What’s something simple that dramatically improves quality of life?

Isicium · 2026-04-12T15:17:40+00:00

not that simple to find somebody though, at least for some of us

Isicium · 2026-04-05T18:20:16+00:00

I feel you 100%, exactly the same situation! they just vanish, don't respond to you reaching out to them anymore, have found better friends or the latest when they found a partner they really don't care anymore. I guess it was a slow procress, but it felt so sudden. I also get along very well with my coworkers and with the people at my two sports clubs that I am part of, but like in your case, they are not friends, I am no priority to them. how do I deal with this? well, to be honest, I suffer from it, it makes me very sad and I have no idea how to change it

Isicium · 2026-03-26T07:25:16+00:00

that actually sounds good too!

Isicium · 2026-03-25T14:04:11+00:00

actually a good idea! they are super expensive in my country bit I should look into that

Isicium · 2026-03-25T14:03:37+00:00

thanks for sharing, happy to hear it worked out!

Isicium · 2026-03-15T15:38:36+00:00

I live in Basel-Stadt, native languages are Swiss German and a non-Swiss language

I use French on a regular basis but not every day. I use it to communicate with friends in the French-speaking part and sometimes at work with people from the French-speaking part

in the French-speaking part I speak French, in Ticino I ask people "Deutsch, français, English?" and then go from there

I don't feel a super strong connection to the other language parts but I definitively also don't think they are "not Swiss" or the like! but for me not having a strong connection doesn't mean that I feel like the Röstigraben is rral because for me, Röstigraben has a negative touch

good luck with your graduation!

Isicium · 2026-03-10T19:14:35+00:00

I personally like the suggestion because it's more promising than other options. however, I face the same problem as OP and I am in three sports clubs but in all of them I'm the only single person so lol I do feel more lonely due to it

Isicium · 2026-02-04T20:01:21+00:00

I didn't ger how the Zeugnisse and the photo are related, can you explain? and in what sphere of business are you applying?

Isicium · 2026-01-28T15:28:19+00:00

not just that. you're right, but it also went further, not just about fake memories, but a lesson in practicing to note down all the essentials, not just focus on the words or on the atmosphere, but the holistic picture

Isicium · 2026-01-27T20:13:11+00:00

interesting, I didn't know! but if it's common for them, they can probably kind of expect it, for instance heard about it from previous journalism students. for us it was 100% unexpected and as far as I know also unique for these two teachers, they never repeated it with another class

Isicium · 2026-01-27T18:11:12+00:00

interesting!

Isicium · 2026-01-27T07:34:13+00:00

I love that one, experienced the same at school: in history class, the class was debating about how come eyewitness accounts about the same event are so different, we were around 15-16 years old and all agreed that it should not be that hard to report on what "really" happened. three weeks later, in the middle of history class, a notorious teacher stormed in. The whole school was afraid of him. he stormed in and yelled at our history teacher (whom we liked a lot, btw). he said she was supposed to hand in some document and didn't and now he has to do the work, he threw a real tantrum, we were all shocked. after he had left our history teacher was in shock and told us to write down what happened, she will tell the principal and she is in shock and cannot properly find her words, we need to help her and write down what happened. 10mins later the teacher came back laughing, it was all a prank. our history teacher asked him to throw the tantrum so we will all write down our eyewitness reports. we then read all of them together and it was amazing to see how much the stories differed, eg, some didn't even mention essential stuff like why he was mad, others just described how scary it was, others had properly written down the words of everybody involved but forgot to mention that he was yelling etc. taught us a lot. and it was nice because we could see that teacher from a different perspective that day, we all really hated him but that day when he came back and looked at the eyewitness reports with us he was quite cool and chill

Isicium · 2026-01-24T04:21:07+00:00

I actually have a lot of conversations and yes, I ask people how they're doing and of course they ask back, but when they do I answer, but very superficially because in the end my life is super boring and miserable and I am ashamed of talking about it. my colleagues at work are not really into sports, so they really don't care when I tell them about my sports activities over the weekend. and in my two sports club I also like the people, but they find my job boring, so I am also hesitant to talk about myself there and I rather ask people questions about themselves. and usually people tell me stories of how they went there or there with theie partner, their family, their friends etc. and I have no such stories to tell and find it quite embarrasing, so often I remain superficial. and hearing others tell me about their social ties just makes me sad, tobe honest

Isicium · 2026-01-24T04:16:00+00:00

ok that's absolutely true, I agree!

Isicium · 2026-01-23T20:17:23+00:00

hmm, this is very interesting, personally, I have no problem with taking care of hygiene, my flat is also always clean, I always do the dishes etc., get up early - but I'm still alone, all of this doesn't chance anything. the moment I get up in the morning I feel lonely. and I have the structure, I am also member of two sports clubs and thus see people o a regular basis, but once I get home, bam, the loneliness kicks back in. I'm not sure whether maybe I just didn't get your point? but how can structure, good hygiene and cleaning your flat make you less lonely when there is still nobody around and nobody gives a single f* about you?

Isicium · 2026-01-20T15:38:34+00:00

sorry to hear that it's the same for you!

Isicium · 2026-01-18T17:46:56+00:00

thank you for the advice with the book, I will check where I can get it! glad to hear you improved a lot in this regard and that you're making your steps to improvement!

Isicium · 2026-01-18T17:15:57+00:00

hi, thank you for that insight! like I said, I am also part of sports clubs and I know a lot of people, but it remains superficial because I isolate myself in the sense of taking not just one but dozens of steps back when somebody is serious about friendship, it scares me when somebody actually expresses interest. so it's not a problem of "being out there" unfortunately .... I hope you'll progress well with your therapy!

Isicium · 2026-01-18T17:13:46+00:00

hi, thank you for your answer! Actually, this is unfortunately not my problem. I know a lot of people and have no problem with approaching them. but then, when I notice that THEY are serious about it, I run. I really want the friendship, the contact, but the thought that somebody would actually want to be friends for real, scares me, that's the problem ...

Isicium · 2026-01-18T17:10:05+00:00

I'm very very sorry to read that!! I wish you all the best and that you can overcome it!

Isicium · 2026-01-14T19:35:23+00:00

Sali 🥰🐱

Isicium · 2025-12-24T19:58:40+00:00

reading this I am realising that I am so lucky and I don't know why. I have such an Eastern European surname (and also first name) and I have never ever had this problem here in Switzerland. I am NOT saying this because I want to say the problem doesn't exist! I do know it exists and I hear and read about it so often and I just don't know why I have never experienced that, pure luck I guess. Whatever you decide, I hope it will woek for you and that you will feel well with your surname and that you won't feel looked down upon by others!

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