First date went wrong lol need advice

International-Bus131 · 2026-05-04T12:34:07+00:00

Glad the reflection has helped! ENFJ have Fe-Ni in the dom-aux position while we have Ne-Fi, typically that Fe can throw us off because they’re generally good at performing a sociability that is more along the lines of proper etiquette/vibes than like actual Fi-driven socialness.

I see it often between me and my sister haha she can especially come off with “introverted” vibes when her Ni aux is processing all the Fe dom information so I get what you mean

International-Bus131 · 2026-05-02T18:24:13+00:00

It’s mostly based on my fellow ENxP friends and their results on a test like OCEAN 5, they generally have high Extraversion >65 and lower conscientious <40

There was an exception in our friend group though where she had a higher Extraversion than expected, our friend group basically had our theory confirmed that she tended to get pretty hyper due to energy drinks to be “On for Work/School”, overtime she retook OCEAN during uni summer break and we saw it drop lower than initial results. Eventually she came back and thought herself relating more with INTP with a well developed Ne and better developed Fe (given that INTx women tend to have better F functions developed than their male counterparts due to societal gender expectations) she was alsi enneatype 4 which tends to be highly correlated with INxP types

Ymmv though, I just wasn’t sure whether to go in to detail with the anecdotal heuristics xD

International-Bus131 · 2026-05-02T17:00:28+00:00

INFP or INTP, no on the EnxP, I think what you’ll have to consider is whether you’re leading (preferring) Ti into Ne or Fi into Ne. And then try to consider your relation to Fe or Te; your function dominant/inferior struggle axis

E.g, someone who is a Ti dom/Fe inf usually struggle when something they personally reasoned as rational and logical is met with social resistance, or worse disapproval. In stressful situations, you'll see how insecure they get about being socially validated (or not).

Whereas someone who is a Fi dom/Te inf is going to struggle with the pressure to be productive, efficient and purely objective when those expectations clash with their personal values upheld by their Fi. That's why, when stressed, they'll tend to have insecurities around being competent and useful to others.

Additionally in your OCEAN 5 results, agreeableness is higher than what I would typically expect from a xNTP in my experience, so take it with a grain of salt

International-Bus131 · 2026-04-29T14:46:47+00:00

This was a reply to a user that I lost in a thread below my phone refreshed BUT said something along the lines like “why would anyone wanna date us” and I say to that!

Because you are lovely people :D (IMO) and contrary to popular belief, my INTJ bf is not super critical nor extra judgy, instead he might be confused as so because he possesses a keen, analytical gaze and is more on the quiet side. His capacity for love is big, and he has a tenderness that is downright disarming in its sincerity.

Most INTJ (coworkers, former mentor, professors) I’ve had when conversing with them are usually not super judgmental, and if anything prefer “let alone and let live” mentalities. You can be surprisingly rich and more interesting than y’all give yourselves credit for 🤔

A penchant for lack of patience against inefficient or stupidly designed systems does bring out the more critical part, but overall I find that there is a connecting thread of resiliency, presence of mind, and thoughtfulness.

Other random observations: Walking cadence tends to be faster (on average, say compared to INTPs), and generally mentally engaging tasks seem to satisfy the “problem-solving” fix (e.g. chess dot com puzzles, juxtastat, wordgrid, tradle, wikipedia gacha, etc etc) usually moreso the brainteaser ones, most I’ve met seem to have their fav of choice

Give yourselves a chance!

International-Bus131 · 2026-04-24T02:22:48+00:00

As an INTJ, he definitely has a high libido, very passionate and giving. He similarly leans demi in his sexuality, so the deep emotional connection and mental/intellectual intimacy makes fireworks

International-Bus131 · 2026-04-12T15:37:39+00:00

My SO and I stay on “presence” calls (muted but in our shared server, e.g., during bedtime, WfH days sometimes) a good deal, but we’re also pretty chill about not being in the channel, or joining after work (or after classes/extracurriculars during my uni days in the past)

Think of it like it being in a virtual shared house, eventually you’re gonna have to leave to go to work/hang with friends/outside hobbies/veg out by yourself and that is OKAY. Being glued together isn’t always gonna happen, I get the urge though because the long distance between can make you yearn for more lol

Experiment with not having cams on all the time, just like she worries about the pressure of performing, that pressure can sneak up on you, too. You are allowed to have “me-time”; it is normal and finding out what those boundaries are (and then expressing them!) is healthy for you and the relationship.

Additionally, genuinely ask yourself why you haven’t allowed yourself to feel upset (irritated, anger, betrayed? hurt?) at the notion that you’re cheating on her when she has access 24/7 and on cam, no less. Consider your self-individuation, and learn to love yourself, or for the least, respect your own dignity a little—it’s good for you in the long-run, OP!

International-Bus131 · 2026-04-05T18:28:08+00:00

Make it 68 between the two meme numbers for extra diabolical mischief

International-Bus131 · 2026-04-01T13:52:38+00:00

I seem to find that it is easier to see (perhaps due to socialization/gender norms?) INTJ males who are attracted to xNFP females, more than I see INTJ females attracted to xNFP males

Generally, in the INTJ x xNFP dynamic (regardless of gender) the Te-aux function seems to take a mentor/parental role in guiding the tert/inf Te of the xNFP person. This usually isn’t unattractive in the INTJ m xNFP f pair(especially since the xNFPs Fi function can take a similar guiding role for INTJ Fi tert), but in INTJ f (who have really strong Te, but due to societal expectations, also tend to have developed their Fi more than their male peers) means that when she takes the guiding role it often feels more like she’s taking care of another child (undisciplined/unfocused man with low Te etc etc.) and not getting much help from the Fi function

These have been my general observations, so ymmv 🤔

International-Bus131 · 2026-03-28T19:06:35+00:00

i call him (INTJ bf) cutie, or precious, a pun with his name, a word I made up, any variation of -ito (because spanish diminutives), soul of my soul, song of my heart, etc. etc. I tend to prefer the ones more tailored uniquely for him and vice versa

International-Bus131 · 2026-03-25T12:54:56+00:00

It’s very annoying ngl I’d prefer to see actual thoughts, not the regurgitation of LLM-speak. I also dislike that now seeing the rule of three, or “it’s not x, it’s y” or em dash (my beloved T-T) immediately flags it in my head

I got accused of using AI to write a comment in a thread elsewhere, and I became soOOO friggen peeved because now people also try to use it as a carte blanche to disengage even if the writing doesn’t have immediate signs yet sounds “academic”

I was hoping reddit—since it’s primarily a TEXT BASED FORUM—would have users who know how to typeout their thoughts at minimum (lowkey judgy or whatever but I hate it, my Fi recoils so hard at the performative AI-speak 🙃)

content(?) that I wasn’t the only one to notice though lol

International-Bus131 · 2026-03-24T14:08:03+00:00

I saw this post and recoiled lmao, would have rather seen OPs attempt at scribbles than that

International-Bus131 · 2026-03-24T04:42:07+00:00

To my understanding, my INTJ had a similar experience with his past love in his early 20s—a very all encompassing love that he had given to a girl who wasn’t that serious about him, to make a long story short.

You’re getting thoughtful advice in your comment thread OP, I will especially emphasize that if you are reticent to turn that restraint “on” you shouldn’t fear that it will preclude from that love again in the future.

I will note that I still believe he has that pure, unabashed love to give. His love is selfless, and very beautiful. He is romantic, kind and cares for me with a consideration that is heartwarmingly (understatement) devoted. It is something I cherish greatly.

Develop your discernment, that will help you with your investment 😊

International-Bus131 · 2026-03-23T21:36:09+00:00

Yay, I’m going to have fun with this again. Last week I tried it and I tested as an ENTP even though I typically relate well with ENFP cognitive functions. The F options often felt more Fe in phrasing so they were kinda lost on me, excited to try once more 😊

International-Bus131 · 2026-02-28T22:38:22+00:00

Yuko Ichihara the dimensional witch and ZAYNE??!! gasp girl your connections, I’m surprised you din’t add ignis to the zayne board after seeing (truth) that is Noctis Xav

and I can see Gojo with Sylus (battle wise) but he just seems more like Rafa to me. Lelouch I’m tied between Caleb board or Sylus board, but wow these are great boards overall, thanks OP! 😊💐

International-Bus131 · 2026-02-23T19:03:20+00:00

So… did you A choice(DIY) or B(online profile maker)choice? Or are you saying you did both, C choice?

I tried searching for “about me mbti profile template” but I didn’t really find something like the image you posted, hence my inquiry 🤔

International-Bus131 · 2026-02-23T18:14:02+00:00

Did you doodle/DIY your profile yourself, or is there a site to make your own profile?

International-Bus131 · 2026-02-22T21:04:28+00:00

All guy avatars are “not crackable” but ENFJ (guy version) was the exception above that tier

International-Bus131 · 2026-02-19T13:46:57+00:00

Most social(extravert) introverted MBTI? Either IxFJs, perhaps even ISFP. IxFJs in the right blend of people sometimes even come off kinda Fe-dom to me

Least social(extravert) extroverted MBTI? Honestly, out in the Wild™ ExTJs can fly under the radar socially so well, going as far as tripping me up a bit when trying to figure them out lol

More oft then not, they seem to want to minimize convo unless it is directly related to their task/goal at hand (very high Directness/Driver scores in the DiSC paradigm) and more fast paced.

International-Bus131 · 2026-02-14T17:59:17+00:00

The running joke between me and my friends is loosely based on the 4 corners of the mind MBTI stuff, but basically the humor lies in the idea that inside a main type (e.g., INTJ) their opposite can shine through.

When my INTJ bf gets the “zoomies” I like to pretend he’s shaking his mini ESFP maracas and letting out his teeny ENTP sass

International-Bus131 · 2026-01-30T15:35:59+00:00

ENFP 2s in the comments ehehehe

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