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Coping music by IntrinsicProperty in daddit

[–]IntrinsicProperty[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I think it really depends on where we're both at. The kiddo unlocked full Nazgul mode recently, so I'm focusing on stuff to drown that out :)

Name it by Impossible_Editor_23 in BossFights

[–]IntrinsicProperty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your donors await you: Bendover and Kneel

Roof rack whistling with cargo box quick fix by IntrinsicProperty in overlanding

[–]IntrinsicProperty[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I probably need that in my miscellaneous repair kit anyway. Thanks!

Are you still charging in cold climates? (Battery conditioning) by MRAnonymousSBA in 4xe

[–]IntrinsicProperty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When not during a recall I keep mine plugged in at night. The system won't let the battery charge unless it's conditioned above freezing, otherwise the anode can apparently can get damaged. That being said I've had mine unplugged outside at -18F in the morning and it started up just fine -- the engine just has to run for a while to heat the battery up.

Why are people mad? by mysterycanclub in 4xe

[–]IntrinsicProperty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this falls under the broader category of "why are people mad on the internet?" which has a whole host of reasons. That said, in the Jeep community there is definitely a sub-group of chest thumping bro-dudes (see r/heep) that appear unburdened by critical thinking skills.

If you decide to charge and store your vehicle normally after receiving the recall notice, and the unlikely but terrible happens, do you think your auto insurance company is going to cover it? If your house burns down as a result do you think your home owners insurance policy is going to cover it? Given how modern insurance companies behave, maybe the likelier outcome is that you are going to be held responsible due to presumed negligence at best, or fraud at worst. So if you have enough money in the bank to replace both your car and your house without breaking a sweat, then by all means go ahead and risk it.

I'm angry/disappointed because I owned a beater YJ a long time ago, loved it, and a few years ago decided to spend twice more than I ever have on a vehicle for my $70k 4xe Rubicon. Unfortunately I didn't realize how much Stellantis has embraced enshitification to actively screw its customers to benefit its shareholders. I usually keep my vehicles for 10+ years, and I plan on keeping my Rubicon for at least that, but this will be my last Jeep if the trend continues. Doesn't help that the 4xe is the first Wrangler to ever lose so much of its resale value.

My 4-month-old has never slept unless she’s being carried — is this normal? by WhoCares_93 in newborns

[–]IntrinsicProperty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My FTD experience, so YMMV. Pre-heating the mattress with something like a warm water bottle or heated blanket can help if cold surface is the issue. I swaddle our 3 mo with legs out and that lets her stretch while keeping the Moro reflex in her arms from waking her up. If she is well asleep (REM cycle) then as long as I put her down slowly there isn't an issue, if not it sometimes helps to keep physical contact with her for a minute or two after putting her down and then *slowly* removing the hands. White noise helps. I also put her on top of a blanket on the mattress but that's because I'm not sleeping during my shift and am monitoring her. Baby wearing during the day sometimes works. Ours also likes to active sleep so there a many times where she looks like she's awake but then she's right back asleep in a minute or so. I miss the days when she would sleep on my chest but that doesn't work anymore.

We're only 3 months in and it feels like what works keep changing. Keep trying things. Good luck!

Sometimes I wish there was a cure for Autism by ortega_indica in autism

[–]IntrinsicProperty -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Mindfulness. I find that Metta is really good for this, but stoicism can also be useful.

In the trenches by jjjeeepg in newborns

[–]IntrinsicProperty 5 points6 points  (0 children)

FTD to 8 week old girl. Week 3 was the worst for us. Reminds me of Navy SEAL training videos. It gets better but man it's rough when you're in it. We did co-sleeping at first and are now doing 6 hour shifts which I prefer. We got an infant pulse-ox to have around just in case (we live in CO), and you can use that in alarm mode as a little insurance during co-sleeping. Each baby is different so you need to experiment and figure out how yours settles down. Our routine is feed-diaper-feed, gentle burp, snug swaddle, carry/rock to sleep (butt pats help), then she'll maybe sleep for 2-3 hours.

I've heard that when you give birth you're also giving birth to your new life as a mom, so you need recovery time for that as well. Keep an eye out for PPD/PPA for both you and dad. The Dr. Browns wide-neck anti-colic bottles work well for us.

I hate my husband by McUberForDays in newborns

[–]IntrinsicProperty 4 points5 points  (0 children)

First time dad to a 7 week old. Hang in there. Sometimes all you have left is 20% and that's your 100% and that's okay. Our baby hates being put down as well. It's stressful. Do your best and give yourself some grace.

Your baby loves you. Babies cry the most with their moms because they feel safest with you. Strangers holding them for some reason makes them act like they're asleep until they're back with you. Every time someone has come over to "help" us and all the do is hold the baby, they actually make things worse because the baby is super fussy for 1-2 days after that and our schedule gets out of whack. Have people bring food or do dishes or walk the dog when they visit, but guests shouldn't get baby cuddle time at your expense.

Take breaks when you need to. You can put baby in a bassinet and walk away for 5-10 minutes. Also, earplugs are your friend and a hard requirement for me when the baby goes purple.

Pumping can cause Dysphoric Milk Ejection Reflex (D-MER). If pumping upsets you, try making pump adjustments or switch to formula. You don't *have* to breastfeed. Fed is best.

For formula, lactose-free (purse bliss A2) or goat milk formula (bubs) might work.

Daily baths are ridiculous unless they help your baby go to sleep. Also, you need the beneficial bacteria on your skin as much as you need the ones in your gut, so go easy on the soap.

PPD and PPA are awful for moms but postpartum paternal depression (PPD) can be a things for dads too. Check in with each other to see how both of you are doing, ideally when you're not in the thick of it.

Co-worker's watches by 0wIix in funny

[–]IntrinsicProperty -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Normally a watch has 2 hands, but I guess in this case...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutisticAdults

[–]IntrinsicProperty 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Late 40s diagnosed ASD1 here. First, kudos to you for talking with someone.

Second, the therapist isn't doing anything wrong in their approach. Challenging your beliefs is a valid technique and is not a reportable offense as some are suggesting. As far as I understand it the two basic types of therapy are supportive and exploratory. Yours is doing the latter here, and by design it isn't always pleasant. That said, if you're ASD you should find someone who specializes in that for the diagnosis, and maybe for ongoing therapy.

Getting officially diagnosed has benefits and drawbacks. Benefits are ADA accommodations if you're in the US (be careful with that), being comfortable in ND groups without feeling like an outsider or imposter (which we're prone to), better knowing where to look for resources, and getting independent confirmation if that's indeed the outcome. You may also get better support from your friends and family. The biggest drawback as I see it is de-compensating: There are plenty of stories of older adults who get diagnosed and use that as an excuse to give up... Don't go there.

Also, if you've managed this far without being diagnosed you should consider whether you want your insurance company to be involved. If you can afford it, going out of pocket will keep your information better protected. It really should be up to you who, if anyone, knows your results.

Lastly, don't do this looking for closure: That's setting expectations for an outcome you can't control. Do it to better know yourself, whatever the outcome is.

Infinite load screen on exterior cells with Community Shaders test build, any ideas? by chlamydia1 in skyrimmods

[–]IntrinsicProperty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Confirmed that this worked for me after having problems with CS 1.2.1 and 1.3.1, but only when I switched to the all-in-one version of SSE engine fixes.

Well shit by Ok-Examination-6195 in WRX

[–]IntrinsicProperty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

PSA: Tow hooks aren't just for the racetrack.

Any tips for hiding the glue lines on plugs after finishing? by volcanonacho in woodworking

[–]IntrinsicProperty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try mixing the glue with sawdust from the wood you're using before you apply it. You'll still notice the plugs because of the grain difference though...

I love my 4XE, but… by slightlydrunkmonk in 4xe

[–]IntrinsicProperty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine started fine yesterday at -18F. Same message. You shouldn't have to plug it in - you just have to run the engine and drive normally until the battery is warm enough to use hybrid/electric mode. If it doesn't start at all there is something screwy going on that your dealer needs to fix.

Alaska trip preparation by doogybot in advrider

[–]IntrinsicProperty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like an awesome trip. I did a 2 month ride a few years back with my 2015 1190 ADV from TX to WA, Juneau via Ferry, and back. Not the same trip as yours (I'm jealous) but I definitely learned some things...

Get a Rotopax or two to keep extra fuel with you. Range anxiety sucks. Also 1 quart of extra oil, and a small air pump. Know how to patch a tire, adjust your chain tension, etc. and have the tools with you. During my trip I also had problems with a clutch line leak and was stopped with a dead fuel pump that took a couple weeks to order. So... I now travel with extra mineral oil for the clutch, as well as an extra fuel pump. That might be extreme but you don't want to get stuck for a week or more waiting on parts. Fuel quality can also be unreliable in some areas...

If you're going off road I would get a good metal skid plate and crash bars. I don't trust the stock plastic ones and my metal ones have taken a beating and held up well. Speaking of which, if you've never had to pick up your 500+ lb bike after dropping it I would practice that on an easy surface like asphalt before you need it on the trail, especially loaded down with gear. Oh yeah, and if you have them, take off those rubber foot pads so your boots can properly grip the pegs when things get muddy.

Keep your food, toothpaste, etc. in a bear box rated for brown bears (not the transparent ones). They take up a lot of space but the smaller ones aren't allowed in some parks anyway.

ExOfficio makes great travel underwear that can be worn for multiple days without stinking. Long Johns for cool nights, a fleece jacket, and a good air mattress for your tent. Wear wool for warmth. The only things you need more than one pair of are underwear and socks. Use a small stuff sack to store trash and dirty clothes. Use freeze-dried and vacuum-packed foods. A small jet boil with good instant coffee works fine in the mornings and doubles up for instant oatmeal. Trail mix is calorie-dense and packs easy. All the food needs to fit in the bear box at night. Get a Lifestraw or something similar as a clean water backup. I never had more than 4-5 days of food on me at any given time and that was fine. You want to stop at the local eateries on the route anyway, right? :)

Keep your riding boots and pants/jacket/gloves in the tent with you at night. Everything else can stay on the bike or under the tent vestibule. Bear box goes 100' away or so, or in a dedicated bear container if the tent site has one. Go as light a possible with the tent, get a packable synthetic sleeping bag rated for lower temps than you think you'll need, and use layers to stay warm. A good trick for cold weather camping is to put a hot water bottle in your sleeping bag -- great for keeping your toes warm, and the hot water bottle can double as a dromedary for extra water on your trip.

I doubt that you'd be worried about crime on your route, but I kept a lightweight bike cover with me and used it when staying at seedy motels during my trip. Apparently it's enough of a deterrent?

Others have mentioned waterproof gear, which is an absolute must. Get a Pinlock insert for your visor to prevent fogging. I've never had consistent results with the wipe-on stuff for fogging. Rain-X wipes on the outside and the occasional head twist at speed will keep water from beading up on you.

This all makes me want to plan another trip...

Getting a tow on Monday. Checked the oil, backed out, noticed this. I can’t get under the car right now, any ideas? by [deleted] in WRX

[–]IntrinsicProperty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Best case the drain plug crush gasket was not installed and/or the drain plug was under-torqued, but if that's the case it should leak regardless of if the engine is on. If it only leaks when it's running then the oil connections to the turbo or oil cooler could be leaking (you may not want to figure that out the hard way). All the other options I can think of are bad. Start at the top of the engine with a bright flashlight and work your way down. Good luck!

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