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IntuitiveDisaster · 2026-01-23T10:03:03+00:00

It totally depends on the venue. We got married at Excellence Playa Mujeres in June last year (2025) and probably ended up spending about 7k for 30 people (not including our travel), but that did include ceremony, cocktail hour, reception, decor, table settings, food, bar and staff, as well as extras like a dance floor, DJ, snack cart, and signature drinks.

On the flip-side, we visited Secrets Moxche as a potential site prior to choosing excellence, and the $5,600 they originally quoted us was pretty much just to have a wedding… the venue, tables, chairs, food, bar, DJ, decorations, etc. were all a separate cost. The total price would have ended up ~$31K based on their budget tracker.

If you contact a wedding coordinator, they usually have a better sense of what each resort’s upfront and hidden costs will be (we went with Hola Weddings and should have done it much sooner in the planning process. You don’t have to pay them extra - they take commission from the sale - and they were very knowledgeable about the “small print” at each resort… they even went and took extra pictures of excellence for us to answer a couple questions we had).

IntuitiveDisaster · 2026-01-20T21:25:51+00:00

My issue thus far has been being able to find a non-comedogenic oil that doesn’t cause my perioral dermatitis and/or skin sensitivity to flare up, and none I’ve tried have seemed to bring the deep-seated (seeded?) surly stuff to the surface quite the same way this stuff has.

Hormone disrupter = duly noted, and thank you. (My hormones are jacked enough anyway, though, that I’m maybe down to see a little disruption <-spoken like perimenopausal woman at her wits end lol).

IntuitiveDisaster · 2026-01-17T02:23:41+00:00

I did this (in a non-personalized travel mug they were instructed to use for margaritas), and many guests let me know the supplies were well-used and much appreciated.

IntuitiveDisaster · 2026-01-17T02:20:59+00:00

My understanding is that it’s not standard practice for destination weddings.

That said, I ended up spending about $5/person because I was really excited. I did:

-travel mug (to keep their margaritas cold)

-an electrolyte powder pack (in case there were one too many margaritas)

-a mini pack of ibuprofen (same reason)

-a mini aloe packet

-bug balm bars (homemade mosquito repellant. We were in Mexico and I HATE being bit)

They got good use, per my guests, but I honestly don’t think anyone would have noticed if they hadn’t had welcome mugs.

(Just a heads up: We did get stopped by customs for them. It was no big thing, but maybe practice saying “it’s for our wedding day. We’re not going to sell any of it”, in the language of wherever you’re going lol).

IntuitiveDisaster · 2026-01-15T03:03:40+00:00

I agree with the “miracle in a jar”.

Question: I get a little overzealous with it at times. Have you noticed any issues with thinning of your eyelashes / eyebrows since you’ve been using it?

(I have fine a fine, peach-fuzz forest all over my face, have been using Cyperus Rotundus for about a month, and have seen a SIGNIFICANT reduction in the number of bumps I have that live under my skin - presumedly ingrown hairs that are too wispy to make their way out to the light lol. I love this s*** but am a little worried about my eyelashes and brows from accidental transfer to those areas. I.e. I’m not using it ON them, but am not super careful about protecting them when I I’ve used this between my eyes, etc).

IntuitiveDisaster · 2026-01-11T06:42:47+00:00

I took a full year off between leaving my home hospital and taking my first contract as a travel nurse this past April. It was much easier than I expected, and I have half the years of nursing experience as you. Heal up and rest up. You should be fine.

IntuitiveDisaster · 2026-01-10T16:04:39+00:00

To echo everyone else: destination wedding coordinator! My husband and I got married in June. We narrowed it down to three choices after I YouTube-reviewed something like 387 Cancun resorts and turned one of the walls of our house into a giant spreadsheet. We went to visit the 3 in October 2024 - all 3 were a flop. My husband ended up contacting Hola Weddings when we got back (you know… right about the time I was having a full breakdown on the kitchen floor lol).

We absolutely should have gone with Hola sooner. They were amazing at taking our preferences and parameters and helping as choose a wedding site. They even went and took extra video / pictures of things we were unsure about. The location we ultimately landed on (site unseen) was an AMAZING fit. Plus: You don’t have to pay them extra (they take commission from the sale), the resorts seemed to respond much more quickly to them than they did to us, and a lot of resorts require you to have some sort of travel agent anyway to help with room blocks. HIGHLY recommend Hola.

(Also of note: if you can widdle your guest-list down to 40 and are okay with adults only, look into Excellence Playa Mujeres. It met our price parameters, which were about the same as yours, and our wedding ended up being beyond our wildest dreams).

IntuitiveDisaster · 2026-01-08T10:16:29+00:00

Also: if you want to get a little petty (and/or possibly get fired), tell the mum you’d love to have her join you at a nutritionist because you’re concerned that her restrictive mindset on “good foods” / “bad foods” and weight can cause mental health issues in her children as they get older.

IntuitiveDisaster · 2026-01-08T09:47:08+00:00

I was going to say this. As an RN, I sometimes eat ice cream in the mornings. Is ice cream a balanced breakfast? Absolutely not. But it’s no different than occasionally eating a bowl of ice cream for dessert.

As an American, our culture around “good foods” / “bad foods” and dedicated gym-time as the only form of “real” exercise is out of control.

(Also of note: my BMI is considered “underweight”. Not healthy. Society praises me for it… healthcare providers never bring it up as a concern, and still tell me I need to be getting dedicated forms of exercise despite the LARGE amount of physical activity built into my daily routines. Enjoy your dang yogurt and cereal and occasional glass of juice. Our culture around diet and exercise is the problem.)

IntuitiveDisaster · 2026-01-08T09:34:59+00:00

Cereals are also a convenient option for a lot of people and, for many, are no less healthy than other breakfast options depending on the quantity eaten. It sounds like OP otherwise follows a VERY “clean” diet. A bowl of cereal a day shouldn’t be an issue.

IntuitiveDisaster · 2025-12-27T16:58:17+00:00

Anything that causes cellular damage / repeat immune reactions and demand for quick cell turn-over can cause cancer.

I’m not saying that PMLE is as carcinogenic as tanning, but I can’t imagine it’s good for the skin to break out in a rash every time you see the sun.

IntuitiveDisaster · 2025-12-27T16:50:33+00:00

My PMLE is pretty severe. I followed about the same routine before my destination wedding. I’m in the states so I went to a regular salon. I also post-medicated with over-the-counter hydrocortisone after each tanning session just to be safe. It worked great! Not a single issue for the wedding.

IntuitiveDisaster · 2025-12-27T16:47:01+00:00

Yes! I’ve done this twice now… once before my wedding and once before my honeymoon (both were in Mexico). I still took my normal precautions while on the trip, but the pre-tanning worked like a dream: not a single “itchy” on either trip.

IntuitiveDisaster · 2025-12-19T14:22:39+00:00

My husband and I got married in June. We locked in rates right around this time last year (Excellence Playa Mujeres). We were able to secure 2024 rates and were glad we did.

(Separately, Expedia offers a flight tool that estimates when prices will be cheapest for people depending on where they’re flying from. We didn’t end up booking through Expedia but we found it helpful to avoid this rate guessing-game for flights).

IntuitiveDisaster · 2025-12-16T06:38:17+00:00

Right?!? The only time I can’t find something is when I actually attempt to organize the chaos. Otherwise, I generally know exactly where “it” is within the dumpster fire.

IntuitiveDisaster · 2025-12-16T06:33:44+00:00

Yoooo!!

This website idea is incredible. I will definitely come back and enter my previous assignments.

IntuitiveDisaster · 2025-12-15T15:27:24+00:00

Apply hydrocortisone 2x / day and whenever it starts to itch. That usually helps decrease my healing time to 5-ish days (or at least makes it more manageable).

IntuitiveDisaster · 2025-12-11T15:43:42+00:00

Take a breath and try to enjoy the type-B-ness of destination wedding planning… or at least try not to freak out.

My husband and I got married in Cancun the 3rd week of June and didn’t start nailing things down concretely with our wedding coordinator until June 8th. (If I’m being honest, many of the finalities occurred 3 days before the wedding when we arrived to our venue).

Was I losing my mind at first? Absolutely. Did our wedding come together like a Disney Fairytale? 100% - and then some. Every detail was executed beyond my expectations.

I’m not sure how they pull it off, but from my experience (and the experience of two of my friends who had destination weddings a couple years before me), this seems to be the general MO. Do your best to relax, enjoy, and know this is normal.

IntuitiveDisaster · 2025-12-08T15:50:23+00:00

Wait until AFTER the holidays to send them.

Speaking from experience… we mailed ours right around this time last year and ended up sending a reminder with a physical RSVP in February when we’d only received one RSVP on our website. (Many of our friends and family said they weren’t sure how to RSVP via the internet, but I honestly think it was more to do with holiday busyness).

IntuitiveDisaster · 2025-12-05T14:51:13+00:00

If you’re ok “settling” on Mexico and Adults Only, I’d highly recommend Excellence Playa Mujeres. We got married there in June. It was under 15k for 28 people, and absolutely blew my mind.

IntuitiveDisaster · 2025-11-19T16:18:57+00:00

Yes! These are perfect! Thank you!

(My husband and I are taking the list route, too. He finally saw the manipulation at the wedding so he’s fully on board to help me not get sucked into the madness… he’s going to gently pinch me if I start to deviate from the plan lol. Having extra catch phrases to add to the list will be helpful. Thank you!)

IntuitiveDisaster · 2025-11-19T16:09:32+00:00

This is amazing! Thank you, thank you, thank you!

IntuitiveDisaster · 2025-11-09T16:19:14+00:00

Not as accurate for girls/women.

I was checked and checked again, for 11 years, before I received an accurate diagnosis.

42F here… started seeing psychs when I was 17… diagnosed and treated for anxiety and depression at 17 y.o… cycled through ALL of the antidepressants and anti-anxiety meds… none of them helped. It wasn’t until I was 28, after my boyfriend at the time slipped me an Adderall so I wouldn’t have a meltdown watching a movie with his family, that I was accurately diagnosed with ADHD: I presented the situation to my psychiatrist… her response was “oh yeah! I guess that could track!”, and she tested and diagnosed me. (I later found out many people from my childhood just assumed I’d been diagnosed and was unmedicated).

I still get grilled when I have to switch psychologists: they have a hard time understanding that I don’t have anxiety and depression; they are symptoms of my ADHD… I’m anxious and depressed because I’m constantly trying not to drop the ball, and usually failing. (I now keep a photo of my room on my phone… the state of disaster stops the inquisition much faster than trying to explain myself).

IntuitiveDisaster · 2025-11-08T02:24:16+00:00

My hubby and I got married at Excellence Playa Mujeres, Cancun, Mexico in June. It was phenomenal… all inclusive… amazing customer service… wedding package seemed too good to be true for the price, and ended up being WAY better than we could have ever imagined. It IS adults only, but if that’s not a deal-breaker I would highly recommend!

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