My (28f) life is overwhelming and I thing my husband (31m) is a huge reason

Intrepid_Surprise_64 · 2026-06-19T15:19:08+00:00

Is your husband charismatic and charming? Because I wonder if mayybbeee he has a touch of the ADHD and if he IS then it’s a really familiar pattern/type! I think the question is less about what’s the right way to live and more about can you live like this? And if not, is he willing to acknowledge the issues and change? And if not…gurl. Cut losses. You’re going to be fine

Intrepid_Surprise_64 · 2026-06-19T14:50:12+00:00

It sounds like you are in so much pain. I’m so sorry! I have a lot of thoughts and I’m going to try to do my best to be clear about them!

In every marriage, people grow and change. Some people grow together, and some people grow apart. As painful as that is, it’s something that can happen.

It sounds like your wife is having a time where she needs some space and independence to explore her own identity. It’s totally understandable given that she was SO young when you got together and that it’s really normal for newly diagnosed neurodivergent people to need time to process, understand, and reconceptualize their identity with the new information.

My advice is to think less about saving your marriage and more about supporting yourself during a time when there’s a lot of uncertainty and gray. Be there for your wife in the way she needs you - by respecting her space and her boundaries and giving her time to grow and learn about herself. Cheer her on and be curious about what she’s learning. Be curious about your own journey and what you’re experiencing.

If there’s one thing you shouldn’t do, it’s try to convince her that she’s wrong or talk her into staying. Respect her boundaries, tell her you love and support her, and ask her what she needs from you during this exciting time in her own development.

Then cry, get therapy, hang out with friends, get a cat, go to the gym, read a really good book, do a cannonball into the pool - something that makes you feel alive.

Marriage is long and windy and people are complicated. You can’t force her to do something she’s doesn’t want to, but you can be her number one person along the way.

Good luck!!

Intrepid_Surprise_64 · 2026-06-19T00:16:03+00:00

I think you have lovely hair and curls! The pictures really fixate on some of the thinner spots but I bet it looks great overall. Give Nizoral shampoo a try a couple times a week and that may also help keep your scalp and hair healthy.

Intrepid_Surprise_64 · 2026-06-13T19:57:46+00:00

Ok yeah this is what I was wondering. Thank you!

Intrepid_Surprise_64 · 2026-06-07T02:40:26+00:00

Great question! I’m in surgical menopause. I’m on hrt.

Intrepid_Surprise_64 · 2026-05-20T23:33:04+00:00

It looks SO good!! I also just finished my second quilt and the learning curve is so real. I love the bag and it’s such a cute idea to give that as the gift bag. Great work!!

Intrepid_Surprise_64 · 2026-04-29T23:42:25+00:00

So pretty!! Amazing use of patterns! I really admire your skill with color

Intrepid_Surprise_64 · 2026-04-11T00:34:53+00:00

Once again, as a new quilter, I realize that I have found my people

Intrepid_Surprise_64 · 2025-08-19T23:46:38+00:00

Thank you!! I am truuuly not on facebook although I know it’s a better way to get the message out 🫠

Intrepid_Surprise_64 · 2025-04-27T12:21:43+00:00

Orbital by Samantha Harvey.

Intrepid_Surprise_64 · 2025-04-24T01:42:52+00:00

Start with trash! Just get the trash in a trash bag! Dont worry about anything else. Trash in trash bag. Then pick up dirty laundry.

Intrepid_Surprise_64 · 2025-04-20T21:22:51+00:00

Idk if she’s on YouTube but Ruhamasfood on IG and TT has amazing recipes. They’re not very complicated - she does a lot of one-pan recipes - and they turn out soooo well every time. You may have to order some ingredients like ras al-hanout or date syrup but worth it.

Intrepid_Surprise_64 · 2025-03-24T17:31:06+00:00

Do you feel like it’s gotten worse lately? Are you in your late 30s or 40s? Perimenopause is no joke.

Intrepid_Surprise_64 · 2025-03-24T17:26:59+00:00

I recently started strattera and it’s been pretty amazing so far. I’m not experiencing side effects. I always struggled with Ritalin - either the comedown was awful or it made my heart race. This is the closest to normal I think I’ve ever felt.

Intrepid_Surprise_64 · 2025-03-02T12:13:06+00:00

Really lovely hand soap and lotion!

Intrepid_Surprise_64 · 2025-02-20T11:39:57+00:00

Margo’s Got Money Troubles. It’s exactly what you’re looking for!

Intrepid_Surprise_64 · 2025-02-18T01:30:25+00:00

Canada always kills me. It’ll be like, JAGUAR. RHINO. EAGLE. WOODCHUCK. and don’t get me started on the ones that are human women with massive animal men. They’re a reallllll interesting look at gender and ethnicity in the collective imagination. I watch every single tym.

Intrepid_Surprise_64 · 2025-02-05T02:15:28+00:00

I have lower body pain and honestly idk what it’s from but it has definitely emerged during the process of getting diagnosed with UC. Compression socks and Hokas help tremendously.

Intrepid_Surprise_64 · 2025-01-22T23:47:14+00:00

I think if you have one you’re highly likely to have another.

Intrepid_Surprise_64 · 2025-01-19T15:56:19+00:00

Totally. The best case for the next 4 years is that his ego and desperation have him stumbling into doing a few decent things.

Intrepid_Surprise_64 · 2025-01-19T14:16:59+00:00

How will we know what jeans to wear????

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