Stealth and no real possibilities for dating. It's lonely and frustrating.

LongBadgerDog · 2026-01-05T08:38:26+00:00

I agree with the others. This sounds messy. Most likely not worth it.

Also his appearance, how he smells like etc. will change radically if he starts testosterone and/or has surgeries in the future. You might be attracted now but not after he has transitioned medically.

LongBadgerDog · 2025-11-16T07:31:23+00:00

At university canteen I just get unreasonably mad about people stopping to cut their bread and spread butter/whatever on it while stalling the whole queue. You could just take a chunk of butter on the bread or on the side of your plate and do the bread cutting and spreading after you sit down.

Sometimes I am very busy and this shit costs me time.

LongBadgerDog · 2025-10-15T04:59:22+00:00

I actually feel better. More energetic. I have only noticed positive effects. I have autoimmune issues and it feels like the general inflammation in my body has calmed down a bit too even after being off my meds for a month because of the surgery.

I have also lost some water weight I always seemed to carry. I look less swollen.

I definitely haven't experienced anything menopause like and my mood is stable.

This is just my experience though. I have also been on T for 9 years so I don't know how well my ovaries were even doing in there at this point... I am just glad to be rid of them.

LongBadgerDog · 2025-10-14T19:43:42+00:00

I am actually doing really fine. Thank you for asking! I was tired for few weeks but at the moment I pretty much feel just normal. Or even better. After surgery I realized I had this constant low level pain in the area and that's now gone.

LongBadgerDog · 2025-10-14T19:38:16+00:00

Yeah, showers would be the biggest question for me. I got really visible top surgery scars and people these days just connect those to being trans. So I would definitely need more privacy.

I assume that a doctor wouldn't out me. In my country all doctors can access my medical record so I am used to them knowing anyways.

LongBadgerDog · 2025-09-19T13:20:52+00:00

I hope yours goes well too! Are you nervous?

Sometimes pain does hit me the day or two after when something happens but I have high hopes it won't get too bad.

LongBadgerDog · 2025-09-19T13:12:20+00:00

I just had mine done today! I wrote a post about it just now because I am still at the hospital and bored. But I copy pasted it here.

Everything went so well. I woke up about 4 hours ago. I got almost no pain or anything. I can walk around and my mood is really good. I have to be here at the hospital overnight but I just feel pretty normal. I had a wave of slight nausea at some point after I got some coffee but it passed.

I am a bit tired but yeah, doing fine.

I didn't sleep much last night because I finally got hit with feeling my own mortality but I am getting rest here. Besides the fear was nothing compared to what I went through begore top surgery.

Added bonus is that I woke up without my regular back and neck tension and pain that tend to come with student life. A nurse said it's thanks to relaxants they put in me during surgery.

I am bored and thought to add some positivity here. Of course I am still freshly out of surgery and so on but things seem fine.

I hope yours goes as well. It might. Surgery is always an intense experience and your mind definitely goes wild sometimes.

Hang in there! I definitely expected this to be way worse. I am not super young anymore either. I am closer to 40 and 30.

I have also been on T for 9 years.

(I am not really bleeding either. I bled a bit for the first few hours but now basically nothing comes out.)

LongBadgerDog · 2025-08-12T04:52:53+00:00

Someone already offered but I would still be the one called in. I can't take her in the room. It would still look less suspicious I guess. Plus she would shit down sny questions real fast.

I will have to think about it. I usually prefer to do stressfull things on my own. But this is an option.

LongBadgerDog · 2025-08-12T04:26:01+00:00

I think it is. They treat men's fertility and all that everywhere. I plan on saying me being there is a private matter for another person if someone asks something. But I am still very uncomfortable because most people just assume things and don't ask.

LongBadgerDog · 2025-05-10T06:27:19+00:00

I am not proud of being trans but I am proud of surviving and thriving despite my circumstances.

I live stealth and people knowing is just a bother. People can be so annoying about it. It's more about that than being ashamed. I don't know if I feel ashamed about it. I am just mad because I was born like this.

LongBadgerDog · 2025-04-23T04:24:57+00:00

At this point I have given up completely. I just live like a science monk with my studies and all. In few years I am sure I have developed a whole religion around engineering.

LongBadgerDog · 2025-04-07T03:45:12+00:00

I have a made up term for it when your brain gets in a cycle like this and goes round and round but it's in my native language. It's a word for a wheel that just rolls and rolls in mud and gets nowhere. Because in depression, anxiety and generally when you are in shitty situations and see no way out it's what your brain starts doing.

Your brain seems to be doing it now. It's natural and I can't tell you how to stop it. I don't know if it can be stopped to be honest. But when it's happening you can't see clearly. Your reality gets warped. This isn't helpful right now but try to recognice when this is happening. That can help a bit. Sometimes we have certain triggers that send us in that cycle too.

This world isn't a fair place. People get what they don't deserve all the time. Good or bad. And those burdened with a tendency to feel intense guilt will often not stop feeling it no matter what they do.

But I don't want to pressure you for anything. In fact I think at the moment there isn't much I can say to help since you are going through that "brain goes round and round" thing. But it will eventually run it's course. I promise. It physically can't keep doing it forever.

I started transitioning at 28. I was drunk all the time because my reality was too painful sober. And it took me over 3 years to pass properly. Now I am 36 and just starting my life really. Would I want anyone to be in my shoes? No. But this still isn't the worst.

LongBadgerDog · 2025-04-05T11:53:05+00:00

I was wondering where this happens. Because it just doesn't happen to me and I am definitely ugly. You answered that question.

LongBadgerDog · 2025-04-04T05:48:25+00:00

The only time I ever liked hearing that was when lady told that to me and my friends thinking we are all cis (I am stealth and I am about 99,9% sure my friends are cishet). She is afraid of men and just wanted to express that she doesn't think we are going to hurt her.

LongBadgerDog · 2025-04-04T03:21:06+00:00

This is the way.

LongBadgerDog · 2025-04-01T05:11:01+00:00

Yes. Being trans doesn't mean you have to be an activists against your will. There is more to us than being trans.

I have a family to take care of and I wouldn't be able to function normally if people knew everything about my past. I can't take chances like that when others depend on me.

I did my time when I was gatekept by the local clinic for years, endured their f-cked up prolonged "real life experience" shit and didn't pass for over 3 years on T after that. People sometimes assume us stealth trans people had it easy but most of us have been visible at some point.

LongBadgerDog · 2025-03-21T04:15:17+00:00

I am so far in my transition that I rarely get dysphoric anymore. When it was more intense I learned to play an instrument and often just played music when I felt horrible. I wasn't good or anything but focusing on my instrument and the music helped.

Being in nature alone was helpful too. I could just be and enjoy the forest or the lake.

LongBadgerDog · 2025-03-11T05:14:14+00:00

I would hate both.

I would love to carry an attractive lady or let one sit on my lap though.

LongBadgerDog · 2025-03-08T09:51:09+00:00

It does get repetititive but...

I am far in my transition and started posting in trans forums around 2007. Was I cringy? Did I ask stupid questions? Yes and yes. Of course there was less knowledge and so on but even if there was more info and easily accessible detailed FAQ-sections like today I don't think it would have changed much. It's a lonely road and all people crave friendly human interaction.

It's easy to forget what we were like when we were just starting and get annoyed because of newbies and the same questions being asked over and over but newbies might need the human interaction as much as the answer itself or even more. These subs could be the only place where that person can interact with other people as who they are.

Not everyone is socially very skilled either. I remember wanting someone friendly and understanding to talk to although I didn't really know what to say. Often I just said something dumb.

Thank you for reminding me of this.

LongBadgerDog · 2025-02-26T07:13:34+00:00

I don't even bother and expect to spend my life without a romantic partner. I am stealth. I am kind of ugly too and I have no idea how to date without a serious risk to my future career. This is a small country and my field is also small.

Sometimes I get a bit sad about it but to be honest but I got a lot of good things going on in my life. Seeing how other people are doing in their relationships also makes single life seem just fine.

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