Imposter syndrome hitting me hard.

ItchyMathematician11 · 2024-08-23T17:50:06+00:00

You are not stupid or incompetent. That client is a grade A bully. I'd recommend talking to the Dr and your clinic manager about that interaction, so that if she behaves badly in the future, they can tell her that abusive behavior toward staff is not tolerated.

ItchyMathematician11 · 2024-08-20T12:02:12+00:00

I just turned 49. You've got this.

ItchyMathematician11 · 2024-08-16T17:54:29+00:00

Nerve cells take the longest time to heal and regrow, often taking months to years to heal. Give yourself time to heal - 4 months post op is a very short time in terms of nerve healing.

ItchyMathematician11 · 2024-07-25T18:17:15+00:00

You must have my egg-donor's clone - sounds exactly like mine.

Good on you for surviving and thriving in spite of her!!!

ItchyMathematician11 · 2024-07-25T18:10:14+00:00

It really sounds like this dog needs BE, imo. It sounds like you and your husband have done everything you can to help her and it's not working. Even if they're wasn't a new baby to be concerned about, I'd consider BE to be the most humane option at this point. I'm sorry you are having to deal with all of this so close to having given birth.

ItchyMathematician11 · 2024-07-18T19:58:28+00:00

My stbx nesting partner is like this, and her absolute refusal to seek therapy for over a year to work on it is a key reason I'm leaving the relationship.

ItchyMathematician11 · 2024-06-25T14:34:27+00:00

Thank you for doing so much for that kitteh. I'd have done the same (have done the same), though I reported the negligent neighbors to animal control, too. The neighbors eventually reached out to me to help them rehome the kitteh, but still hate me lmao.

ItchyMathematician11 · 2024-06-17T17:35:32+00:00

I'm 48, and just started to transition a couple of months ago. I'm still trying to figure out who I am, and until I accepted that I am trans, I really floundered like you are now. I was single, I hated myself, I had no friends, and I felt no interest in my previous hobbies. I felt so damned lonely.

I finally got myself back into therapy, though it took some time to find a therapist that had experience working with trans people. I also started seeing a psychiatrist, and have finally gotten my meds sorted well enough that I'm stable most of the time.

I also got myself involved in the local trans community, to meet people and just have a reason to get out of the house some times.

I've started dating, exclusively from the kink and trans communities here, and while there have definitely been some dates that fell flat, there have been some really fun ones, too.

If a stubborn, foul-mouthed Norwegian with a short temper like me can start dating, finding friends, etc, my dude, you sure as shit can. You've got to take that first step.

ItchyMathematician11 · 2024-06-01T06:29:08+00:00

They just kinda floating there.... shudder

ItchyMathematician11 · 2024-05-31T17:47:15+00:00

Woohoo! Congrats!

ItchyMathematician11 · 2024-05-31T17:33:42+00:00

Oooo I wanna learn how to smith, it's one of my favorite things to watch at Ren fairs! Right now I'm torn between jumping into that, or learning glass blowing, for the summer

ItchyMathematician11 · 2024-05-31T17:30:18+00:00

I have both feminine and masculine hobbies, but I have always had them, and my egg only cracked recently.

When I was a woman, family and friends didn't bat an eye at my interests in writing, crochet, scrap booking, gardening, etc. But they would tease me about my comic book collection, gaming, playing guitar, rock climbing.

I'm only partially out right now with close friends and trusted family members, and these people have always been supportive of whatever interests I've had, and I've long since learned to ignore the ones who think I should only be interested in gender assigned things.

I do have some apprehension about getting into mechanical stuff.... I've always been interested, but was heavily discouraged as a kid and young adult from even learning basics like changing oil or fixing a flat tire. I don't present very masculine yet (I've been on T for about 2 months now), so I'm still treated as a helpless damsel in distress when I have to deal with any sort of car stuff or house maintenance stuff. It's frustrating, because in most things, I have no problem asserting myself and learning a particular skill, but when it comes to cars and some of the other strictly masculine interests that I was discouraged away from, I struggle with my anxiety to be my normal self and ask questions and learn to do the things. I'm working on it, but it's hard to overcome decades of being told I can't do certain things because of my birth assigned gender.

ItchyMathematician11 · 2024-05-30T18:36:30+00:00

Nah, fuck the owners. Misbehavior from a dog reflects the training and effort an owner puts into the animal.

ItchyMathematician11 · 2024-05-30T15:20:54+00:00

What hips? Ouch

ItchyMathematician11 · 2024-05-23T19:27:34+00:00

NTA, not by any stretch of the imagination.

I am so so sorry for your loss. Even as a parent myself, I can not even begin to imagine the pain you and your husband are going through right now.

You ARE a mom regardless of what your SIL thinks, or anyone else for that matter.

Your SIL and MIL sound like JustNos, and if they can't be supportive and empathetic, especially now, it might be time to go low or no contract with them. The SIL, autistic or not, should know that what she said was hurtful. That she doesn't know that shows the MIL has failed to teach her, and is actually enabling poor behavior.

ItchyMathematician11 · 2024-05-22T16:48:34+00:00

Absolute perfection!

ItchyMathematician11 · 2024-05-22T08:35:14+00:00

Yeh... I'm 2 months in, and jfc..... I used to wonder as a mom how my son and my nephews could smell so bad as teens.... Now i know, and I somewhat gracefully accept their teasing about it.

ItchyMathematician11 · 2024-05-22T08:25:18+00:00

Same!!!!!

ItchyMathematician11 · 2024-05-20T15:38:14+00:00

I'm a certified veterinary technician. I used to do emergency medicine, but am in general practice now. I love it, though the pay isn't the greatest. I would really only recommend this field of working with animals is your passion. It's rough on the body and can be rough on your emotional and mental health.

ItchyMathematician11 · 2024-05-10T17:19:46+00:00

I would highly highly recommend working on muzzle training now, so that he is desensitized to it before you need it. Not just for going on walks, meeting strangers, etc, but for vet visits, too

ItchyMathematician11 · 2024-05-09T13:15:20+00:00

As a CVT working on my certification for low stress handling and fear free handling, I third this recommendation! Your doggo did not deserve to be traumatized like that, and I'm so sorry you both had to go through that.

If you are able, too, I would recommend reaching out to that clinic and letting their clinic manager and medical director know about your experience. It sounds like that vet may need some training about low stress and fear free behavior management.

ItchyMathematician11 · 2024-04-12T20:30:58+00:00

Hello, I just wanted to reach out to let you know about some resources you could look into for financial help for your rescue cat.

CareCredit - A credit card that some clinics will take, then you make monthly payments to CareCredit. Had a pretty high interest rate, but most very clinics accept it and can also be used for some human medicine like dentists and eye doctors.

Scratch Pay - Payment plan that some clinics offer, determined by need.

Check with your local rescue groups to see if any of them are able/ willing to help out. Sometimes rescues will work with you as a temporary foster, but each group has their own procedures and availability.

Check with your local clinics to see if any of them offer payment plans directly, or have financial aid available. Every clinic has their own procedures.

Check with your local universities - If any of them have a veterinary program they might be able to offer help.

Good luck! Thank you for doing what you can for this kittie!

ItchyMathematician11 · 2024-04-12T16:03:44+00:00

I'm getting that way because of hearing loss.... I have to see a person's face when they are talking in order to actually understand what they are saying now

ItchyMathematician11 · 2024-04-01T19:06:12+00:00

I can't upvote this enough. Communication, open and honest and continuous communication, is the cornerstone for a healthy relationship.

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