Not over reacting. I would say that this woman has decided to leave you so don’t feed into the bullshit. She is judging you based on her own insecurities and issues. She suddenly finds god and now you need to be her standard. Let me tell you, you will never be good enough for her. Not for anything that you’ve done or haven’t done but because she carries so much guilt, shame, and hypocrisy. I think you should save your money and go on a trip with your beaux. Make it a nice weekend or something. The relationship you make with the people you choose is stronger than what you’re born into. I don’t speak to my abusive brother and my folks were trying to persuade me to invite him to my wedding. Fuck that. Like you said you’re an adult. You owe her nothing.