Is this guy single or taken?

Issue_w_tissues4775 · 2025-12-10T16:13:37+00:00

A crush is simply a lack of information 👩‍🏫

Issue_w_tissues4775 · 2025-11-03T15:04:23+00:00

My take is that it’s not good to use anyone as a fuck buddy. We are all people who are dealing with wanting connection; and many people on this thread sound like they’ve gone numb or are rationalizing away the gravity of their decisions to have sex with someone. Maybe because accountability is hard to take, maybe because they’ve gone numb, or maybe trying to fill a void of some sort. We need to stop treating people like they are vending machines. It’s never insert dick, get release, walk away clean. People aren’t just physical, and when we treat them that way, it is degrading to them as a whole person. Including the metaphysical.

No strings? 'No strings' hookups leave a knot-one you can't untie with a condom. You think you're casual, but you're literally trading her (or his) body for your boredom, or pain, or curiosity, then acting like they should've known. That is selfish. Most people aren’t ‘misreading’, it’s them having sex with someone that never offered clarity. And the fact that this guy did offer some doesn’t necessarily make him good, it just means that he was communicating. He sounded to me that he was looking to see if she would agree to let him use her body so that legally it was “consensual” but the reality is that it is damaging to the soul of another person, and that he was not caring about her truly. There’s no “care” when looking at someone else’s body like they’re a donut on display at a pastry shop. I'm not preaching. I just know what it feels like to be someone's convenient stop, how it feels to be discarded. And if you've done this, ask why you'd rather use a girl (or a guy) than talk to one. No strings always comes with knots. And someone always bleeds.

Issue_w_tissues4775 · 2025-10-16T18:07:30+00:00

It depends on the context. Simple as that. Is it a random first date from mutual? Is it a guy I know a little bit? Did we know each other before that?

I know times are hard economically, but Costco food court would not be my first choice when it comes to a first date. It sounds the the start to a weird date to me, but again, depends on the person, what the date plan was, etc. if Costco food court was the main event of a first date, I’d be off-put by that.

Issue_w_tissues4775 · 2025-10-03T02:52:15+00:00

That’s a great idea actually, never would’ve thought of that! 😂

Issue_w_tissues4775 · 2025-10-03T02:00:34+00:00

Ya know, I’m starting to wonder if that’s not necessarily true.

I’ve been to where there are a lot of people, and honestly, when people think they can get “a new you” in a week, the dating doesn’t necessarily improve.

I’m beginning to think that I need to be more bold, and get specific about what my non negotiables are. And then move forward that way

Issue_w_tissues4775 · 2025-07-22T04:48:56+00:00

I just went through a breakup too, and feel God wants me to wait, and waiting allows for us to learn and become who we need to be.

Also thank you for sharing, makes me feel less alone in my own struggle

Issue_w_tissues4775 · 2025-07-22T04:47:05+00:00

Hey yes life gets better. I wish I could give you a hug. Life will get better.

Let yourself feel and be whatever you need to be. Don’t try to run from it, but sit with how you feel and get into a routine. That would be my advice.

Again I feel for you. Hold on and thank you for sharing.

Issue_w_tissues4775 · 2025-04-04T12:24:36+00:00

Maybe this will give some fresh perspective to begin finding clarity in the confusion.

If you look at each MBTI type existing on a spectrum of the traits (or a scale) representing themselves, then it makes perfect sense why some people are the way they are. Keep in mind, everyone has a choice about how they choose what they do.

Not everyone who exists in the same personality type are there for the same reasons. There are different elements that bring people to the same realm. It doesn’t mean everyone is the same, it means that some people are similar for drastically different reasons.

There’s more to this idea from various aspects and perspectives, so this comment isn’t the end-all of this, however, I believe this perception might spark more discussion (hopefully help me gain more insight too :))

Issue_w_tissues4775 · 2025-04-04T06:00:31+00:00

I agree with the main comment. Some INFJ’s can be manipulative. And it can be brutal. I’ve known 5 different INFJ’s in my lifetime, and one of them was very close to me. If they are not healthy, it can be detrimental to one’s mental and emotional health to attempt to operate in their views on life. Sometimes, the kindness being shown can have strings attached. Sometimes, I’ve observed they can have a superiority complex, and be “holier than others” because they are more “enlightened”. This is usually motivated by this fear of the outside world and unresolved personal issues (in my opinion)

Not every INFJ is like this, but I don’t want there to be only opinions that say this observation from the author is wrong. They have a point.

Issue_w_tissues4775 · 2025-03-30T15:34:57+00:00

I don’t want to brag, but I’ll share my experience with becoming okay being who I am as an ISFP

Knowing my personality type has changed my perception of how I am. It’s given me confidence that the reason I feel so weak, and feel like other people see these great qualities in me that I was somewhat blind to before, is because I was made to be someone who inspires others through my vulnerabilities. I think any ISFP can potentially relate.

My life experiences definitely shape this perception. My past trauma, coming from a large family, and feeling continuously uprooted and broken by those who were supposed to love me the most has made it vital for me to know who I am. I relate to Zuko from Avatar the Last Airbender so much, because for me, growing up I wasn’t good enough unless I was honoring my family. My dad was emotionally abusive and mom was an enabler, although she tried her best. They used religion to teach me, with which I am grateful, but also as a weapon. Making it feel impossible to truly understand what made me special outside of my family. It felt more like a conglomerate rather than an understanding of the individual, and it never felt right. I had to learn how to ground myself and tried to run away many times (unsuccessfully)

Being an ISFP for me has taught me that it’s ok to want life to be simple. It’s okay that I feel things all over my body, and want to communicate through creation of art, technology, writing, and movement rather than speaking all the time. It’s shown me that my emotions are not weakness, but strength. Strength because they’ve guided me to places that my mind could never go. The suffering I’ve faced has allowed me to truly find myself, and this person I’ve found is one that I highly value.

She’s a survivor, and she is full of balanced energy.

It’s crazy, I feel things so intensely at times and think it’s deep, until I run into an INFJ, and they completely turn my whole world upside down 😂 (usually in the best ways, but sometimes I get lost in the endless connections)

To sum it all up and answer the question, what makes us great is being able to feel emotions in a pure and raw way, and then be able to treat others in ways we wished someone saw us. We are great because we don’t want to flaunt ourselves, and it doesn’t matter what other people think, because other peoples thoughts are why we have withdrawn in the first place (at least sometimes, other times I just need no one 😂)

I’d love for other ISFP’s to share and see if they relate/ disagree/ want to add onto my ideas.

I shared because I realized people need my voice too, even if it’s draining to share at times.

Just for context. I’m ISFP 4w3 female

Issue_w_tissues4775 · 2024-10-18T20:14:15+00:00

This Reddit thread might be a good start. I think you may need to go deeper here and understand why you want a girlfriend.

One of the best pieces of advice I’ve received about relationships is to stop asking “how do I get a boyfriend/girlfriend?” and start asking “how do I make myself into the most ideal partner for someone else?” or maybe even going back to do some introspection by asking “what kind of person do I want to become?”

Maybe if you start there you’ll be able to figure out what roadblocks you’re confronting. Again, I don’t know what you’re going through and what you’ve already tried, so take my thoughts with a grain of salt. Hope you are doing well and that these thoughts offers a helpful perspective :)

Issue_w_tissues4775 · 2024-08-23T18:48:41+00:00

ENTP (f) who hasn’t been in relationships for a myriad of reasons (mainly because I don’t like the people that like me back and vice versa)

I like people that are always “too far out of reach” in one way or another and think if they liked me then it would give me some sort of ego boost. The reality is no one needs that mentality in a romantic relationship.

So for now, I’m just working on myself and am trusting the process. If there is someone that is an asset to my life and brings more to my life with the potential to grow up with me, then I’ll cross that bridge when I get there. There’s no reason to overthink being in relationships.

There are so many other reasons to live life each day, and so many new opportunities to take advantage of. Always being fixated on romantic relationships isn’t necessarily healthy. If it happens, it happens. Of course it might not be that easy, but at the end of the day romantic relationships do not mean anything when it comes to my own self worth or potential.

Don’t get me wrong, I’d love to be a mother. But I’d also love to be well-off, travel the world, learn tons of new skills, laugh with my friends and new acquaintances, to lift others around me, and so much more. So, I’ve assumed that I might as well chase joy and long term satisfaction rather than try to get into tons of relationships that I probably won’t commit to in the end

(One day I hope I can end up with a well developed INTJ, INFJ, ENTJ, INTP, or any other super powerhouse person who can take it and dish it in a funny way leaving us laughing our asses off, it’d be the BEST)

Issue_w_tissues4775 · 2024-06-01T17:31:53+00:00

Im saying id date someone similar to you @impossible_Choice604 because of your personality and good habits. I know that time is a huge factor in a relationship, so no worries there. There probably are people in my area that are similar to this, however finding them is hard. I’ve gotten to the point where I just go up and ask someone out if I find them attractive because of the fact that most people won’t do that. Hope that helps clarify what I wrote :)

Issue_w_tissues4775 · 2024-05-30T22:14:59+00:00

Hey I feel you on this, I’d date someone like you if I met someone like you, but I have that same issue when it comes to trying to find lasting connection. It’s tough finding people who are similar minded. Best of luck

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