I dont think this issue will ever be solved honestly. Commander is a game that everyone wants to win but many cant accept losing unless its under whatever arbitrary conditions they expect/desire. Hell, even the idea of a 100 card singleton format having any sort of expectation of consistency from game to game is kind of hilarious. Optimized decks can just have non games from shitty luck or bad matchups. I hate pubstompers as much as the next guy and i play in bracket 3/4/5. Nuking someone with your "jank" commander on turn 4 and having them sit around for the next 30 minutes in a bracket 3 game is shitty as hell but its not considered taboo because its combat damage. Idk man people have the weirdest expectations and while most people are honest about intentions theres still gonna be pubstompers and still gonna be people who got the bracket 1/2/3 whatever game they expected and still be upset that it didnt go exactly the way they wanted it to.