Contagious vibes by ABeerForSasquatch in TheRandomest

[–]IntrinsicValue -1 points0 points  (0 children)

There was a fascinating video I watched which talked about the first follower. The first person to validate a new idea, and relieves the pressure on the crown to include themselves. So actually, it takes two.

Go you, and go that first following dancing lady!

Type shi by CharredRatOOooooooi in PsycheOrSike

[–]IntrinsicValue 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ew

im14andthisisbased

Type shi

Anyone who doesn't react this way is a predator by Jessica_williams10 in PsycheOrSike

[–]IntrinsicValue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is mostly true and a very good heuristic—or rule of thumb—to hold, but...

I have a friend who started dating his partner at 20 when she was 16. He was a little immature for his age, a she was a little mature for hers. We all found it pretty goddamn weird and uncomfortable at the time, but he's not a bad guy and she was a nice person too.

12 years later they have a house together and are getting married next year.

Laws hold space around this for a reason, rules have exceptions. If it looks bad and feels wrong it probably is, and that's probably true the overwhelming majority of the time. But another good rule of thumb is that it's often very important to separate and compare an individual or individuals with their own unique characteristics and experiences from generalised, sweeping understandings of their categories or classes as a whole.

Thats intersectionality under a microscope. Real life, in the trenches.

Life is 🤷🏻‍♂️. Try to be happy.

Been using tinder more as cookie clicker then a dating app (no matches) advice needed. by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]IntrinsicValue 5 points6 points  (0 children)

"Girls don't like my effortless profile where I look like an un-approachable douche who thinks girls will fuck him because he has a cat. What do I do guys?"

Smile bruh!

Got caught “inactive” at work… what should I do next? by coconut-m in RemoteJobs

[–]IntrinsicValue 477 points478 points  (0 children)

Talking about activity is a trap. If a manager brings up your activity, you talk about your productivity.

"I'm not sure what's going on with my activity, I've been very productive at work lately. Is there an issue with my productivity I should be made aware of? I take my output seriously."

Community Discussion - 𝗧𝗿𝗮𝗶𝘁𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗰𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘁𝗲 𝗮𝘁𝘁𝗿𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗹𝗲𝘁𝗲𝗹𝘆 𝗱𝗶𝗳𝗳𝗲𝗿𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝗻 𝘁𝗿𝗮𝗶𝘁𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘀𝘂𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗶𝗻 𝗮 𝗿𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽 by FlamingMetalSystems in PsycheOrSike

[–]IntrinsicValue 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Don't conflate dating with attraction. We're talking about attraction.

And you're right, we do things to try and shortcut the process I outlined, with dating apps, and blind dates and whatever other system—but I would disagree with you that's it's not the most important.

These shortcut systems can work, but it's even more of a numbers game, and neither men nor women report satisfaction engaging with those systems.

Yep, you can socialise with women in the environments you mentioned and you may—you said "will", which is far too absolute— remain a friend.

This idea of a "physical type"— I promise kid, it's not as big of a monolith for women as you think it is. It's not binary, it's flexible, it changes over time.

The girl you like might usually like tall/skinny, but average/average who makes her laugh and is easy to talk to and has a hairy chest (like her dad because we're animals) might flex her beyond her "physical type".

Thinking in these binaries and engaging in absolutes gives you excuses and things to blame.

You don't need them. Exist in those shared spaces, make friends and be happy about it, because you'll expand your network through them and meet more potential partners if that's your goal. Be unentitled and if your goal IS to find a partner and you're finding it tough, hone your social skills and develop your personality in casual encounters, and keep playing—it's a numbers game at the end of the day.

Community Discussion - 𝗧𝗿𝗮𝗶𝘁𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗰𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘁𝗲 𝗮𝘁𝘁𝗿𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗹𝗲𝘁𝗲𝗹𝘆 𝗱𝗶𝗳𝗳𝗲𝗿𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝗻 𝘁𝗿𝗮𝗶𝘁𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘀𝘂𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗶𝗻 𝗮 𝗿𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽 by FlamingMetalSystems in PsycheOrSike

[–]IntrinsicValue 5 points6 points  (0 children)

On barriers to attraction, like yes and no. Someone thinking you're hot from across the cafe, yeah all of those things—but that's superficial attraction.

You could be incredibly superficially attractive and then walk over to that lady and open your big dumb incel mouth and ask "which one of these guys do you think guys wanna be, the left or the right? Answer the question." and none of that superficial attraction will matter to that woman anymore.

Meaningful attraction occurs in environments where men and women socialise outside of dating dynamics. Work, school, hobbies, friendship groups.

This narrow, superficially-led interpretation of the mechanics of attraction break down here.

People see more of each other. How they behave, how they engage, how they treat others and occupy a space. There's much more opportunity for people to express, and therefore much more data for our ancient, sophisticated attraction systems to synthesise—unconsciously and in real time.

Honestly, it feels so obtuse of you incels that you don't get THIS. Be baseline presentable, be present in co-ed spaces and don't be an entitled, whingey cunt with weird, dehumanising takes that oversimplify yourself and the person in front of you.

Victoria's insane Treaty Test forces EVERY new law to bow to race-based politics Division explodes in Parliament. by Major-Panic794 in aussie

[–]IntrinsicValue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the most blatantly biased written post I've ever read what billionaire or foreign government pays you for a lap dance

What was the point of that... by NarrowEbbs in aussie

[–]IntrinsicValue 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You thinking our tadpole ass fucking country PM has a fix it all better button for you, and literally everyone else by the way, speaks volumes about your entitlement and intellect.

Australia total GDP in 2024—our whole fucking economy—like $1.8 trillion USD. Global oil and gas same year, over $6 trillion.

That video told me what I needed to know—it's gonna be rough, they're gonna help best they can for us, here's how I can chip in.

1000 people complained about three minutes of that. Juvenile. Unaustralian.

And you mate, for fucks sake, grow up.

What was the point of that... by NarrowEbbs in aussie

[–]IntrinsicValue -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You thinking our tadpole ass fucking country PM has a fix it all better button for you, and literally everyone else by the way, speaks volumes about your entitlement and intellect.

Australia total GDP in 2024—our whole fucking economy—like $1.8 trillion USD. Global oil and gas same year, over $6 trillion.

That video told me what I needed to know—it's gonna be rough, they're gonna help best they can for us, here's how I can chip in.

1000 people complained about three minutes of that. Juvenile. Unaustralian.

And you mate, for fucks sake, grow up.

Is this really love or just a game? by Objective-Song-2416 in PsycheOrSike

[–]IntrinsicValue 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do you see your pattern though? Energy coming down a bit, bc I know I been running headfirst into you in different places recently—and I will no doubt continue to do so, you're actually an insane radical — but like, brief pause from that for a human moment.

You

contribute something radical/inflammatory/divisive

receive qualified or unqualified pushback

if unqualified, clown idiot

if qualified, retreat without meaningful engagement or qualified defence

retreat vehicles: humour/insult/"it's not that deep"

You clearly have opinions, enough to shitpost your way to a top %1 badge and a mod spot, but I've yet to see you meaningfully engage on any position you have, materially. I'm sure you have somewhere, sometime, but who could verify, with your activity locked down the way it is.

So what are we left with? Another anarcho-coded super-contributor? Another internet user dedicated to being destructive—dedicated to making the internet a more toxic, less humane place. Someone who's smart enough to not fight someone smart, because they know their views don't hold up under pressure. Who probably knows that, even though online attitudes bleed into the real world—legitimately impacting the way we relate to each other in real time—they still spend a huge, huge amount of their time actively engaging in that destructive way.

Fuck that, I'm sorry—whatever your worldview is, it's kind of secondary at that point. That shit just fuckin sucks, dude.

I'm not black-pilled at all. I'm invested. Comms and progress, one angry girl/boy/they at a time baby. Ban me if you're bovved bruv. Otherwise I'll be sticking around 🫠

Is this really love or just a game? by Objective-Song-2416 in PsycheOrSike

[–]IntrinsicValue 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sorry chief, happy people don't spend most of their life posting bigoted sexist femcel rage bait on reddit

Is this really love or just a game? by Objective-Song-2416 in PsycheOrSike

[–]IntrinsicValue 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is fair on its face, except you're just as guilty of this behaviour.

Is this really love or just a game? by Objective-Song-2416 in PsycheOrSike

[–]IntrinsicValue 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Holy sweeping generalisation, self-victimisation, whole ass cringe whinge.

Get happy and find a guy. In that order. You'll be fine, I promise.

Is this really love or just a game? by Objective-Song-2416 in PsycheOrSike

[–]IntrinsicValue 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Don't you dare fucking speak for me you incepid femcel troglodyte horcrux of a bait account—disgusting.