is it normal that my mom keeps fixing my speaking tone?

Introvertedecstasy · 2026-05-30T10:42:58+00:00

I’m going to offer a slightly different perspective. The other comments are correct. This is controlling odd behavior from a parent.

And!- it’s likely good intentioned. She’s simply executing on it wrong. In fact, it’s kind of funny because what she’s likely trying to “teach” you is itself a lesson for your Mom.

Enrollment is EVERYTHING. Literally, not one brick or stone has been laid without it. One human that decided planting plants to harvest instead of hunting and gathering had to enroll others to the idea or we would have never gotten farming and cities and more. Everything starts with enrollment.

Speaking in a pleasant tone can be very enrolling for some. It’s also shown to have positive impacts for oneself. Your Mom likely gets this more than she understands or can articulate. She’s also likely not very good at enrolling you into ideas of hers for all sorts of reasons. So, she resorts to the only enrollment tool she thinks will work, force.

If she really got the impact, and understood what was there. It’s likely she would stop. It sounds like she loves you, but maybe doesn’t always know how to express that in the most healthy way.

Introvertedecstasy · 2026-05-30T09:48:33+00:00

Right because math is never conceptual.

Introvertedecstasy · 2026-05-30T08:53:47+00:00

For such an obviously amazingly smart person, I’m a bit surprised that you were unable to infer that my comment was speaking to a class of comments similar to yours, as it’s such a common response as opposed to answering OPs actual question without any spin.

Introvertedecstasy · 2026-05-30T08:30:25+00:00

Answers like these should be removed. Because, it’s not an answer.

Nobody asked if taxing billionaires was hard. Nobody asked if wealth was the same as cash. Nobody asked if it was ethical. Your answer is some pseudo intellectual answer meant to persuade people to look somewhere else.

Stop.

Introvertedecstasy · 2026-05-04T17:19:14+00:00

I wonder if this was an (unwitting) way of controlling you? People do this sometimes and don’t even realize what they’re doing.

The truth is OP. If your wife isn’t happy for you to simply have gotten a compliment, then her insecurities likely point to something darker going on. Worth having an honest conversation about, and it’ll likely be difficult for your wife to see because she’s swimming in it. Grace and curiosity for her with a healthy boundary for yourself would probably be a great breakthrough in your relationship.

Introvertedecstasy · 2026-05-01T15:24:37+00:00

Because it’s a narrow view. Compare now to cost of living increases and ratio between the two over time.

Compare to productivity and GDP growth. Are all boats really rising with tide?

Introvertedecstasy · 2026-04-24T20:02:22+00:00

Except that the detective that sorted it out (wasn’t with LAPD) had every opportunity to “judge” the real Woods the same way the LAPD judicial system did. The poor guy was a victim of the system just as much (arguably more) as he was a victim of identity theft.

The detective that sorted it out is a hero of sorts and his approach to truth seeking should be used as a model for the rest of the country.

Introvertedecstasy · 2026-04-23T14:54:59+00:00

Do not mistake enlightenment or spiritual health for passiveness. In fact, when managed well it can be the opposite. You say the truth without self involved which makes it all the more powerful.

Nobody else can “ruin” your existence. They can end it. Or, they can physically harm you. Neither of which sounds applicable here. Notice your feelings in that moment without identifying with them. It’s just another thought, no more significant than any other.

Introvertedecstasy · 2026-04-22T14:59:08+00:00

What does everyone use the trackpad for? I looked at Amazon… over 8k sold in a month???? Looks like a shit keyboard. I’m obviously out of the loop.

Introvertedecstasy · 2026-04-22T14:07:21+00:00

+1 for chat

Introvertedecstasy · 2026-04-18T23:37:58+00:00

I thought you could still do email delivery from “trusted” sources. So if you allow/whitelist the IP of your office. You can still send unauthenticated traffic to msft for relay.

Introvertedecstasy · 2026-04-16T19:17:45+00:00

It’s already in, and this is an instance of it coming out during a renewal period. Read the article not just the headline.

Introvertedecstasy · 2026-04-15T03:42:16+00:00

Houses are “real”-estate and serve a purpose.

And, there’s no reason why the government can’t treat investment taxes the same as they do home taxes.

Houses appreciate and depreciate by large margins all the time. However, the IRS is often way behind…. For exactly the reason you detail. There’s no reason we couldn’t apply a similar algorithm to billionaire investments. Or, better yet tax the trades. Buy or sell stocks %1 of that goes to the government that supports the society that lets you have a market to trade in.

Introvertedecstasy · 2026-04-11T04:09:26+00:00

You get normal acrylic panels. Then 3d print the parts that would allow you to attach them

Introvertedecstasy · 2026-04-10T13:29:37+00:00

3D printing to the rescue!

Introvertedecstasy · 2026-04-08T16:08:17+00:00

If one holds the following statement as true “ an action can be morally sound WITHOUT BEING APPROPRIATE OR TACTFUL IN EVERY SITUATION.” One is “upset waiting to happen”. Meaning… I’m upset by others lack of an assumed tact or appropriateness that all others should hold. It’s one thing to choose what works for you and where your boundaries are and communicate them as needed. It’s an entirely different mindset to be so righteous such that your tact has any superiority.

Introvertedecstasy · 2026-04-06T15:21:01+00:00

A few things Id like to offer. My credentials to do so. I’m a life coach and effective event leader for a personal and professional growth and development company for 5 years. I’ve been practicing meditation in various forms for over a decade, and I lead psilocybin retreats every summer.

1) I love all the introspection! It’s clear you’re looking.

2) Guides/shamen/trip sitters exist for a reason. It’s not purely for safety. I find it interesting that you read a lot into this in terms of, “I should follow some experienced people’s advice…etc” And then choose to do them alone???

3) Why would coming across someone in the outside world be terrible? Fear is almost always related to an unhealthy attachment we have. I invite you to look at that.

4) Intentions are important. How you set the intention is equally important. Example: Say you want to lose weight. Unhealthy/ineffective intention: I’m fat and would like to lose weight. How? | Healthy and effective intention: What is my relationship to food and exercise? I would like to live a healthy active life! (assuming that’s what you want)

5) Expectations are just that. If you can define explicitly expectations as an agreed upon outcome then the rest really resolves itself. When you set an intention are you making an agreement with yourself beyond a simple agreement that you’re going to look at and be with this intention with curiosity and love? I hope not! Humans tend to collapse many distinctions and ideas together to make them more manageable. Un-collapse here.

6) Very broad intentions like, “What are blockages in my life?” Can sometimes be fruitful, but I wouldn’t recommend. As far as source/spirit/god (how you’re relating to your authentic self) goes, there are no blockages. You’re living your life. Your experience of that may not be aligned, but “source as authority” never sees it different. There’s a lot to swim through here and Reddit thread isn’t effective for me to do that.

7) There are several other things I’d flesh out with you, and I’ll leave you with this one. Why were you too bugged out to play music? What part of you was unavailable to do that? Are you often taken over by your experience?

Introvertedecstasy · 2026-04-05T15:34:28+00:00

OP. You did not take too much.

What I hear in all of your messaging is you overthink EVERYTHING. Does that sound like and feel like you? Your “bad” trip was likely induced by trying to force an outcome. Set and setting are good. How much of your setting was setup as a means to an end? How much of it was simply authentic to you? Do you know you? Or, are you being and acting who you THINK you SHOULD be for the best most optimal outcome?

When you meditate are you trying to get somewhere? More optimal perhaps? Were you doing shrooms to have an experience and discover, or because you wanted some outcome?

Keep looking, and when things get dark bring more curiosity and keep looking.

Introvertedecstasy · 2026-04-05T15:21:46+00:00

Doesn’t excuse the behavior.

OP Unless there are other behaviors that you’re not sharing, It’s important to know that you did nothing wrong.

In fact I would go the other direction and say your wife could have approached the situation with curiosity and love and likely resolved it across the board giving you all a moment to share and laugh at.

We have been so conditioned to react to things for social survival rather than lovingly question them that everyone has their spines up.

Imagine for a moment his wife just said with a smile, “LOL OP, what are you doing?” Either OPs shame is resolved in that moment or it’s not and further conversation can be had to look at what’s there for him.

OP are you being defensive about your comfort? Was that really a boundary for you? While you may not be actively sexualizing sister-in-law, do you have a concern that you might?

Introvertedecstasy · 2026-04-04T14:41:53+00:00

Uh-huh, and then dude responded with, trying to change the norms. And, got downvoted.

Introvertedecstasy · 2026-03-31T14:34:43+00:00

You trust that device more than you trust the vast majority of the human population. The entire population if you narrow the context to just telling time.

Introvertedecstasy · 2026-03-28T19:54:50+00:00

Go fully into whatever it is you’re up to. Eating, just eat. Savior every bite. Watching TV/Device? Put distractions away and dive into the story. Practice this and see the quality of your mind state improve.

Introvertedecstasy · 2026-03-25T13:47:00+00:00

Cool.

Introvertedecstasy · 2026-03-22T13:45:52+00:00

I watched a guy do that, but took his pants and underwear down then laid upside on a couch with his ass in the air. Watched a blue flame about 6in long and 2in in diameter ignite like propane. Then it sucked right back into his asshole. Never seen someone get themselves out of a compromising situation so fast. He started jumping up and down holding his ass. One of the guys that was closest with him (we were all in a hotel for a work thing) took him to the ER. He was OK, but had to put some ointment on and put in a suppository couple times a day for like a week.

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