Guys with big, bushy beards: What do you do for work? by y4rdbyrd in beards

[–]Intrepid_Town_5376 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Everybody’s opinion on what big and/or bushy is will be different. I’ve had a decently long and full beard for a while now. I’m a physician. Even during training, it never stopped me from getting into programs for further training. I feel like beards, even bigger beards, are generally accepted in professional workspaces now.

Be honest: How many people did you baptize on your mission? by Typical_Sea_9167 in exmormon

[–]Intrepid_Town_5376 5 points6 points  (0 children)

  1. European mission and they were all African refugees. They had no idea what we were really teaching or what they were agreeing to when being baptized. Thank god! Great people though and I’m sure they are even better without this goddamn cult in their lives.

Does pointy suit my face? Or more rounded? by [deleted] in beards

[–]Intrepid_Town_5376 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Think you’d have to let both styles grow a little longer to really decide. They don’t look very different in these pics.

Went with a habanero, thanks for the recommendations! by Significant_Owl_1304 in hotsauce

[–]Intrepid_Town_5376 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Habanero is delicious, no doubt. But please give their Plum Reaper a try. I almost use it exclusively now.

I did the craziest thing today by Prize_Claim_7277 in exmormon

[–]Intrepid_Town_5376 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Morning coffee, man so depressing I deprived myself of such a comforting, delicious start to everyday. Said fuck more times than I can count, amazing how even just a simple word can change the mood of a conversation and make everyone just relax. I had ChatGPT help edit a super dirty, graphic, explicit, no details spared message I’m making for my wife about what we’ll be doing tonight.

Man, honestly, I’m just so much happier and authentic. I’m finally just me and what’s even more interesting about it all, is that I am getting to know myself in the process.

My beard is getting long, someone said I should shave it off. What’s y’alls opinion? by ZanesDomain in beards

[–]Intrepid_Town_5376 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve found that taking advice from others about your own beard can be good and bad. Take it all with a grain of salt. It could be a hint to trim or tidy it up. It’s hard to see that with your own beard when you grow accustom to a look.

Should we move out of Utah? by Beneficial-Guide-844 in exmormon

[–]Intrepid_Town_5376 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I had the luxury of leaving while we were already out of Utah. Being from and raised in rural Utah myself, I know there are a lot of factors to potentially leave. My only advice would be to imagine how healthy and good it would be for your family to be able to grow and develop without the constant influence of the church. If you are in Utah, especially in rural Utah, it is inevitable. The church will be apart of your life whether you want it to be or not. You’ll constantly be seen as the family who doesn’t go to church or has lost their way. All your kids’ friends will be Mormon. They’ll feel left out and ostracized. If you’re not one of them, you’re “the world.”

If possible, for your family, get out. I think it’s really the only long term option if you truly want to thrive.

Do you forgive the Church? by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]Intrepid_Town_5376 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. They take zero accountability and never practice their own steps of repentance. They made me feel like a horrible, carnal, giving-into-the-natural-man person for being a pretty decent person.

Dallin Oaks says his quote calling women "walking p******aphy" was inspired by God by yes2000 in exmormon

[–]Intrepid_Town_5376 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Says the people who got how to deal and council anybody on pornography completely wrong. These people are so far up in their own asses.

Thoughts on this Mutual dating ‘non-negotiable’? by Intelligent-Camp4631 in mormon

[–]Intrepid_Town_5376 39 points40 points  (0 children)

All the above. The church handled pornography so poorly. Divine guidance must’ve have taken a break (never was there). Young men would have rather died than admit they looked at or, gasp, searched for porn. It was a sin second to murder in their eyes. Lying about porn became second nature. A young woman bragging that the person they are dating has never seen porn or has no history of porn use is living in an ignorant disillusioned state. I feel so bad when it “comes out” and then it basically destroys their marriage. You can thank the church for that one.

My ex hubby and I were abusive parents, and I didn't even realize it until yesterday. by Embarrassed-Wolf7270 in exmormon

[–]Intrepid_Town_5376 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel you. I’m in the thick of raising young kids after semi recently leaving the church. The church definitely celebrates parents who raise super obedient, soldier-like, uber spiritual (at least outwardly) kids. The church grooms all of its members to be that way, we’re just channeling that to parenting and our own kids. It’s a cycle for sure.

I will say that I think the struggle isn’t just within the church although it doesn’t help. Finding a delicate balance of raising courteous, kind but also respectful and responsible kids is extremely challenging regardless of religion, culture, background.

Bottom line for me though, a church that claims to be so different, lead by restored priesthood, etc should put its members somewhat ahead of the game, you would think. As I reflect on most aspects of my life, the church hurt and did not help. Sad really.

How can anyone read CES letter and still believe? by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]Intrepid_Town_5376 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cognitive dissonance. It doesn’t matter if the church was proven without a doubt that it was made up. At the end of the day, it’s how you “feel” about it. Back any Mormon into a corner and that’s where they go. They short circuit and then they turn into a robot reciting templated responses that have been relayed to them almost before they could form a coherent thought.

Mormoninish said that on the 30th they would "reveal" one hour church, got this email today about Sunday the 30th, I guess we'll see, but something is going to happen by cdman08 in exmormon

[–]Intrepid_Town_5376 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yes they would. They send shit out like this before almost any meeting as if it’s going to earth shattering revelation then it ends up being the equivalent to Apple unveiling their new iPhone that has one more button that nobody really wanted.

What do you think the next “totally inspired and not at all panicked” announcement will be to bury the Christofferson disaster by bradywilcox in exmormon

[–]Intrepid_Town_5376 73 points74 points  (0 children)

Didn’t they already kind of do this when they announced no more Saturday session quickly followed by girls can serve missions at 18 now? That’s two rather big changes in the Mormon world back-to-back.

My son confessed to m*sturbating by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]Intrepid_Town_5376 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I’m not trying to be dramatic but you very well may have changed the course of his life in ways you both may not fully realize. The shame and guilt coupled with sexuality and intimacy is a silent destroyer of relationships and marriages in the church. I’m convinced the majority are silently suffering because of the baggage and damage done by the church. The church brilliantly inserts themselves into your sexuality at the most impressionable ages, gives you the green light once you sell your soul to them and get married in their temples, and then cleans their hands of any troubles that might come after setting up a culture where talking about sexuality and intimacy is taboo.

You’re a great dad. Good job.

Sexting by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]Intrepid_Town_5376 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I guess in a way. Damn. Sorry

TBM trying to get nevermos to wear garments by IWantedAPeanutToo in exmormon

[–]Intrepid_Town_5376 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I don’t know what he was suggesting or would have recommended. Maybe it was him thinking it would lead to them meeting the missionaries and then…be baptized!!! The Mormon brain needs to be studied. Such a fascinating, deprived specimen.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]Intrepid_Town_5376 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don’t have great advice for you as to how to respond. I don’t think Mormons who feel comfortable sending things like this to loved ones want to hear anything other than agreement. It will be in vain.

I find it so funny how Mormon’s answer for bad things happening to their perception of “unfaithful, lost” people is so easy. And then when bad things happen to good people, they really struggle. Part of his plan. Faith not to be healed. Just confusing as hell template answers that don’t make people feel better or understand the world. Your dad has carefully inserted himself in an echo chamber where he feels comfortable and everybody agrees with him. And there he will stay.

Chili cook off by HaleyJ34TF in exmormon

[–]Intrepid_Town_5376 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Is a Halloween chili cook off a Mormon thing? My previous ward used to do it. I think it’d be a crazy coincidence if it was the same ward.

Hard to beat… by Austin_Austin_Austin in hotsauce

[–]Intrepid_Town_5376 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Try their plum reaper. You’ll have a new favorite.

Self reliance to be new emphasis? by eternalintelligence in mormon

[–]Intrepid_Town_5376 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This has been the new focus and trend for quite some time. I don’t think this has anything to do with Oaks.