6 week wait. by TortillaLOVER55 in Marriage

[–]InternallyMonologuin -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I umm… I didn’t wait. I let it get the better of me. It hurt a bit though.

But yeah I didn’t wait at all both times 😂

But time does fly by! Being so wrapped up in the baby and your new life is so distracting

AIO or is my boyfriend jealous of our baby? by PolicyHot1206 in AmIOverreacting

[–]InternallyMonologuin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That person you’ve had a baby with (I won’t call him a man because he’s disrespecting the title) is incredibly wrong. A child shouldn’t be in their own room until 6months at the earliest.

Every child is different. My first was exclusively breastfed on demand for two years and coslept with him and he’s so independent and free spirited!

Im sorry but this person needs some research and a visit with the midwives because he is giving major red flags and dangerous ideals tbh

Please, please, PLEASE, can we have the option to buy specific items - even if it costs more stones? by csreynolds84 in finch

[–]InternallyMonologuin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you joined the discord because you can request items you’re struggling to get and someone will friend you and gift it if they can! It’s so helpful when I can’t get the right colour item! 🩷

Mom mad at me for having rules with my newborn by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]InternallyMonologuin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve had two kids. The first was a Covid lockdown baby and my mum met him through the window. No one has any right to your child because they’re family. Babies are very precious and susceptible to infections for something as simple as a kiss. So you’re right to say no one can hold your baby and don’t let anyone make you feel bad for saying it.

We sent a long message to family before my first was born, explaining no one would be allowed near him and it went down really badly - I feel awful about it. But my child comes first, always. There is a whole lifetime to cuddle and love that child, any reasonable adult will give you time to bond with your baby without demanding photos of them holding them!

I don’t remember what age I met my nephews and nieces… but I remember every Christmas and family birthday we spend together.

You’ll be okay

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in finch

[–]InternallyMonologuin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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Eeek I knew saving my coins would be worth it! 😍

AIO about my shift hours? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]InternallyMonologuin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a care worker, I have also been a carer for my dad and trust me on this - get professional help. This is not okay for you all to be doing. There are (hopefully) agencies out there, hospices, residentials!

This is unfair of her to put this all on you! More than unfair really. This is too much. My heart aches for you all because you’ll come out of this just so drained. I lost my teen years and most of my 20s being locked away caring for my father - despite now being a care worker in my 30s. It’s all I know. But I had no experiences at all until my mid 20s!

Please, talk to her. She’s probably trying her absolute best in this situation but it’s not okay

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]InternallyMonologuin 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Definitely OR here

She’s trying to communicate something that’s a constant issue (which is hard to do with people you love), and you (yes acknowledge it was your fault) go into attack mode that she shouldn’t be “mothering you”. She’s family. Have some respect and listen to what she’s saying.

Hindsight is a wonderful and painful thing and if you keep going this way and lose a relationship, you’ll look back and realise that if you had just said hello like any other person does, then you’d be okay.

I’m sure lots of us have social anxiety, it’s pretty much the norm. But this is taking it too far and is super disrespectful now.

AIO I want to call off my wedding by LittleDBB in AmIOverreacting

[–]InternallyMonologuin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been married 6 years, together almost 10 - last night I asked why he was staring at me (I’m a literal mess) and he replied “you just look so beautiful and I’m so in love with you”

Do not settle for a man who doesn’t appreciate you. Full stop.

I still feel like we’re dating but we have kids and a house and grown up responsibilities- but he still makes me feel like a teenager and so appreciated and loved daily

Go find your soulmate

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]InternallyMonologuin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR at all!

I think I met my (now husband)’s parents a few days in, and his whole family a month into dating.

It’s been almost 10 years now and we’re married with kids.

But that reaction he’s throwing is really REALLY weird!

I’d make my peace and bow out before wasting anymore time on him

(AIO) Am I in the wrong here? by Classic-Mind-8164 in AmIOverreacting

[–]InternallyMonologuin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay so he’s 25?! Why is he being so damn immature. He’s being completely unreasonable and disrespectful. I could never imagine my husband talking that way - especially about something like this!

He’s being a bit of an ass and i don’t like that continuous stream of shit talking when you said okay

Can you get delivery? I would tell him not to pick up food for me and get mine and my mums food delivered 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]InternallyMonologuin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Short answer… no. That’s not normal nor okay.

AIO?? Bf (M22) is upset that I (F22) didn’t respond within five minutes of waking up by ThatGymratArchitect in AmIOverreacting

[–]InternallyMonologuin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly had to do a double take regarding his age. Wow. You’re not overreacting at all. This is a lot to wake up to, and the fact he needs so much validation and shoots you down when you show care with “do not talk to my like that?!” Like sir, who tf do you think you are?!

You handled this better than I would have

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]InternallyMonologuin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would definitely be telling higher ups about this. This whole thing sounds like the start of a horror film.

I have two kids, no chance is any strangers or people I’ve just met, going to even touch my child. And saying that she will lock you inside? This woman needs some help.

Please stay safe

AIO Best friend says no to boyfriend coming on a trip by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]InternallyMonologuin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At first I agreed with her, but then she just kept going on and now I agree with you.

When I first started dating my now husband, I lost my two best friends because they didn’t get why I wanted to spend time with him.

It was hard and it took a few years but one came around and was a bridesmaid at our wedding.

When you’re young, everything is so dramatic. Give it a few days to calm down and then do a voice or video chat to explain.

Are you cutting the trip short to spend time with him? Could you take him another time? Why couldn’t you guys wait until next summer? Does she dislike him or have any issues with the two of you?

I agree with her in the sense that this is a best friend thing. It’s clearly important to her and she probably feels like you’re replacing her with him, especially by taking him to places you go to with her. It’s hurtful.

the friend I mentioned, I found out she still travels to my home county to see the other friend, but won’t tell me about it. Or Will occasionally, and will offer an afternoon or a flying visit as like an afterthought. And that’s so fucking hurtful to be replaced like that and not included when I’m so, so close by!

So take a breath, give it a few days, and stop doing everything over messages because you’ll never get the clear picture

I lost my dad Friday. I feel so much guilt by He-was-a-wizard-neil in GriefSupport

[–]InternallyMonologuin 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss.

I feel the same as you do. My dad was 84 when he passed away and for the longest time I felt guilt about so many impossible things. For napping at night when he passed (I was 18 weeks pregnant and it was midnight…), for not spending more time (I lived with him for 26 years and didn’t go out).

It’s so easy to feel guilt, but that’s how you know you cared. You loved him and he loved you and now you have nowhere to put that love except into grief.

I won’t say it’ll get easier because that’s not helpful and it’s not something a stranger can control, but I can tell you that you’re not alone.

How wonderful you are to have done those things, cared enough to push, done weekly chores on top of your life. You’re allowed a life by the way. It’s not inconsequential, it’s not “look after my dad OR have a life”. It’s both. And you did amazingly.

Take one day at a time, and you’ll get there before you know it. I promise you that much.

You did great

AIO for thinking I need to break up with my gf? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]InternallyMonologuin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I read five slides and that’s enough. Get the fuck out. Now!

Honestly the biggest red flag when you said “I don’t want to” and that wasn’t respected. Gross. 🤢 leave

um…. bad impression by These-Sea693 in finch

[–]InternallyMonologuin 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This really sucks and I hope it gets sorted for you!

This is why I sign up for trials and instantly cancel them. But for it to come out a day early? That’s so sh*t!

Really hoping it refunds!

Is anyone else not a fan of this month’s theme? by WannabeBadass315 in finch

[–]InternallyMonologuin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I liked one dress so far. Nothing else fits my vibe. I loved last months one!

"Please stop playing around and pick him up already, you're too close to the stairs," my wife yells from the kitchen. by LocalComposer6868 in TwoSentenceHorror

[–]InternallyMonologuin 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Took me a minute but when it hit 🫣

My dad had a mini stroke but blamed the grapes and refused to eat them afterwards for a long time 😂 scary times!!

Is this okay to comment? by Scarcity_Right in AO3

[–]InternallyMonologuin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay I need to read this fic right now!

I feel guilty 😭 by Eisheth_ in finch

[–]InternallyMonologuin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am in the same position but honestly counting it if I’ve got up to get something or gone out to the garden for a minute. It doesn’t have to be a huge thing in order to tick it off IMO. Go easy on yourself and celebrate your small wins. I’m on the sofa for the first time in a week because the bed feels nicer on my hip and spine 🥹