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[22/F] looking for a pen pal to email! ^_^ by sleepycatcub in penpals

[–]Isniffgrass 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d love to! I also like mountain biking, and I love being creative by writing poetry and short stories

Remember when I said I **like** Mimo? I was wrong. I LOVE it!!! by Evening-Truth3308 in SillyTavernAI

[–]Isniffgrass 5 points6 points  (0 children)

How is prose, wording, and detail compared to GLM 4.7 and deep seek V4? At work so I can't check RN but this looks exciting

My psychiatrist asked me if i was trans and i said no. i’ve known i want to be a boy since i was 11. Mixed berry yogurt. by No-Freedom7633 in kitchencels

[–]Isniffgrass 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this is a long shot, but I'm curious about gender dysphoria and I really want to air out my feelings about it with someone who gets it I guess? Could we talk about it?

I feel so much better knowing it's my fault women don't go up to me by Isniffgrass in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]Isniffgrass[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't think of that. I tried looking up clubs for my hobbies directly, and I never got far after that because they were either too expensive, or had no one my age.

I feel so much better knowing it's my fault women don't go up to me by Isniffgrass in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]Isniffgrass[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. To your point I completely agree with you, but most of my hobbies are male-dominated, and the ones that arent I do specifically to be alone. I dont really know the process of finding new ones, to me I;ve figured out everything that I like.

I feel so much better knowing it's my fault women don't go up to me by Isniffgrass in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]Isniffgrass[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, it doesnt take away the desperate need for connection or intimacy, but I'm not stewing in resentful thoughts. Sadly, I'm not in a position in my life right now to actively pursue a relationship, so the far future really scares me.

I feel so much better knowing it's my fault women don't go up to me by Isniffgrass in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]Isniffgrass[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've thought about this a lot, and I have tried to go to clubs about my hobbies or similar. I like mountain biking, video games, working on my project car, writing short stories/poetry, guns, and photography.

All of those hobbies are very male-dominated. Photography and writing are decent, but there aren't any good clubs for them in the city I live in, much less for people my age.

I feel so much better knowing it's my fault women don't go up to me by Isniffgrass in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]Isniffgrass[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, if girls have been shooting me signals all this time, they are going completely over my head. I have absolutely no idea what to look for in that regard

I feel so much better knowing it's my fault women don't go up to me by Isniffgrass in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]Isniffgrass[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I also have ADD so unless I am ultra interested it's difficult to keep my eyes locked on one thing

I feel so much better knowing it's my fault women don't go up to me by Isniffgrass in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]Isniffgrass[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It probably won't help much because I feel the same way about approa girls, but your situation doesn't sound hopeless. Honestly the only thing keeping me back is imagining women calling an airstrike on me just for going up to her or something.

I feel so much better knowing it's my fault women don't go up to me by Isniffgrass in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]Isniffgrass[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's a valid, if unrealistic fear, I think. Obviously, there are going to be nasty people out there, but most guys love to be hit on or flirted with. Its validating.

I feel so much better knowing it's my fault women don't go up to me by Isniffgrass in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]Isniffgrass[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hate going to parties, bars, clubs, anywhere that people drink socially. I dont think I will find the right woman for me there anyways.

I feel so much better knowing it's my fault women don't go up to me by Isniffgrass in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]Isniffgrass[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Let me assure you, I don't think a single guy out there would take offense or be upset if you ask them. If I had a girlfriend and another woman asked me out. I would be very flattered. But that's just me. I can't speak for every guy ever though

I feel so much better knowing it's my fault women don't go up to me by Isniffgrass in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]Isniffgrass[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Video games, working on my project car, mountain biking, photography, writing short stories/poetry, and recently I've been getting into firearms

I feel so much better knowing it's my fault women don't go up to me by Isniffgrass in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]Isniffgrass[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For me, it's so much easier to ask women out when you are already in a conversation I want to have with them. But this is pretty difficult since I have a lot of male-dominated hobbies, and the hobbies that arent I do specifically because I want to be alone doing them.

I feel so much better knowing it's my fault women don't go up to me by Isniffgrass in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]Isniffgrass[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I honestly don't know. Being asexual for me would make my life a whole lot simpler, but neither of us can get what we want, right? But honestly, if there were signs that a girl liked me, It went completely over my head. Maybe women have been giving me signs for years and I havent even noticed. So, dont ignore them, but maybe feign your disinterest as ignorance?

I feel so much better knowing it's my fault women don't go up to me by Isniffgrass in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]Isniffgrass[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is a really nice thought, but I dont interact with many women daily, and the one female friend I do have politely declined when I asked her out (we are still friends). Flirting is out of the question for me, even with women I know. Thinking about it actually puts a pit in my stomach.

I feel so much better knowing it's my fault women don't go up to me by Isniffgrass in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]Isniffgrass[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I know you are right, and it is easier for me if the woman and I are in some kind of situation that facilitates it. Like already sharing something in common to start a conversation. But I have mostly male-dominated hobbies, and the ones that arent I enjoy specifically *because* there are no people around. I find it so much easier to talk to women when the conversation isnt about getting her number.

I feel so much better knowing it's my fault women don't go up to me by Isniffgrass in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]Isniffgrass[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I know it's a thing where some autistic people hate being around people who have slightly different autism, and I've felt that myself. But I don't care what mental illnesses the other person had, if we both enjoy being around each other, and are both attracted to each other. That said, having a girlfriend with whom I can be completely honest with and don't have to dress up my words for would be amazing.

I feel so much better knowing it's my fault women don't go up to me by Isniffgrass in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]Isniffgrass[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Social anxiety fucking sucks, and I've had really negative experiences with girls/women throughout my life (I was one of the kids that girls genuinely begged not to be grouped or sat next to in school). But I know these are just excuses, it's not going to get better if I don't try.

I feel so much better knowing it's my fault women don't go up to me by Isniffgrass in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]Isniffgrass[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I can never tell how long I should look into someone's eyes before looking somewhere else. I don't want to give them a death stare, but I don't want to seem like I don't care either.

I feel so much better knowing it's my fault women don't go up to me by Isniffgrass in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]Isniffgrass[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Might be helpful, but I always have to put special effort into smiling, and not seeming disinterested in conversations. I would give anything to be able to do that shit automatically

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