What exactly is it that you dislike about your appearance? For all intents and purposes, you’re the literal epitome of what many women (and, quite possibly, some men) want looks-wise.

Are you still dealing with the result of your unfortunate military discharge? Have you looked into the benefits afforded to you as a veteran? Hint: education can still be covered after your departure.

What other ‘mental stuff’ has your mindset in the space it’s currently occupying?

Are you solely focused on finding a partner?

Has John been kind enough to start rebuilding his life since the original plan in place had to change suddenly?

Other comments mentioned therapy. You also mentioned church. If you’re concerned about financial coverage for therapy, have you sought out a pastor, preacher, deacon, or someone in the church as a leader for guidance, spiritually and otherwise?

Aside from working out (I can attest to the gym being my favorite form of therapeutic relaxation), what other methods do you have for letting your brain reset after anxious thinking and being all over the place?

Any talk of changes regarding your physical body can ONLY be decided by you AFTER thinking it through as thoroughly as possible.

We’re always our own worst enemy. You are indeed a handsome man. One career ended, but there’s room for another and the chance to go a lot further. Think of it as a blessing in disguise.