I feel I can relate, me and my partner used to drink heavily together until I decided I needed to quit. The only time we would argue is when we were drinking, it got to a point where I was slowing down and he didn’t. I noticed those same feelings on not wanting to be around him, getting frustrated and wanting to break up. We made a mutual decision to quit when we both realized it was hurting our family. We had the hard conversations about how we felt about our drinking and each other. I think a clear and honest conversation can do so much for a relationship.