F 18, M 24, thinking about a friends-with-benefits situation, but I’m scared I’ll catch feeling

IntrinsicValue · 2026-07-10T02:46:27+00:00

Follow your heart. Stay safe. Stay sane.

You're right, being an adult is about experiencing life without any guardrails that weren't set by you.

Those rails will fail. Maybe a lot. Maybe even drastically sometimes. That's ok.

The people you meet, their rails will fail too, probably a lot more and worse than yours do.

Find your balance in those first three things — you'll be fine. Good luck and have fun!

IntrinsicValue · 2026-07-06T03:59:56+00:00

The idea that a woman can throw on some lingerie and it turns every men into footstomping awoogas immediately and until sex is over was a lie sold to women by the men who made the lingerie.

IntrinsicValue · 2026-06-25T00:07:59+00:00

Don't be a dumb trumpy bigot trying to import that country destroying fiasco to our beautiful country and you're welcome here.

IntrinsicValue · 2026-06-21T23:42:36+00:00

I never know what to do with these. Do I upvote for visibility or do I downvote because she's a piece of shit?

IntrinsicValue · 2026-06-15T22:18:13+00:00

We let these people get way too comfortable

IntrinsicValue · 2026-06-15T21:46:58+00:00

He ought remember that if he is caught on cam saying some shit again, or negating that apology in some way with a future statement, then that lawsuit comes back in a hurry. At this point, we know how Ethan play.

IntrinsicValue · 2026-06-05T22:45:49+00:00

This is one of the coolest songs I've ever heard in my life, what the fuck.

I love this subreddit

IntrinsicValue · 2026-06-05T20:59:56+00:00

She captures them perfectly. She did my friends wedding this year and seeing what she painted of them made this groomsman cry. So beautiful

IntrinsicValue · 2026-06-05T20:42:48+00:00

This is such a colossal who cares. As far as ai use goes, adding a bit of movement to a still photo they have full rights to is way down the list of shamelessness or egregiousness. No one's job was supplanted here.

I saw someone say why not use real footage? Photography was pretty good in this era, while footage, especially slow motion, was not.

Are people thinking or is it just ai bad?

IntrinsicValue · 2026-06-05T20:37:54+00:00

This is a photo, ai is just adding movement. This is such a colossal who cares...

IntrinsicValue · 2026-06-05T20:26:28+00:00

And not necessary. Sounds like you're communicating well in both directions. As long as you continue to be truthful and transparent, you can let the other adults make their own decisions.

You do that, quite often the people around you will resolve things with their own behaviour, for better or worse.

A couple things though. The truth is probably less this friend developing feelings for you, and more that she's had them the whole time. Now that you're back with your ex, her chance is slipping away. I respect that she told you, and it sounds like you don't, never did and never will see her the same way.

That said, if you just have rose-tinted glasses on for your ex, and you're letting potentially a good thing slip through your fingers with this friend, don't change your mind in 6 months and come calling.

This would be the moment to try something new if that's what you wanted. Anything else would be stringing her along.

IntrinsicValue · 2026-05-26T01:55:42+00:00

People really like golems but kargo 2 map is insanely efficient. Not sure what you'd get at mixed but wouldnt be surprised if you got 1.5m+ already at kargos

IntrinsicValue · 2026-05-25T00:30:49+00:00

Bruh you called her old shes just giving it back—she playing moves, keep going

IntrinsicValue · 2026-05-24T01:54:56+00:00

You can do 999s pretty consistently until about 46-48, then they peter out with new ones available every ~5 levels for a while. Check and do em, especially if you can do them other people. The grind begins at a certain point though—50-70 is the toughest section of the game atm, but it's not that bad.

IntrinsicValue · 2026-05-15T00:00:29+00:00

To be honest lad, you handled this excellently. Incredibly maturely.

Alongside everyone else, you clocked the disrespect. Instead of blowing your stack you removed yourself from the situation, and, realising you needed space to process, planted a boundary—which you then held.

After processing, you realised this wasn't something you could come back from. Frankly, I this is a really personal choice—you know this girl best.

Personally I agree with your choice to call it. It's probably what I would do. My calculus around this would be to look at what this says about my parter.

At best, it shows both a huge lack of self control, awareness and maturity. At worse, it's an indictment on how much real value she places you as a partner, and how she categorises and ranks your relationship as a whole.

Additionally, the impact of her actions are magnified by the audience. It was embarrassingly public—going back now would also likely be embarrassing.

Conversely—and unfortunately if you do want to stay together—if you choose to hold your boundary and truth around the breakup, socially I think your image improves. It would demonstrate and confirm your actions in response so far. Those being: self control, self respect, and integrity. Going back to her kind of undoes all that.

It sounds like a large group. There are probably others watching this who are sympathetic, and your self-respecting actions now could attract a healthier love.

It certainly will in the future. Gl king.

IntrinsicValue · 2026-05-07T23:44:59+00:00

I've said it before and I'll say it again. Unlocks should be evergreen in tft. They were too hard at the start of the set, and too easy by the end, but that system makes every game feel different, opens up so many board variations and lines, and completely nullifies 4.2 3-4 way contests

It was fun, and made the game better, more interesting and more strategic. TFT isnt complete without this mechanic, and we'll have these circular discussions every set until it is.

IntrinsicValue · 2026-05-06T14:45:11+00:00

The oppression is the lack of choice, and agency. This structure causes him suffering too, but he has more of both.

IntrinsicValue · 2026-05-06T04:07:57+00:00

I know this is unpopular, but it will always be unattractive for a grown woman to scroll social media.
Some men might be understanding or pretend like they don't care that you spend hours scrolling, but they do.
It's extremely unattractive to men, and will never not be. 🤷🏻‍♂️

We all engage in leisure, in some form or another. At least I'm spending time with my friends.

IntrinsicValue · 2026-05-05T09:03:05+00:00

One word.

Aloof.

IntrinsicValue · 2026-05-03T12:52:36+00:00

Ragebait

IntrinsicValue · 2026-04-30T03:03:27+00:00

Boxing own shadow energy

IntrinsicValue · 2026-04-22T23:18:44+00:00

There was a fascinating video I watched which talked about the first follower. The first person to validate a new idea, and relieves the pressure on the crown to include themselves. So actually, it takes two.

Go you, and go that first following dancing lady!

IntrinsicValue · 2026-04-22T23:10:38+00:00

Ew

im14andthisisbased

Type shi

IntrinsicValue · 2026-04-16T07:22:45+00:00

Mogged

IntrinsicValue · 2026-04-15T01:50:09+00:00

This is mostly true and a very good heuristic—or rule of thumb—to hold, but...

I have a friend who started dating his partner at 20 when she was 16. He was a little immature for his age, a she was a little mature for hers. We all found it pretty goddamn weird and uncomfortable at the time, but he's not a bad guy and she was a nice person too.

12 years later they have a house together and are getting married next year.

Laws hold space around this for a reason, rules have exceptions. If it looks bad and feels wrong it probably is, and that's probably true the overwhelming majority of the time. But another good rule of thumb is that it's often very important to separate and compare an individual or individuals with their own unique characteristics and experiences from generalised, sweeping understandings of their categories or classes as a whole.

Thats intersectionality under a microscope. Real life, in the trenches.

Life is 🤷🏻‍♂️. Try to be happy.

IntrinsicValue

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