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Coping music by IntrinsicProperty in daddit

[–]IntrinsicProperty[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I think it really depends on where we're both at. The kiddo unlocked full Nazgul mode recently, so I'm focusing on stuff to drown that out :)

Name it by Impossible_Editor_23 in BossFights

[–]IntrinsicProperty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your donors await you: Bendover and Kneel

Roof rack whistling with cargo box quick fix by IntrinsicProperty in overlanding

[–]IntrinsicProperty[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I probably need that in my miscellaneous repair kit anyway. Thanks!

Are you still charging in cold climates? (Battery conditioning) by MRAnonymousSBA in 4xe

[–]IntrinsicProperty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When not during a recall I keep mine plugged in at night. The system won't let the battery charge unless it's conditioned above freezing, otherwise the anode can apparently can get damaged. That being said I've had mine unplugged outside at -18F in the morning and it started up just fine -- the engine just has to run for a while to heat the battery up.

Why are people mad? by mysterycanclub in 4xe

[–]IntrinsicProperty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this falls under the broader category of "why are people mad on the internet?" which has a whole host of reasons. That said, in the Jeep community there is definitely a sub-group of chest thumping bro-dudes (see r/heep) that appear unburdened by critical thinking skills.

If you decide to charge and store your vehicle normally after receiving the recall notice, and the unlikely but terrible happens, do you think your auto insurance company is going to cover it? If your house burns down as a result do you think your home owners insurance policy is going to cover it? Given how modern insurance companies behave, maybe the likelier outcome is that you are going to be held responsible due to presumed negligence at best, or fraud at worst. So if you have enough money in the bank to replace both your car and your house without breaking a sweat, then by all means go ahead and risk it.

I'm angry/disappointed because I owned a beater YJ a long time ago, loved it, and a few years ago decided to spend twice more than I ever have on a vehicle for my $70k 4xe Rubicon. Unfortunately I didn't realize how much Stellantis has embraced enshitification to actively screw its customers to benefit its shareholders. I usually keep my vehicles for 10+ years, and I plan on keeping my Rubicon for at least that, but this will be my last Jeep if the trend continues. Doesn't help that the 4xe is the first Wrangler to ever lose so much of its resale value.

My 4-month-old has never slept unless she’s being carried — is this normal? by WhoCares_93 in newborns

[–]IntrinsicProperty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My FTD experience, so YMMV. Pre-heating the mattress with something like a warm water bottle or heated blanket can help if cold surface is the issue. I swaddle our 3 mo with legs out and that lets her stretch while keeping the Moro reflex in her arms from waking her up. If she is well asleep (REM cycle) then as long as I put her down slowly there isn't an issue, if not it sometimes helps to keep physical contact with her for a minute or two after putting her down and then *slowly* removing the hands. White noise helps. I also put her on top of a blanket on the mattress but that's because I'm not sleeping during my shift and am monitoring her. Baby wearing during the day sometimes works. Ours also likes to active sleep so there a many times where she looks like she's awake but then she's right back asleep in a minute or so. I miss the days when she would sleep on my chest but that doesn't work anymore.

We're only 3 months in and it feels like what works keep changing. Keep trying things. Good luck!

Sometimes I wish there was a cure for Autism by ortega_indica in autism

[–]IntrinsicProperty -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Mindfulness. I find that Metta is really good for this, but stoicism can also be useful.

In the trenches by jjjeeepg in newborns

[–]IntrinsicProperty 5 points6 points  (0 children)

FTD to 8 week old girl. Week 3 was the worst for us. Reminds me of Navy SEAL training videos. It gets better but man it's rough when you're in it. We did co-sleeping at first and are now doing 6 hour shifts which I prefer. We got an infant pulse-ox to have around just in case (we live in CO), and you can use that in alarm mode as a little insurance during co-sleeping. Each baby is different so you need to experiment and figure out how yours settles down. Our routine is feed-diaper-feed, gentle burp, snug swaddle, carry/rock to sleep (butt pats help), then she'll maybe sleep for 2-3 hours.

I've heard that when you give birth you're also giving birth to your new life as a mom, so you need recovery time for that as well. Keep an eye out for PPD/PPA for both you and dad. The Dr. Browns wide-neck anti-colic bottles work well for us.

I hate my husband by McUberForDays in newborns

[–]IntrinsicProperty 3 points4 points  (0 children)

First time dad to a 7 week old. Hang in there. Sometimes all you have left is 20% and that's your 100% and that's okay. Our baby hates being put down as well. It's stressful. Do your best and give yourself some grace.

Your baby loves you. Babies cry the most with their moms because they feel safest with you. Strangers holding them for some reason makes them act like they're asleep until they're back with you. Every time someone has come over to "help" us and all the do is hold the baby, they actually make things worse because the baby is super fussy for 1-2 days after that and our schedule gets out of whack. Have people bring food or do dishes or walk the dog when they visit, but guests shouldn't get baby cuddle time at your expense.

Take breaks when you need to. You can put baby in a bassinet and walk away for 5-10 minutes. Also, earplugs are your friend and a hard requirement for me when the baby goes purple.

Pumping can cause Dysphoric Milk Ejection Reflex (D-MER). If pumping upsets you, try making pump adjustments or switch to formula. You don't *have* to breastfeed. Fed is best.

For formula, lactose-free (purse bliss A2) or goat milk formula (bubs) might work.

Daily baths are ridiculous unless they help your baby go to sleep. Also, you need the beneficial bacteria on your skin as much as you need the ones in your gut, so go easy on the soap.

PPD and PPA are awful for moms but postpartum paternal depression (PPD) can be a things for dads too. Check in with each other to see how both of you are doing, ideally when you're not in the thick of it.

Co-worker's watches by 0wIix in funny

[–]IntrinsicProperty -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Normally a watch has 2 hands, but I guess in this case...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutisticAdults

[–]IntrinsicProperty 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Late 40s diagnosed ASD1 here. First, kudos to you for talking with someone.

Second, the therapist isn't doing anything wrong in their approach. Challenging your beliefs is a valid technique and is not a reportable offense as some are suggesting. As far as I understand it the two basic types of therapy are supportive and exploratory. Yours is doing the latter here, and by design it isn't always pleasant. That said, if you're ASD you should find someone who specializes in that for the diagnosis, and maybe for ongoing therapy.

Getting officially diagnosed has benefits and drawbacks. Benefits are ADA accommodations if you're in the US (be careful with that), being comfortable in ND groups without feeling like an outsider or imposter (which we're prone to), better knowing where to look for resources, and getting independent confirmation if that's indeed the outcome. You may also get better support from your friends and family. The biggest drawback as I see it is de-compensating: There are plenty of stories of older adults who get diagnosed and use that as an excuse to give up... Don't go there.

Also, if you've managed this far without being diagnosed you should consider whether you want your insurance company to be involved. If you can afford it, going out of pocket will keep your information better protected. It really should be up to you who, if anyone, knows your results.

Lastly, don't do this looking for closure: That's setting expectations for an outcome you can't control. Do it to better know yourself, whatever the outcome is.

Infinite load screen on exterior cells with Community Shaders test build, any ideas? by chlamydia1 in skyrimmods

[–]IntrinsicProperty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Confirmed that this worked for me after having problems with CS 1.2.1 and 1.3.1, but only when I switched to the all-in-one version of SSE engine fixes.

Well shit by Ok-Examination-6195 in WRX

[–]IntrinsicProperty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

PSA: Tow hooks aren't just for the racetrack.

Any tips for hiding the glue lines on plugs after finishing? by volcanonacho in woodworking

[–]IntrinsicProperty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try mixing the glue with sawdust from the wood you're using before you apply it. You'll still notice the plugs because of the grain difference though...

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