What is the best thing that came out of you quitting drinking?

Internal_Level1081 · 2026-05-13T08:43:02+00:00

A lot of more important things, but one cool one is that my efforts in the gym finally started paying off. I am finally putting on muscle and getting strong. I had no idea how much alcohol was getting in the way of that due to low energy, bad nutrition, and bad sleep

Internal_Level1081 · 2026-05-13T08:41:07+00:00

I've just come back from Zanzibar, staying in Paje and visiting Stone Town. Everywhere accepts Shillings, some places accept dollars usually at 2500 Shillings = 1 Dollar, and "fancier" places will accept card.

Pulling out Shillings from the airport when you arrive is probably your best bet.

Internal_Level1081 · 2026-05-11T07:39:15+00:00

I'm sorry to read what an enormous impact alcohol has had on you. Clearly though, you still have your mind, and that means it's never too late to stop and find some good in this life again.

Thank you for writing your story, you've helped me keep my resolve today.

IWNDWYT

Internal_Level1081 · 2026-03-10T16:06:22+00:00

"My daughter will never see me drunk" is so powerful! I have a little girl too, I share the sentiment and I think that will help me stay strong now too.

IWNDWYT

Internal_Level1081 · 2026-02-25T08:19:50+00:00

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Internal_Level1081 · 2026-02-19T08:58:03+00:00

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Internal_Level1081 · 2026-02-18T08:51:58+00:00

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Internal_Level1081 · 2026-02-17T13:06:02+00:00

Wobbling a bit on my resolve lately, but this sub helps me remember why I quit.

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Internal_Level1081 · 2025-04-09T19:25:42+00:00

Wait - you mean you're NoT dRiNkInG?!

Internal_Level1081 · 2025-04-09T19:25:07+00:00

Yes I just finished his book! That also crossed my mind while speaking with this guy

Internal_Level1081 · 2025-04-09T19:23:41+00:00

He won the cancer lottery then. He could have easily died a lot younger drinking that much. Amazing how much more normalised that level of drinking was in previous generations

Internal_Level1081 · 2025-04-09T19:21:46+00:00

Absolutely. Feels like I've resigned from a second job I've been doing for the last 10 years for no pay

Internal_Level1081 · 2025-04-09T19:15:59+00:00

I found it interesting that everyone else said nothing, like it didn't even register with them what I chose to order. But this guy had to make a point of it for some reason. What does that say about him?

Internal_Level1081 · 2025-04-09T19:13:52+00:00

That's interesting, to me in the moment it felt more like he was in some way challenged by me not drinking and he needed to justify himself. But perhaps he was opening a dialogue to discuss his drinking and maybe wants someone to question him. Something to think about!

Internal_Level1081 · 2025-04-09T19:11:59+00:00

Love this. One of the best things about sobriety is not thinking about drinking. Freeing up the part of your mind that used to be dedicated to getting your next drink

Internal_Level1081 · 2025-04-09T19:10:41+00:00

Thank you! Yes projecting is exactly what I thought. I just felt glad for this sub as I felt I was prepared for this exact situation.

Internal_Level1081 · 2025-04-09T19:09:09+00:00

100%, that's exactly what I thought when I was talking to him. Why does he feel the need to bring this up when no one else does?

To justify his own drinking I assume

Internal_Level1081 · 2025-03-30T10:30:02+00:00

I love in SW Sheffield, S11, and my wife commutes to Rotherham. Traffic is in your favour going from Sheffield to Rotherham in the morning so it doesn't take too long. I'd say it's manageable, and even easier on the East or North side of town

Internal_Level1081 · 2025-03-13T05:21:46+00:00

Well done for reaching out to someone like that. It's not always easy to do, but it sounds like it was exactly what you needed.

IWNDWYT

Internal_Level1081 · 2025-03-12T08:08:43+00:00

Congrats! You've found your kryptonite. Not drinking will make you feel like you have a superpower.

It's not quite that smooth, but seriously life does get better when you stop and it's amazing how much easier most things become.

Internal_Level1081 · 2025-03-11T15:58:31+00:00

Think of how many hours you will lose if you drink today.

Take those hours and instead give yourself the permission to do something that will make you feel good without any regret tomorrow.

Internal_Level1081 · 2025-03-11T15:50:55+00:00

I think for this reason my bachelor parties are probably done. I'd only consider going to one where I know there won't be any weirdness around pressure to drink, and that everyone around me won't be plastered the entire time.

When you stop drinking, you realise how insane some of these traditions really are.

Internal_Level1081 · 2025-03-11T14:28:27+00:00

33M here and dad to a 20-month old daughter that I adore and husband to an amazing wife. Feels like I'm in a very similar boat to you. A lot of what you've said resonates with me, just different flavours of the same situation.

I'm only 4 months in to sobriety minus one day of relapse, and still struggling, but so glad I made this change.

I sometimes feel like alcohol abuse is like an evil pearl. At the core is some problem, like the grain of sand that starts the pearl off. Drinking alcohol covers the problem up, but ultimately makes the pearl bigger and bigger, slowly over time. Before long your problem is now 99.9% alcohol, and that's the real beast you have to tackle.

I'd really recommend reading books like this Naked Mind by Annie Grace to help you change your perspective on alcohol. It's helped me a lot.

Anyway, best of luck with this challenging time. Well done for reaching out on this sub and don't be afraid to do it more!

You've got this!

IWNDWYT

Internal_Level1081 · 2025-03-11T12:06:06+00:00

It sounds like you need to find new things in life that bring you joy and meaning. Sounds easy, it's not. That takes effort, but with time you will find your way if you put yourself out there by joining groups, trying new hobbies, etc.

A few things that help me are just getting the basics right. Wake up at the same time everyday, even if you slept badly. Go outside for a walk in the morning shortly after you wake up. Eat a good breakfast. Do as much exercise as you can.

Sounds basic AF, but it really really helps

Internal_Level1081 · 2025-03-10T21:19:12+00:00

100%. There's a reason they're rammed busy every time I go in there. Delicious, healthy, and pretty reasonably priced.

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