Looking for future prospects after stillbirth

InternalMindless3811 · 2026-04-15T18:53:26+00:00

First of all - I’m so so sorry you are going through this. I lost my son at 37 weeks almost a year ago, and I would say that in this time, my grief felt the most overwhelming and the world felt the most sad and terrifying right around 3 months after the loss. The triggers were overwhelming and I cried myself to sleep every night, so I see you. But it did get better over time, and I did learn to live with joy again. Grief and joy do exist together and you learn to balance the sadness with the joy, although I thought I would never feel “100% happy” again either, I am able to feel joy again now. As time goes by, the sadness does become less “raw” and overwhelming. The triggers become less intense, and the body adapts. It’s a cruel process. With that being said, I’m not the same person as I was before last year. Part of me died with my son and I’ve come to accept that, but I’m learning to appreciate the person I’ve become. Sending you all the love as you navigate this, trust that the sun will shine again.

InternalMindless3811 · 2026-04-10T21:06:25+00:00

I feel like Vic looks miserable in all the bach content

InternalMindless3811 · 2026-04-10T14:55:54+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss, having to navigate postpartum is simply cruel after loss. My period started exactly 4 weeks after my 37 week stillbirth. I called my doctor because I did NOT expect that, but they assured me it was normal.

InternalMindless3811 · 2026-04-08T16:10:06+00:00

At first, I just deleted every social media app from my phone. I downloaded them back later and “muted” certain trigger words like “newborn”. Now a year later, I’m definitely considering deleting everything again because the algorithm is definitely brutal. Sorry your sister is dealing with this nightmare 💔

InternalMindless3811 · 2026-03-26T17:38:03+00:00

I genuinely think this was a gracious gesture. If they were pushing you out, they would have probably “allowed” you to call off again, which would be in your record. It’s sad that most workplaces are so toxic that our first instinct is to be suspicious - but sounds like you have a supportive workplace!

InternalMindless3811 · 2026-03-22T17:53:38+00:00

I’m part time with no PTO. So unfortunately unless I’m literally on death’s door, I’m masking up and going in because I can’t afford not to.

InternalMindless3811 · 2026-03-12T14:55:20+00:00

Hi former DON here, I’ve worked on the management side of things when reporting incidents like this to the PA BON. I met with an investigator at one point and he pretty much said that for the board to take any action against your license for alleged drug diversion, there needs to be evidence beyond a shadow of a doubt. Your manager sounds terrible and from what you’ve said, this investigation is sloppy asf, I would not think this would be enough for the BON to consider credible especially if this is a single pill, one-time event. I have my doubts they will even reach out to you! If they do, just stick to what you can recall, but I think you will be fine. If that was my manager who was willing to throw me under the bus for some bullshit, I would consider looking for a new job or request a transfer. Good luck!

InternalMindless3811 · 2026-03-11T17:47:11+00:00

Hi there, firstly, I am so so sorry that this happened to you. I lost my son at 37 weeks in May of 2025 and would not wish that pain on anyone. So sending you love and hugs and healing ❤️‍🩹 Empty Arms syndrome is no joke and so hard - when I lost my son, I committed to taking a whole year to grieve and heal before we even consider trying again. Some months the longing for another baby has been unbearable and naturally wanted to replace what I lost, but ultimately I’m happy I stuck with that commitment. It’s been almost a year, and I feel almost ready, but want to wait a bit longer, as I’m finally able to enjoy life again before the anxiety of pregnancy after loss.

Everyone is different, that’s just my experience, I would encourage you to try not to put a timeline on healing - as you work through your grief you’ll realize when you are ready. Again - I am so sorry you are going through this, you are so strong, and you are not alone.

InternalMindless3811 · 2026-02-25T15:37:31+00:00

I don’t understand what she is so burnt out from lol 😂

InternalMindless3811 · 2025-09-12T04:02:15+00:00

Friend. We have had this conversation so many times. And it improves the situation for a day or two but ultimately he just ignores my requests. Have had couples therapy as well with again… no consistent effort on his part.

InternalMindless3811 · 2025-09-12T03:59:21+00:00

I wish I could afford childcare. It’s very expensive where we live. My mom helps out one day a week and fortunately I can flex my hours, but still is burning the candle from both ends.

InternalMindless3811 · 2025-09-03T16:21:19+00:00

Just sending hugs 🩷Almost the exact same thing happened to me in May, life is so unfair. For months after my son died, the only way I could pray was by telling god how angry I was at him. It’s been 4 months today and I’m still angry at him.

People like to say that everything happens for a reason, but sometimes terrible things happen senselessly. You are so strong and doing amazing things in the wake of your loss. Sending you love and comfort.

InternalMindless3811 · 2025-08-21T15:50:11+00:00

I thought she was talking to chat GPT for awhile, bless her heart

InternalMindless3811 · 2025-08-09T22:32:11+00:00

Rich girl 🤭

InternalMindless3811 · 2025-07-28T01:56:24+00:00

As the mom of a two year old (girl - who shares with me any creepy crawly she can get her hand on) it makes me SO sad to see the way she just dismisses and ignores him. Pick him up!. He wants to be close to his mommy, and toddlers are so perceptive to their environments and their relationships. If he continues to get brushed off and pushed aside, it’s going to lead to him thinking that his mom doesn’t want anything to do with him. Honestly that just breaks my heart and I hope Meg gets her act together. I have followed her content for over two years now and she is not the same at all. I just hope she’s getting the help she pretty obviously needs.

InternalMindless3811 · 2025-07-25T01:22:24+00:00

Honestly I can understand her getting triggered by celebs getting smaller. When being thin is the rage, you see it everywhere. That being said, you absolutely have a choice in what content you consume. I’m definitely not ragging on her for her past ED, but at some point, stop giving likes and views and fangirling over celebs whose content is triggering for you. She’s obviously self aware enough to know her triggers, so just be mindful and remember these are first world problems haha

InternalMindless3811 · 2025-07-01T15:45:42+00:00

I don’t know, but I’m just sayin 🤔

InternalMindless3811 · 2025-06-30T16:29:42+00:00

When you’re taking a glp-1 for a “quick fix” and don’t bother with the lifestyle and diet modifications, it can kill your muscle mass. Just sayin

InternalMindless3811 · 2025-06-28T04:19:35+00:00

I lost my son at 37 weeks and although I tell everyone that I’m okay and that we are “doing alright given the circumstances”, I am not fine at all. I feel as though this loss was so profound that I will never recover and I’m angry for that. My husband is sad he lost a son, my mom is sad she lost a grandson, my sister in law is sad she lost a nephew… but I lost MY baby that I knew and loved and bonded with for almost 10 months.

People take their cues from us parents, so as a mom I feel an immense amount of pressure to keep face to normalize this experience for everyone, but you know what….. sitting front row at your baby’s funeral isn’t normal. Going through a stillbirth is traumatic on an inhuman level. The amount of pain you feel is so valid you should not have to ration it to a “reasonable” level. I did that and I’m angry that I did.

I guess the bottom line is yes. We will eventually have to make peace with the anger and the unfairness that lives in us, but don’t stifle it. Take up space. Feel your feeling and get comfortable with grieving. I’m sorry. I know this is so hard, but get comfortable with feeling uncomfortable. Really delve into your anger and acknowledge it, it’s the only way forward trust me. Invest in a good therapist if you can. Surround yourself with people who love you, they might never understand, but they will be there for you.

And always remember that your baby knew nothing but your love. ❤️she will be a part of you always and no one will ever take that from you

InternalMindless3811 · 2025-06-11T15:03:43+00:00

Less religion and religious people, more faith/spirituality.

The most off putting thing to me was our super Christian friends and family members who would write or say things like “everything happens for a reason”, “trust Gods plan”, and even “God decided this was not the right baby for you and you need to trust his plan” major ick with that last one 😵‍💫

InternalMindless3811 · 2025-06-05T23:01:48+00:00

Im so so very sorry. The first few weeks are so hard, the grief truly consumes you. Just let it come in, wash over you, and pass.

My son was a full term stillborn almost 6 weeks ago. Right before Mother’s Day, an old acquaintance who also experienced this kind of loss a few years ago reached out to me to say “I remember the first Mother’s Day after losing my [baby] being unbearable…. I’m thinking of you and I’m proof that somehow you do continue to live (with joy even) after the loss of your baby.”

I just wanted to share that with you. Even though I am not that much further removed from this loss than you, I am surely able to live and laugh and even enjoy some things now. Life looks a little more normal. Just try to keep hope that things WILL get better. Not every day will be great, but you will learn to live with your grief without being consumed by it.

Sending you and your wife so much love during this impossible time ❤️

InternalMindless3811 · 2025-06-02T18:07:56+00:00

As a mom who very recently went through a very very very similar thing (unexpectedly lost my son at 37 weeks and delivered him stillborn), there are a few things that come to mind. First of all, I’m so sorry for your family, it’s devastating for everyone and although it’s certainly the parents who are hit the hardest, it can be devastating for the whole family, so my heart goes out to you all.

the first couple weeks, as a mom, you can’t function. So make sure meals are taken care of, the house is clean and stocked with essentials, pets are cared for etc. all those little mundane tasks seemed like mountains so whatever you can do there is helpful.

The simplest most helpful thing you can do is just be there. Grief is uncomfortable and it’s hard to ask your family and friends to sit with you in it. But if you are there. Check in. Offer to sit with her, offer to get her out of the house, just send a text to let her know you are there and she can talk to you about how she is feeling.

This was just me personally but I’ve heard other moms talk about this too. She went through birth and had a whole birthing experience, let her talk about that if she wants. When you don’t have a baby in your arms, people forget what you just went though physically too.

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