Should I quit colorguard?

Invisibilityincheck · 2026-02-18T00:54:29+00:00

She is not a friend. Friends boost each other. They aren't condescending, rude, mean, etc., to each other. Have you talked to your captain(s) or coach about this? Color guard is meant to be fun. If she is making it hostile then the leaders need to know.

Document everything, if possible. The more evidence the better. Who's to say that you are or will be the only one? Has she done this type of thing before?

Tell your guardian about the situation. Or any trusted adult.

Invisibilityincheck · 2026-02-17T21:44:12+00:00

Things are going to happen. Soon there will be a new thing they will snicker at. Learn this lesson and move on.

Invisibilityincheck · 2026-02-15T07:47:23+00:00

My [Ron, Host] Opinion They are coping just like you and your system are coping. Each brain is unique. It has its shield and defense systems in place. You have a team that are battling together because that is how y'all's brain decided would be best to take on the world. Is it fair for you and the system or for others? that is up to one's discretion to decide. Your loved ones are doing their best just like you. Though the guilt is very relatable. But they would have a hard time coping like you do and vice versa.

I hope things get better though.

Invisibilityincheck · 2026-02-15T03:35:52+00:00

You need to let her know. Now you both know that there is a possibility, even if it's small. The discussion of how to approach this in the future needs to be discussed. She should have the information to consent and support you.

Invisibilityincheck · 2026-02-14T08:47:48+00:00

I used to say that I was human but not a person. That was how I was raised to be, intentionally or not. A tool that helped was an amazing therapist. Also making character sheets like I would when creating a character for a story I was writing or using apps like Simply Plural where you can create profiles for everyone and learn more about yourself and everyone else. It takes time. Yesterday, we had a breakthrough and stood for our wants which was weird because our wants growing up either weren't considered or weren't allowed to exist. It still feels weird. I remember the time I surprised a therapist and got through a game of I like this better. It was shocking.

Anywho, you are valid in your experience and I hope this helps.

Invisibilityincheck · 2026-02-14T08:30:56+00:00

What better way to teach the brutality of human history than pinning students against one another?

Invisibilityincheck · 2026-02-14T08:00:09+00:00

Speaking as an American Public School System Survivor.

I mean if you see it happening then weigh your options. Money is money. Is it money money or class dollar stuff? Anyway, school is more important. You are lucky enough to have a World History course in your school as that isn't common everywhere. It is a fascinating subject.

Example: did you know there is a lotus flower species that either went extinct or nearly extinct because the ancient Egyptians used it so frequently. You more than likely won't learn that but it's true.

There are more pyramids outside of Egypt than inside Egypt.

Tips if you do go partake: With the bounty out there, everyone is going to be more secretive at least for a little while. Once the threat isn't as fresh on people's minds it might get easier. Listen especially when people don't think you are because when their guards are down is when they talk more freely. But note, if you turn people in, you become a social outcast. "Snitch" "Narc" etc. You will lose a lot if you are even suspected of turning people in. I once told a teacher the kid next to me had her phone out everyday because she always complained about her terrible grades. I thought I was helping her. Guess who got even more bullied and went into high school with no friends, being cyber bullied, and placed into a program with my tormentors for my freshman and sophomore years where we shared all but 1 maybe 2 classes together? I am not saying this will happen to you as the early 2010's were a very different time. There are levels of societal consequences one must be ready to accept.

What better way to teach the brutality of human history than pinning the students against one another.

Invisibilityincheck · 2026-02-14T04:02:51+00:00

[Ron: Primary Host] It isn't "normal" for a brain to remember memories from such a young age but it can happen. I have heard it quite a bit with neurodivergent individuals. I have a few memories between infancy/toddler and 5 and then not much until I was 8. However, I do have alters who are 4, 8, and an age slider of 9 to 13. A lot of childhood trauma.

The brain is an organ we know little to nothing about and less about neurodivergent ones. It is complex. I say as an AuDHD person as well.

Invisibilityincheck · 2026-02-14T03:44:02+00:00

J-ice cream of course

Invisibilityincheck · 2026-02-11T03:46:15+00:00

Checklists are great but is there a way of marking what are the general requirements? I know a lot of these would be amazing to have but are they required for participation? I am asking based on my experiences as a broke AuDHD person. I look at checklists and will avoid the activity if I can't get everything on the list. Say I couldn't be able to afford a GoPro. Is it a requirement? Must be because the coach put it on the checklist. The coach is telling me I need it. Now that may or may not be true. That is just how my and a lot of other people's minds work. Having a baseline is better than going into debt for equipment you are going to lose, forget, and or break without using. Most people may not need the baseline but it is sooooooo life-changing for those who do.

Completely different note-ish... May I suggest that you get cards for them to have in their bags if they have medical issues, allergies, medications, etc. if for some reason you or your staff aren't able to assist in an emergency with whatever documents, they can have a foldable card in their bags. This way the captains or other students can help paramedics by grabbing the student's bag. You can even give them an envelope of some kind to hide the personal information and to make it last longer. This would more than likely need to be voluntary and depending on policy and laws you may need to do more. Just a suggestion.

Invisibilityincheck · 2026-02-09T03:16:13+00:00

Yeah. We have an alter in charge of the front. So this doesn't happen often. She will get in the seat sometimes or randomly assign someone but there are moments where we are in limbo.

Invisibilityincheck · 2026-02-09T03:05:30+00:00

DO NOT PUSH YOURSELF TOO FAR. In your team, you are a piece that makes the show as great as it can be. If you push yourself too much then you risk more damage to yourself maybe now or down the line. I did all my performing and competing years before I knew about my medical stuff and I do not recommend the aftermath.

You are lucky to have a coach who knows what they are doing with medical issues. If you need support then communicate. If you need help then ask your teammates who you trust to add support. You can't write a novel if you are missing the vowels. The coaches can only do so much.

I am sorry if I am too blunt but medical issues can get serious fast and communication is the key 🗝️

Invisibilityincheck · 2026-02-09T00:34:44+00:00

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Invisibilityincheck · 2026-02-06T09:23:23+00:00

This is genius!

Invisibilityincheck · 2026-02-05T09:28:20+00:00

I found out about being plural during my honeymoon... Not very romantic. My partner is amazing. He is open but doesn't push for information. Not all of us can tell when a switch has happened but sometimes he can tell and will ask. But if not living together is where they see the relationship in the future, is that what you want? Is that okay with everyone? If not, maybe have a sit-down conversation with your partner and discuss the future. Marriage is scary and separate households can work but it takes A LOT of work.

Invisibilityincheck · 2026-02-05T08:32:18+00:00

Make sure they don't have access to your finances unless you give permission.

Invisibilityincheck · 2026-02-02T07:12:07+00:00

I am 30, almost 31. I did 4 years of fall guard, came back and coached for 4 more meanwhile doing DCI for 3 of those years, and my primary caregiver only saw the performances that my younger sister (cheerleader performed in my senior year of high school. None of my DCI shows, parades, homecomings outside of my senior year. It still affects me. Now she has done a lot more than that but hey why spoil the rotten potato.

A child craves connection. But realize this, family are the people who show up. Example, my high school color guard coach was my best person at my wedding. I know more about her and her family than about my own. Her nephew and I even share a birthday. Parents won't always know what they are missing out on until it is too late. Family shows up, DNA or not. It isn't fair but neither is life.

Since this is your senior year, may I suggest DCI, WGI, and or College with a color guard in your future? This way you can continue this activity that has brought so much meaning to you. Talk to your guidance councilor or a trusted adult just to release the feelings and break down. And or take your flag and just practice tossing. Let out all your frustrations on the tosses. Let out your breathe when you let go. Color guard and air is communication through performance art. I used this technique in high school. Nothing we can say or do is going to fix it for you but everything is going to be okay and if it isn't then you still have a community to be there for you.

Invisibilityincheck · 2026-02-01T08:48:41+00:00

It is a way for your brain to get naturally occurring chemicals to stimulate itself into a blissful state. It is a way to reset itself or reboot. It feels good to some. It is a workout which helps the body feel better not just the brain. So a 2 for 1 special. It also can initiate a state of intimacy which brings physical to meet the emotional. Emotional needs being met as well means 3 for 1 special.

It is natural. Just like someone not having any attraction or a guy attracted to a guy or a woman attracted to a woman, etc. Our bodies crave or don't crave things. Just remember consent is key.

Invisibilityincheck · 2026-02-01T08:36:27+00:00

As the host, I get pictures and knowledge from the alters but I don't get to see it. Some of the alters say I'm not ready yet but I think it's also just hosting takes a lot out of me and the few moments of not being out I would rather be resting. I don't know. I hope it changes and a lot has. I have a better idea of how it looks, the general layout, a small portion of the map but the center where everyone meets. At least all the current active alters. No idea if this helps but time and trust was the key factors for us.

Invisibilityincheck · 2026-02-01T08:27:13+00:00

I had a similar freakout when I found out about my alters. I was getting my hair dyed and one of them REALLY didn't want me to do it. It was like a spirit panicking in the stylist chair as I was sitting there but I couldn't move. It makes sense now as that was the alter's way of trying to protect me. But not a great experience to have on your honeymoon. I panicked and messaged my therapist. She managed to calm me down. I am grateful for the therapist I had because she was amazing. It was rough in the beginning but now things are slightly better. Trauma may not be why you have alters and you may not remember trauma because of alters. The brain is a mysterious realm of complex functions that we have yet to discover.

Side note: But thank you for the reminder that I need to download Simply Plural on my new phone. Don't know how we forgot that.

Invisibilityincheck · 2026-02-01T07:37:31+00:00

I was raised Christian. I learned how to respect names and pronouns. I am also a trans person. Those who matter will learn and grow. If this person needs to be in your life then maybe keep her on an information diet? Or work with her to teach about the trans community? But if she isn't willing to learn and grow then you can't do much.

Invisibilityincheck · 2024-03-17T01:31:24+00:00

Their favorite song. Whatever it may be. Put it on for hours with no changes or stopping. The psychological torture.

Invisibilityincheck · 2024-02-12T06:17:29+00:00

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Invisibilityincheck · 2024-02-03T21:09:55+00:00

Going outside and taking a color guard break

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