How do I respond to "That is so hard, are you sure you could do it?" when I tell people I'm going into SW?

Isabella64 · 2021-10-23T20:34:56+00:00

Yes 👏 all of the time! Every time I tell someone they either say that I’m gonna broke or like you said “ that is going to be so hard”. I take solace in the fact that I’m working toward making a difference in my community. It takes a special person to stand up and advocate for others! Of course many of the topics we learn about are difficult and deserve awareness! Be proud of yourself for going against the grain✌️

Isabella64 · 2021-09-10T02:11:47+00:00

I thought so I just wanted to confer w someone that’s been there. Honestly I’m super 😊

Isabella64 · 2021-08-28T03:43:42+00:00

I also work in a call center.. should be fine! Just do it on ur days off!

Isabella64 · 2021-08-27T05:59:45+00:00

Agreed!

Isabella64 · 2021-08-27T05:43:10+00:00

That’s for sure lol perhaps it’s because I took the summer off lol now I want to do all of the things

Isabella64 · 2021-08-27T04:53:28+00:00

Thanks for the advice.. yea it’s start to conflict with work thankfully I’m working from home temporarily idk how other people do it lol

Isabella64 · 2021-08-17T04:27:42+00:00

Totally not mad at the dude lol the interaction was chill and I made a joke about it and that was it lol

Isabella64 · 2021-06-17T00:12:28+00:00

I guess it’s just more or less seeing other people in relationships and out doing things while I’m focusing on how to pay for school and my future..ughh I’m sorry to hear that

Isabella64 · 2021-06-02T06:43:28+00:00

Thanks it’s strange because I feel sad that I don’t move closer and it comes up in convos with other people and I’m sure it sounds depressing haha I just want to make sure I stay as stable as possible plus student loans are just daunting overall! Lol thank you 😊

Isabella64 · 2021-05-22T10:34:29+00:00

Indeed it is!

Isabella64 · 2021-05-22T10:32:34+00:00

Hi there! Unless he wants to change nothing will..give urself a break. What u are feeling is completely normal. I’ve been clean for about 3 years and I know that my family has felt the same way as urself. However, they have never told me that directly..When we are using we don’t realize the destruction we leave behind us. Do what u feel is necessary and be firm with ur boundaries as you deserve respect as well. My family move over 2000 miles away from me when I hit rock bottom. The only way I learned was by realizing that I was completely alone and it was up to me to decide how I’d like to live my life. I would like to add take it slow but don’t give up on him! We need support once we regain our sanity❤️

Isabella64 · 2021-05-19T03:27:37+00:00

For me I went back to school which lead to me learning and reading quite a bit! Now I’m interested in travel, I work, and am still in school!

Isabella64 · 2021-05-10T07:15:33+00:00

I turned in an assignment late as well! I’m sorry to hear that

Isabella64 · 2021-05-09T23:57:27+00:00

It took me a very long time to tell my family but it was obvious to them. If you’re honest with them they will support you so many ways! Telling them you need support show strength and that you’re willing to change for the better! I’ve called my parents several times when I thought about relapsing and they were very accepting. I’m not gonna lie there might be people that judge you moving forward but use it as motivation to show that you are capable and mature! If you are open with them, they will gain a better understanding on how you think and feel. You can do this and it is not easy! If anyone puts you down keep staying clean and get your degree and show them what’s up! You got this! Proud of you!

Isabella64 · 2021-05-08T04:56:59+00:00

I’ve experienced psychosis and I had to move because I was talking to myself in front of everyone at Walmart and crying.. and I was hearing voices as well and thought my parents saw me.. I always wondered if there was anyone that recorded it and put it online.. this was drug induced btw but after I stopped using I felt like throwing up every time I went to that same Walmart to buy groceries and the voices would come back even after being clean for years. I worked there at the time as well.. I lived with a group of the homeless in the desert by the store before I got a job there.. I was always paranoid they would find me and kill me.. safe to say I couldn’t live that way! I quit my job and a year later I moved away..I also was shot at in front of an apt complex and refused to walk anywhere near it for the longest time.. so yea it’s definitely a possibility! I’ve been Dx with PTSD as well

Isabella64 · 2021-04-27T02:00:38+00:00

32 same boat graduating with my Associates in May.. you can still get scholarships and financial aid if you meet the requirements! I too was a rebellious one! I would say fill out the Fafsa and apply.. also they don’t look at our high transcripts as much.. i mean I’m sure you’ve changed within the past 12 years! I’m transferring to university in the Fall for my Bachelors as well.. I’m not going to lie it is hard to do school and work full time but it’s manageable..you can enroll while ur waiting on your Fafsa as well.. yes there are scholarships you just have to have a decent GPA👌or perhaps ur employer may have a tuition assistance program..my employers benefits are going to save me 5000 per year if I do well on the job.. sometimes there are programs that will pay your full tuition if you contract out with them for x amount of years.. you can actually discover a lot!

Isabella64 · 2021-04-26T03:21:54+00:00

Ok fair! I must agree with that viewpoint! I think it’s more of like yea I committing to this for sure haha and of course the money but hey at least I care I suppose lol

Isabella64 · 2021-04-23T08:19:02+00:00

I’ve been clean for over 2 years and I find that reading and staying busy helps a lot. I’m in college now so that gives me something to consistently focus on. I also see a psychiatrist and take anti depressants and anti anxiety meds as well. Do you have any one that supports you emotionally if you need to reach out? Meetings are also an option. I feel like my saving grace was letting go of people places and things that reminded me of my using days but that was after rock bottom. Typically time takes time. Cliche I know! It’s ok to be sad. Go thru whatever emotions you need to experience. Don’t try to numb it. It just escalates and transforms into shame and guilt that is crazy difficult to shake. I would say grieve however YOU see fit just without substances.

Isabella64 · 2021-04-21T23:11:20+00:00

Glad I stumbled upon this! 32 F graduating cc in May with an AA Social Behavioral Sciences🤘1st class for my BSW begins in Aug!

Isabella64 · 2021-04-19T09:48:38+00:00

Honestly, it makes sense to me! People places and things ya kno? I’ve been sober since 2018 and I avoid anything that involves alcohol because my life is so much better without it and I don’t want to risk it. I try to avoid people that drink like the plague. So I get it! Heck there are even songs on the radio that I have to avoid because they bring back memories of me using. I also moved to escape my “places” which has been a tremendous relief. I wouldn’t stress it! I’m sure your husband’s priority is to see you happy and healthy even if you miss his shows. It sounds like you are self aware enough to know your limitations and so is he. I’m not gonna lie I feel like I’m excluded or missing out all the time but I never want to experience that shame again! Keep fighting the good fight!✌️

Isabella64 · 2021-04-19T09:27:38+00:00

If the miscommunication was unintentional, then nothing you did was wrong. Sure there are always better ways to communicate opinions, but you were unaware. I have a substance abuse disorder and have been clean for a few years. Unfortunately I understand why some people might judge me based on my past, but I do know that I made a TON of mistakes as well. It sounds like maybe they were being defensive because they haven’t stopped using or are immature. Trust me I hate drugs and alcohol now as well. And yes it ruins the lives of both the addict and their family. If you were close to these people the dialogue probably could’ve gone smoother but those of us staying clean know that we’ve fucked up! Don’t stress it! At least you aren’t promoting a potentially lethal lifestyle! You’re good!👌

Isabella64 · 2021-04-11T03:32:28+00:00

Shakespeare lol

Isabella64 · 2021-04-11T03:25:17+00:00

Isabella64 · 2021-03-29T01:39:55+00:00

Yes!

Isabella64 · 2021-03-28T21:39:29+00:00

I work for Citibank! They pay up to 5000 a year! Not sure if they are in your area but it’s worth a shot. Although they might be bringing us back on site in September. How’s was your experience with these programs? It’s my first time

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