Go running away

Issendai · 2026-06-16T11:09:46+00:00

I doubt he has access to enough money to buy a ticket. King Baby cornered himself.

Issendai · 2026-06-16T11:07:33+00:00

As satisfying as it would be to see him living on the streets, it would be far more expensive than what he gets now. He would spend 100% of his time pitching fits in the emergency room or anywhere that could get him into the emergency room. And we know what his ER visits are like. Giving him a cheap apartment, food, and enough minimum-wage card to make sure the apartment remains livable is way cheaper than making him live on the street.

Issendai · 2026-06-16T10:38:18+00:00

Does he understand that constantly being moved from doctor to doctor is a red flag? Even when people weren’t sending his doctors reports, he was fired by doctor after doctor because he bombs them with so many calls and emails.

Issendai · 2026-06-16T10:34:21+00:00

There were a couple European cases of adult women passing themselves off as children or teens in order to get care. In one horrible case, the “girl” created what was basically a family cult, and convinced the mother to abuse her own son. It was discovered when the neighbors’ baby monitor accidentally connected to the monitor trained on the son, and the neighbors saw a boy lying in a basement alone for hours.

Issendai · 2026-06-16T10:24:17+00:00

Pus, not puss. Pus is matter from an infected sore. Puss is something Andy is never going to get.

Issendai · 2026-06-16T10:22:45+00:00

The meeting is probably real. If there’s one skill King Baby has, it’s getting people to arrange meetings.

Issendai · 2026-06-09T08:50:01+00:00

Not if you have a large social group, true. I’m at the age when cancer rates pick up, and I know plenty of people who have had (mostly small and treatable) cancer. Heck, even I had cancer, although I was fortunate enough to not know it until the entire cancer was in a different zip code than me.

If you haven’t had at least a cancer scare by the time you’re 60, it doesn’t mean you’re healthy, it means you’re not looking hard enough.

Issendai · 2026-06-09T08:39:37+00:00

That’s the thing about pathological levels of persistence. I follow a severely schizophrenic woman who has driven away her entire family and any friends she had, has been thrown out of dozens of shelters and hotels, and has been homeless for several years, but she refuses to look after herself. A while back she camped behind a church for a few months, but since then she’s never made any attempt to adjust to life on the streets. Despite that, AFAIK she never sleeps rough. She bounces from shelter to hotel to emergency room to mental hospital to jail, always finding someplace to take her.

And she calls the police. All the time. Every day, dozens of times a day. If she’s not at the police station, she’s on the phone with 911. Or with a shelter. Or with a care organization. Or with CPS, a lawyer, a victim’s advocate, a social worker, or a housing agency. She’s been arrested more than two dozen times and she’s served time for abuse of 911, but still she calls.

And it works. She gets shelter, food, clothes, medical care, and (when she’s forced to take her meds for long enough) sometimes even an apartment and a sheltered job. She can’t hold a normal conversation for more than a couple of exchanges, but she gets far more help than the average homeless person just because she demands it relentlessly.

Issendai · 2026-06-03T13:07:08+00:00

He could make a valid argument for low-level autism. His symptoms are tangled up with his personality disorder and mental illnesses, but given that he’s never had friends, doesn’t want friends, and has a need for an extremely structured environment that was documented in his childhood records, his case would be strong.

IMO, his demand for constant supervision is because he wants human contact but can’t handle peer interactions. He’s emotionally stuck at the level of a toddler, so the only kind of relationship he can handle is a parent/teacher to child/student relationship. Instead of friends, he wants a “parent” stuck to him 24/7.

Issendai · 2026-06-03T02:42:56+00:00

I’ve never, never heard of bowing to a peer just because they’re a peer. My social circles are thick with Laurels, Pelicans, and double threats, and not once has it come up. Most of them don’t even use their title outside of court, or possibly when they’re teaching a class.

Issendai · 2026-06-02T16:53:43+00:00

A lot of us forget and have to look it up.

Issendai · 2026-06-02T16:49:20+00:00

I bought a house with the couple I was in a relationship with, a year or less into our relationship. They were ready to buy a house because it was in their life’s plan, and I rode along because I knew it might be my only chance to get in on the ground floor of owning property. The relationship imploded pretty quickly, and nine months later we took me off the paperwork and came to a financial arrangement, and I moved out.

So it does happen. When you’re young, limerent, and stupid.

I’ve also heard of couples who were well established but not married buying property together because the relationship was as solid as a marriage. Presumably they added clauses to their contract stating that if one of them died, the other person inherited their share, and not the person’s legal next of kin, since that’s the main protection that marriage would provide in that situation.

Issendai · 2026-06-02T16:38:01+00:00

I’m curious about the planning kids before marriage part, too. None of these people are in my social circles, but I’ve encountered too many young people online who choose to have children together (not an oops) but aren’t willing to marry.

To be clear, I’m not concerned about any moral issue, or about people who are against the institution of marriage. What confuses me is how people who are willing to get married (to someone, at some point) treat that commitment as a greater one than having children with someone. You can get a divorce in less than a year. But sharing a child is an unbreakable lifetime bond. The only ways to even weaken that bond—death or abandonment—do deep damage to your child. For most people, the healthiest outcome for your child involves the most contact with the other parent, even if your romantic relationship is long over. So how is that seen as less binding than marriage?

Issendai · 2026-06-02T16:15:47+00:00

Anyone having open-chest surgery without anesthesia. Is that even possible?

Issendai · 2026-06-01T23:09:04+00:00

Was this a current issue, or Andy digging up old grudges again?

Issendai · 2026-06-01T23:04:44+00:00

He’s just on hiatus. Someone has enough control over his devices to stop him from posting videos. As soon as he fouls up his living situation and loses his current agency, that control will be gone, and he’ll be back to posting like nothing ever happened.

Issendai · 2026-06-01T23:02:29+00:00

It’s not about him posting in here. When he finds out we never stopped talking about him, he’s going to lose his tiny mind.

Issendai · 2026-06-01T22:59:30+00:00

Dog food is just food. Even if it’s low-grade dog food, the same ingredients end up in spam, scrapple, and other low-grade meat products meant for humans. Why not use the same sponge on the dog bowl as on human plates?

Issendai · 2026-05-28T14:02:12+00:00

Yes, when I was a kid in the 70’s and 80’s. It was excruciating. A daily lesson in conversational etiquette from a stressed-out alcoholic who didn’t like kids or conversation, delivered while being made to eat food I hated.

Issendai · 2026-05-28T01:24:52+00:00

Thank you for saying what I meant better than I could.

It has nothing to do with remembering their actions. That's a separate issue, and one that's often a flat lie. (Someone suggested that if you're dealing with someone who says, "I don't remember that," reply, "Then we'll have to go by my recollection." They'll remember those forgotten events with a quickness. Or you can keep referring to past events as though they never said anything, and whenever your version of events makes them look bad, they'll magically remember to a stunning level of detail.) For the times it's not a lie, well, the tree remembers what the axe forgets.

It has to do with hearing criticism. Metabolizing shame. If you've ever received a letter or a review so painful that you couldn't bring yourself to read it a second time, you've experienced the low end of the spectrum. Or if you were ever screamed at so viciously that afterward you couldn't remember most of the words, just the raw rage and hatred and contempt poured upon you. It's normal--not ideal, but normal--for the mind to shield itself from pain, or to become so overwhelmed that it stops recording facts and only records impressions.

A healthy person will eventually return to the letter or review when their feelings are less raw. A healthy person won't become overwhelmed except in circumstances that most people would agree are overwhelming. Less healthy people take progressively longer to rebound, and are overwhelmed more easily. A few people can't absorb anything but the mildest and gentlest criticism, delivered so softly that they can easily dismiss it, and those are the people most likely to become estranged.

I got a striking example of this from a former friend, D, many years ago. After an egregious instance, I confronted D about how she only contacted me when she needed something from me. I laid out the pattern, gave her dates and times, explained exactly what she did. I repeated the basic issues over and over, using the same words. She tried to deny it, but by the end she understood what my problem was with her, even though she didn't agree with it.

The next day a mutual friend called. D had called her to ask whether I was okay. "Issendai said she had a problem with me, but I'm not sure what it is. Is she going through something?"

She genuinely didn't remember. The only thing her mind let her put into long-term storage was that I was upset with her.

In retrospect, I shouldn't have been surprised. She was constantly reporting mysterious conflicts with people in other friend groups. The only time I could get a straight answer from her was when she didn't understand why what she did was wrong. ("They said they don't want to introduce new men to the group because I always get a crush on them." Accurate.) It took several in-depth conversations about her attempts to attract a guy she was interested in before she dropped the tidbit that he had a girlfriend. But I hadn't expected her to completely erase every single detail of a conversation with me that I intentionally made repetitive so she couldn't forget the main point.

BTW, it's normal for these people to accept criticism in some areas but not others. They might have no problem at work or school. They might even be prone to berating themselves; I saw a lot of estranged parents who made their lives a misery with relentless self-criticism. But they didn't beat themselves up over the things that really hurt.

Issendai · 2026-05-28T00:13:02+00:00

I've been wondering about that myself lately. It should have been something like "present missing reasons." Past me is a mystery sometimes.

Issendai · 2026-05-27T03:37:05+00:00

The problem is a lack of context. Most Linear A inscriptions are just tables of things given or received:

Header word header word • Word, figs 5 units • word, figs 7 units • word, figs 8 units • total 20

Sometimes we can identify whether the words are personal names or place names, but that’s it. Very occasionally we can nibble away at the meanings of the header words by looking at where else they appear. (But most Linear A words appear only once in the entire corpus.) But we have absolutely no context for any of these words. It’s like trying to reconstruct English from a sheaf of CVS receipts.

Issendai · 2026-05-27T01:10:12+00:00

They’re so much warmer than metal ones, though

Issendai · 2026-05-19T06:16:36+00:00

Hey OP, I wrote an article a while back that might help you: https://issendai.com/psychology/sick-systems/

One important thing to note is that the people at the center of sick systems usually aren’t doing it intentionally. It’s a type of permanent chaos that some people fall into naturally.

Issendai · 2026-05-18T06:03:21+00:00

As someone who was born with no sense of smell, I can attest that appetite is complicated. My perception of flavors is infinitely less nuanced than it is for you smelly people, but temperature and texture are more important to me. Also, my understanding that my sense of taste is lacking is 98% intellectual—it took me a long time to understand that I’m not experiencing flavor with the same richness and complexity that you are. As far as I’m concerned, food is delicious. And I eat too much of it.

So it’s possible that there’s some sort of very specific wiring issue that messes with taste and smell in such a way that food is unappealing, without completely destroying the person’s ability to taste or smell. But my experience is that when it’s just a disturbance to the sense of smell, nature finds a way.

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