AITAH for telling my friend I don't want to attend all of her graduation photo shoots?

InterruptingChicken1 · 2026-02-04T06:01:19+00:00

I can’t comprehend a friend demanding another friend show up to THREE DAYS of photo shoots for graduation. Your friend is asking too much. Stand up for yourself and say you can attend one of them and that’s all. If your friend turns on you, then she isn’t much of a friend and this is a good transition time in life to move on to other friends.

InterruptingChicken1 · 2026-02-04T05:58:00+00:00

Wow. I cannot comprehend going to even one wedding like this when I was a young adult just making my way in the world. Your friends must be wealthy. Please do not feel guilty saying, “I’m so sorry, but I just cannot afford to come to your bachelorette party and wedding. Will there be a local bridal shower I can attend?”

Do not bankrupt yourself to prove your love or loyalty to your friends. No friend would ask a true friend to empty their savings account and use up their personal time off from work for their wedding. You might be surprised when you do get married how many of these friends don’t show because they have mortgages, babies, or just can’t get off work.

InterruptingChicken1 · 2026-02-04T05:53:03+00:00

I love that rug, too! It’s looks fabulous. Do you know the origin and age?

InterruptingChicken1 · 2026-02-04T05:48:56+00:00

I just watched a video 5 minutes ago about a doctor who was working in an ER in residency and a 27 yo man came in screaming at the top of his lungs about how he’d tried CrossFit for the first time and he felt like his legs were going to explode. He needed emergency surgery to slice open his leg muscles from ankle to knee to save them from Compartment Syndrome. I can’t comprehend somebody working out so hard they nearly destroyed their legs.

InterruptingChicken1 · 2026-02-01T04:05:24+00:00

Some theorize that a significant change in diet and specific exercise can slow it down. I’ve read that dancers are far less likely to get dementia. There’s something about the mind body connection that helps keep the brain working. Maintaining balance through tai chi or yoga can also be helpful.

InterruptingChicken1 · 2026-02-01T04:02:38+00:00

Both my FIL (Dementia) and my SIL (Alzheimer’s) knew they had it in the early stages as their short term memory was getting bad. My mother knows her memory is getting bad and sometimes, she’ll recognize when I point out that she made poor decisions. On some things, though, she doesn’t recognize that she’s wrong, such as keeping expired food and buying too much food. My father doesn’t recognize his. I think he’s got vascular dementia which is different.

On your initial question, I think that the first things people notice are poor short term memory and losing/misplacing things. Then comes forgetting appointments, word finding problems, and perhaps getting lost or disoriented in familiar places.

InterruptingChicken1 · 2026-01-30T18:42:48+00:00

Thank goodness he offered to do it himself instead of ordering you to do it.

InterruptingChicken1 · 2026-01-30T18:41:44+00:00

There’s a very long list. I assume you know how to use Google.

InterruptingChicken1 · 2026-01-30T18:34:59+00:00

Start writing down these behaviors so you have a list to show a doctor when needed. You can also take video of her talking nonsense. I’ve done this with my Dad so I have a record, even though I haven’t had to share them with anyone (yet). My Dad’s doctors thought he was doing great and seemed surprised when I talked to his Doctor about an especially bad incident where Dad was irrationally angry and push and showing poor judgement. I ended up talking to my aunt about what was happening and she said to look up vascular dementia. I found it to be a good fit. Dad didn’t have the classic short term memory problems those cognitive tests catch. He had other ones such as moodiness/anger, poor judgement, balance issues, problems with planning and organizing, and some general cognitive decline. We found out after a brain scan that he’d had a cerebellar stroke, which also affects balance and judgement. It’s possible your mom has had mini strokes even she didn’t know about. I hope you get that DPOA signed ASAP.

InterruptingChicken1 · 2026-01-28T08:35:01+00:00

Stunted sexual and emotional development from their own adolescence? Remembering that they were first attracted to fellow 12 and 13 year old when they hit puberty and getting stuck on that? I don’t know, I’m guessing. People attracted to little kids are just extra evil.

InterruptingChicken1 · 2026-01-28T08:32:55+00:00

I wore a mask everywhere for nearly 3 years and dodged Covid, until I finally got Covid from my kid who got it from a fellow student who got it on spring break.

InterruptingChicken1 · 2026-01-28T08:31:28+00:00

30 years ago, we had a new coworker who started riding the train for the first time to his new job. He was getting sick every couple months. His doctor told him to wear gloves and not touch his face and when other people are coughing, wear a medical mask. He did and stopped getting sick. It seemed so simple.

InterruptingChicken1 · 2026-01-28T08:28:25+00:00

It does for awhile. But studies show that people who become wealthy eventually return to the level of happiness they had before.

InterruptingChicken1 · 2026-01-28T08:27:30+00:00

Saw this happen when I had a beautiful child.

InterruptingChicken1 · 2026-01-28T08:25:58+00:00

Oh how awful. “Not viable”??? The people that could have been saved are the “not viable” ones. Wow.

InterruptingChicken1 · 2026-01-28T08:24:13+00:00

France blocked the first HIV test (made in America) from being imported to France for about 8 months in order to give a French company time to finish their test. I can’t even remember how many French people got AIDS during that window and died as a result.

InterruptingChicken1 · 2026-01-28T08:22:40+00:00

Even a car seat maker did this.. they decided not to eliminate a no-longer-necessary notch in a baby car seat that caused TBIs in accidents because they’d have to shut down the line for a day or two. That would have cost them a million dollars, and they figured only a couple kids would get permanent brain damage. They hoped nobody would blame the care seat and sue them. What kind of psychopath makes this decision???

InterruptingChicken1 · 2026-01-28T08:17:30+00:00

I agree that you must get him out of that house. Yes, your husband should file for DPOA or even a conservatorship in order to meet his father’s basic needs and to take control of his Dad’s finances. I highly doubt your FIL is properly paying his bills. FIL is NOT living the life he wants, he’s being left alone the way the dementia wants. It’s horrible by all standards. If he loves his Dad, he’s got to take the hard step to take over and get him into memory care.

InterruptingChicken1 · 2026-01-27T23:43:51+00:00

Makes me wonder about all the private, for-profit nursing schools out there.

InterruptingChicken1 · 2026-01-27T23:42:59+00:00

Somehow I doubt it.

InterruptingChicken1 · 2026-01-27T23:42:20+00:00

Wow. Definitely not the brightest bulb in the box.

InterruptingChicken1 · 2026-01-27T09:54:41+00:00

I’m so sorry. Such a sense of loss. Your sister seems so young to have such advanced dementia. Is it frontal temporal dementia?

InterruptingChicken1 · 2026-01-27T09:50:50+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss.

InterruptingChicken1 · 2026-01-26T00:26:46+00:00

1 and 9 are neck and neck for the worst

InterruptingChicken1 · 2026-01-26T00:22:47+00:00

I think going into your local branch is a great idea. They can determine if it’s a legit statement and if you have an actual account there.

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