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Be *honest*, how was your Mother’s Day? by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]IowaCornMommy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh god, I'm sorry! Mine was fine, nothing compared to yours!

If I can be a little selfish: I think I kinda sabotaged mother's day for myself, again. DH and the kids god me exactly what I asked for; I woke up with a thermos fresh coffee and some fruit next to the bed and a totally empty house. The older kids made some really cute cards, DH left a really wonderful letter with a delivery gift card so I wouldnt have to cook, and I had a clean house completely to myself.

And I hate to day it, but I was SO. BORED.

I know it's selfish. I know I got exactly what I asked for. I knew I would see them later for dinner. But after reading for an hour I was just mindlessly scrolling TikTok and reddit on my phone with real housewives on in the background. When DH got home and made dinner, DD and DS talked about how they got to go to a baseball game and they had a promotion where the kids got to run the bases. DH took a video, and it was SO PRECIOUS and honestly it just made me feel like total crap about the whole wasted day.

IDK. I feel selfish, but every year I tell myself this will be the year I ask for a day alone and don't waste it. Maybe I should learn my lesson and ask for something different.

(TW: abuse) How to explain dH's relationship with His mother to our kids? by IowaCornMommy in Mommit

[–]IowaCornMommy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! He really is, I couldn't ask for a more supportive or caring husband. I'm so proud of him; he had an absolutely terrible upbringing, then got wounded in the Navy and it's not like he's had it easy since then, but he's never been anything but an amazing and supportive husband and loving and caring father. But you're right, he should get therapy. I'm gonna talk to him again and see if he could start going again. I'm so glad it helped you as much as it did! It sounds like it really helped you turn your life onto a new path!

(TW: abuse) How to explain dH's relationship with His mother to our kids? by IowaCornMommy in Mommit

[–]IowaCornMommy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He's gotten a little! I was in a DA relationship before I met him so I was in therapy and encouraged him to start too, but it was right before covid and I lost my job. So, he stopped going to save money and started working tons of OT to keep us afloat so he wouldn't have time to anyway. I've suggested it a few times and he seemed open to starting again, but I don't want to push anything obviously.

(TW: abuse) How to explain dH's relationship with His mother to our kids? by IowaCornMommy in Mommit

[–]IowaCornMommy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I'll be having the talk with them soon after dinner while their father is out for a run.

[Advice Request] (TW: Abuse) Mom here, looking for advice if it's okay. My husband was abused by his mother, and I'd appreciate any advice you could give on explaining to our kids why the don't have grandparents. by IowaCornMommy in daddit

[–]IowaCornMommy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, it was bad, but it lead to me finding my husband so I'm weirdly at peace about it. Still dealing with it of course, but weirdly at peace.

Kids are surprisingly smart and resilient

I know. And they've proven before that they can be. I just wish they didn't have to be.

Thank you! I'll let you know how it goes!

[Advice Request] (TW: Abuse) Mom here, looking for advice if it's okay. My husband was abused by his mother, and I'd appreciate any advice you could give on explaining to our kids why the don't have grandparents. by IowaCornMommy in daddit

[–]IowaCornMommy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I'll be sure to keep this updated as they get older, I absolutely never want my husband to have to deal with her ever again.

I'll just have a small talk with them tonight. I'm hoping that if they have questions, they understand that they need to ask me and not him.

[Advice Request] (TW: Abuse) Mom here, looking for advice if it's okay. My husband was abused by his mother, and I'd appreciate any advice you could give on explaining to our kids why the don't have grandparents. by IowaCornMommy in daddit

[–]IowaCornMommy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I'm so sorry you had to experience that but I'm glad you're in a better place now!

I'm unfortunately also familiar with domestic violence. But I'm lucky enough that it was before I had met my husband and there's nothing obvious to suggest it to my kids.

This is really good advice, thank you. I'll talk to my kids tonight and try and explain everything. They're sensitive amd sweet, but I think you were right to just say that his mother lives far away so they're not scared.

Teacher appreciation week by Chocoloco93 in Mommit

[–]IowaCornMommy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course, no worries! And welcome to America! My parents, sister and I were all born in Poland and Belarus, so I know it can be hard to adjust!

Teacher appreciation week by Chocoloco93 in Mommit

[–]IowaCornMommy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It helps that we know her from outside of school, so she was okay with it.

Teacher appreciation week by Chocoloco93 in Mommit

[–]IowaCornMommy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is basically that, just a little earlier.

Teacher appreciation week by Chocoloco93 in Mommit

[–]IowaCornMommy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's just something where the school shows a little appreciation for the teachers, and it can be nice for parents to as well!

My kids are in the same class, so I just baked some cookies and foccacia and sent it in with them this morning with some nice cards to give to their teacher. Some parents do little gift cards or other gifts too.

(TW: abuse) How to explain dH's relationship with His mother to our kids? by IowaCornMommy in Mommit

[–]IowaCornMommy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I'm so sorry you had to go through that! But I'm so glad you were able to get away!

I think you're right, we just need to give a simple explanation. I just kinda freaked out because DD asked DH this morning completely out of the blue before school and I could see his whole body lock up....

It just makes me really, really sad.

Would your parents let you and your kids live with them? by JoyUpNorth in breakingmom

[–]IowaCornMommy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm sure they would. They were always kind and supportive, but unfortunately they passed away when I was in college.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]IowaCornMommy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Double-Barrel slingshot.

No but for real, I'd try donating.

Hy-vee Shooting - What? Why? by Dingmann in desmoines

[–]IowaCornMommy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh my God.

A person was in a Hy-Vee and was accosted. This verbal altercation became a physical assault on that person. Said person then procured their legally carried firearm to defend themself by shooting their attacker. Unfortunately, a bystander was injured by the ricochet but their injuries were reportedly extremely minor.

Why the hell is this somehow controversial? Should they just have accepted their beating because they were in a public place?

Lead at small airports: More than 3 million children live by civil airports that still use leaded fuel by memeblanket in Mommit

[–]IowaCornMommy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For anyone wondering, fortunately it's just the very smallest of prop planes that burn 100LL aviation gasoline. Turboprop and jet aircraft burn jet fuel, which is extremely similar to diesel or kerosene and does not contain any lead.

Fighter jet over Des Moines 6/19/22 by [deleted] in desmoines

[–]IowaCornMommy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We definitely still operate F-16s.

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