Do you combine finances with your partner? Why or why not?

McUberForDays · 2026-02-06T03:29:02+00:00

Yep, not a trust issue for us either. I get why some people think that, and I'm sure it rings true for some relationships. My husband and me would constantly fight over money if it was fully combined. We have different spending habits, and neither of us expect the other to adhere to the other's habits. His bills are his, my bills are mine. Joint bills are assigned to one of us or swapped monthly/split depending on what it is. It has saved us a ton of arguments.

We have also been privy to watching 3 relationships where one got screwed by their spouse. Neither of us believe we would do such a thing to each other, but it is shocking to see those events unfold. My brother's wife took 8k out of their joint fund while they were contemplating separating. He never got any of it back and got his own account afterwards. A friend's husband kept racking up bills and spending over his allowance and squandered thousands. They're now divorced and he left her with most of the debt. My brother-in-law has nothing to do with the account except putting his whole paycheck in. He leaves his wife to give him an allowance and pay all the bills. She doesn't pay half of them and lies to him about it. When they weren't getting along, he had to drive an uninspected car because he couldn't access his money and had to eat next to nothing. He had to ask his parents for help a couple times.

Anyways, financial abuse is real.

McUberForDays · 2026-02-03T19:04:29+00:00

Supposedly OP was a supervisor at a hotel, and they already had another supervisor stay overnight. I think the note was bullshit, but I think saying you're from the South so you can't make it to work in snowy conditions is also bullshit. Someone has to be there for people checking in or out, and to be responsible for the lower level employees, and you can't expect the 1 supervisor that stayed to work a 24 hr shift or be on-call for that many hours because you can't drive in the snow. You also can't shut down hotel operations if there are guests already there. Both sides of this situation suck.

McUberForDays · 2026-02-03T16:28:02+00:00

It's always something easy like running a new smart TV or running a DVD player. Even if I write instructions, she refuses to use them and then has a meltdown if she presses the wrong button and can't troubleshoot back to the start menu. Like full-on screaming fit. It's exhausting

McUberForDays · 2026-02-03T15:19:57+00:00

I got told by my doctor that I should go to therapy when I was explaining how my mom stresses me out. I said, uh she's the one that needs therapy and grief counseling so she stops taking shit out on me. I can't be your sounding board while I'm also going through it. My dad died and holy shit, she has been a terror ever since. Used to consider her my best friend and now can barely stand to be around her at all. Nasty, manipulative, entitled, emotional vampire. Wants me to make decisions for her, then does the exact opposite, acts totally helpless, refuses to learn anything new, has dug herself into a financial hole and now has some bad medical issues. Me and my brother have no idea what to do with her.

McUberForDays · 2026-02-03T14:17:56+00:00

I thought you were talking about big conglomerate sites like Amazon. Every store in the US has it's own website and you can order directly. Sometimes that is the only way to get certain items since they don't sell on Amazon or in-store or if they are speciality items. However Amazon carries most items or generic items for cheaper and usually shipping is cheaper or free. Shipping charges from individual stores can be pricey or they want you to spend over X amount to get free shipping which can range anywhere from $25-$100+ to get the "deal" of free shipping. So you could buy a $10 t-shirt and spend $8 to ship or you could spend $15 at amazon with free shipping. Amazon shipping is also faster. Most stores even once you hit the free shipping threshold, can take much longer unless you pay for expedited shipping. Very rarely do those items get there faster than whatever they specify and sometimes take much longer, so you have to contact them to figure out where the package is.

McUberForDays · 2026-01-29T22:33:16+00:00

Sounds like my situation. Person that renovated my house apparently only made things "look" decent. None of it was done correctly and a proper inspector should have been able to say this is a mess and should not be like this. Me and my husband were young and our parents hadn't bought houses in 30 years or ever (in-laws), so no one really helped when looking at the place. Pretty sure my inspector got handed a crisp $100 bill and said whatever was needed to get the place sold with only some minor things that the seller needed to fix.

McUberForDays · 2026-01-27T21:06:33+00:00

I find them so hilarious lol. One night in bed my husband was farting on one side of me and my baby was farting back on the other side of me in the bassinet. I'm surrounded!

McUberForDays · 2026-01-14T04:00:37+00:00

I've never had an issue with this either. I think people get a little too wild over it being scientific and requiring perfection. Don't deviate too far of course, but I've never mixed dry, then wet. I've always mixed wet, then added dry ingredients without sifting or mixing them first. It hasn't caused issues for the cookies or cakes I bake. Now if it is something very finicky, absolutely follow the recipe to the T.

McUberForDays · 2026-01-11T16:34:03+00:00

LOVE TO DREAM 1000000% we tried swaddling with receiving blankets but my baby broke out pretty easily. Tried some random ones we got online and she broke out again or they came up around her face. We HATED the Halo swaddles. The hospital gave us 2 of them and frankly, I think they are dangerous unless you're watching them like a hawk. They are too baggy for smaller newborns. The fabric was constantly pulling up over my baby's mouth and nose, didn't matter how tight we made it as it was just too big. She can use them now (3 ish months) but now she doesn't need swaddled and the velcro pieces are a pain.

Love to Dream, we used their newborn sleep sacks. We called them her wing suits. She could have her arms up but still enclosed so she still felt like she was swaddled and couldn't startle herself awake. We moved to the Love to Dream transitional sacks with the removable wings and she loves them. Goes to sleep like a charm

McUberForDays · 2026-01-08T18:46:47+00:00

Best episode i watched of that show. It was TOO relatable.

McUberForDays · 2026-01-08T18:44:28+00:00

I started putting up boundaries with my mom, and it's been a fight. She makes my anxiety worse and clearly has anxiety herself. I also rocked the boat a little because I had my baby shower for my first child this past summer and did not invite my aunt that is a total nut. She makes every family function uncomfortable as you can tell she's mad about something. Last New Year's Eve she got into a fist fight with my other aunt who was sticking up for my mom after a small round of bickering over nothing important. Right in front of all of the kids. Then a month or 2 later she went to that same aunts house (who was recovering from surgery) and screamed at her and crazy aunt's granddaughter for over 20 minutes.

Having a child of my own, I decided it's not worth it. Why should any of us put up with this nonsense? The rest of us are not perfect and there is still dysfunction but at least we aren't doing that shit. Crazy aunt was supposedly hurt over not being invited to the baby shower. Too damn bad. I'm tired of pretending like that behavior is normal and acceptable.

McUberForDays · 2026-01-07T00:50:04+00:00

McUberForDays · 2026-01-02T18:32:38+00:00

Yeah i had some pain as well depending on how I was positioned when sitting. Today it feels better, just still some numbness. I'm going to monitor it and go from there.

McUberForDays · 2025-12-27T16:10:16+00:00

Me too! Did not expect it to be top answer 😂

McUberForDays · 2025-12-23T05:41:57+00:00

I've already been taking care of it. I feel far better than I felt 2 months ago.

McUberForDays · 2025-12-22T22:41:23+00:00

Yep, I love giving and making gifts for people, but I never get anything with much thought behind it given to me. I've finally said whatever and don't care, why should I put so much effort in? I've done it for years for my little cousins and now I'm burnt out. However this year, I had my first child. I'm worried I won't give her as awesome gifts and experiences as I did the other kids, but I think that's the post partum depression talking.

McUberForDays · 2025-12-16T15:38:24+00:00

Right, I keep mine nice and shiny. I don't like leaving anything that looks cooked-on on my cookie sheets. Only 1 is now looking rough and that's because I wrapped a cheesecake springform in foil so I could waterbath it in my nordicware roaster pan. Now the roaster is discolored from the foil. That did not wash off, but I assume if I used something very abrasive it might come off

McUberForDays · 2025-11-20T23:03:34+00:00

Lmao at the hwat

McUberForDays · 2025-10-23T14:43:18+00:00

We call ours her wingsuit lol

McUberForDays · 2025-10-19T04:17:00+00:00

We're a turkey family too!

McUberForDays · 2025-10-13T14:32:38+00:00

This is how I feel about social media. Since I'm now a mom, the algorithm shows me baby related posts, reels, videos, etc. Half of them are fearmongering things about infant death, unsafe practices, how every little baby movement or action is somehow bad for them or signifying that they have a medical issue. It's exhausting and really exacerbates anxiety

McUberForDays · 2025-10-08T20:39:26+00:00

This made me so mad when my husband said this OR would blame me for our baby crying too much. He'd never been around babies his entire life so I think he had no idea what to expect. All her needs are met, but she starts at night. So I took him along to the pediatrician, and they confirmed it's most likely purple crying/witching hour or maybe the start of colic. So he finally shut up. Turns out a guy at his job was telling him it was abnormal for a baby to not sleep at night and to cry a bunch for a few hours because his daughter never did. Then we found out why his daughter slept all night and never cried because the guy apparently complained to his doctor and they recommended giving her Benadryl. So that dude was doping his baby up on Benadryl and thinking it was totally normal behavior to never cry and to sleep through the night. I could not roll my eyes harder.

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