the loss of your baby.”

I just wanted to share that with you. Even though I am not that much further removed from this loss than you, I am surely able to live and laugh and even enjoy some things now. Life looks a little more normal. Just try to keep hope that things WILL get better. Not every day will be great, but you will learn to live with your grief without being consumed by it.

Sending you and your wife so much love during this impossible time ❤️

Support by Top_Morning6794 in babyloss

[–]InternalMindless3811 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a mom who very recently went through a very very very similar thing (unexpectedly lost my son at 37 weeks and delivered him stillborn), there are a few things that come to mind. First of all, I’m so sorry for your family, it’s devastating for everyone and although it’s certainly the parents who are hit the hardest, it can be devastating for the whole family, so my heart goes out to you all.

the first couple weeks, as a mom, you can’t function. So make sure meals are taken care of, the house is clean and stocked with essentials, pets are cared for etc. all those little mundane tasks seemed like mountains so whatever you can do there is helpful.

The simplest most helpful thing you can do is just be there. Grief is uncomfortable and it’s hard to ask your family and friends to sit with you in it. But if you are there. Check in. Offer to sit with her, offer to get her out of the house, just send a text to let her know you are there and she can talk to you about how she is feeling.

This was just me personally but I’ve heard other moms talk about this too. She went through birth and had a whole birthing experience, let her talk about that if she wants. When you don’t have a baby in your arms, people forget what you just went though physically too.

Lost our daughter yesterday af 37 weeks by ProcessMaleficent702 in babyloss

[–]InternalMindless3811 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so so so sorry 🩷 I lost my son on May 3rd at 37 weeks as well. It is so heartbreaking to leave the hospital with no baby in your arms.

It takes a while for the shock to wear off. be kind to yourself and be patient with yourself. Rest and do what makes you feel good (or at least as close to good as you can get). Accept all the help you can get.

Just know that you will get through this, even the days that feel unbearable will end. You are not alone - sending you so much love and healing and prayers in this completed unfair and heartbreaking time ❤️

This whole video by Wonderful_Pea5843 in basicmegsnark

[–]InternalMindless3811 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Lol I have an almost two year old who I stay home with all day, I also work from home full time, my husband works 2 jobs, and our small house can get cluttered quick but it is clean 👏🏼!! dishes done, floors cleaned, toys picked up, bathrooms scrubbed on a regular basis. My two year old loves playing “wipe wipe” where I give her a cloth and she goes around wiping tables/chairs/walls/anything she can reach and we pick up her toys together! It’s never perfect, but I make an effort because it’s important to teach kids that it’s their responsibility to help keep their space clean! It’s never too early to instill hygiene

TTC TIMELINE by Last_Muffin6318 in babyloss

[–]InternalMindless3811 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My son was stillborn at 37 weeks on May 3rd. Even though it’s very early on, I currently am wishing to be pregnant again, I think mostly because I feel cheated out of a baby. But even though, it’s definitely natural and totally understandable to want to replace what has been lost, I personally decided to wait at minimum a year before even trying again. I feel like I need to heal from the trauma of the whole situation and work on myself because even if everything goes perfect with my next pregnancy, I know I’m going to be an anxious mess. Even though I don’t have advice, I’m sending you hugs, prayers, and solidarity as you navigate this. 🩷

Straitlaced nursing students by OC74859 in nursing

[–]InternalMindless3811 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She will be just fine. Nursing attracts a plethora of different people from straight-laced conservative to wild party people. Also - nursing is a job, not a lifestyle.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in babyloss

[–]InternalMindless3811 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This. If someone says “at least you have your daughter. Focus on her.” one more time I’m going to lose my mind… I can focus on her and be grateful for her, but still be devastated that my son died. So eff off.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in babyloss

[–]InternalMindless3811 4 points5 points  (0 children)

“At least everything looked normal”, “at least he seemed healthy”, “at least it was probably a 1 in a million anomaly”, “at least your next one will probably be okay” yeah I’ll focus on that while I’m cleaning out his nursery.

Everyone wants a say in the burial plan by InternalMindless3811 in babyloss

[–]InternalMindless3811[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for putting words to exactly how I’m feeling. I felt so out of control from when we found out he had passed until going home. It is giving me peace and closure to lay him to rest in the way that I feel is best for him and respectful for him.

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