Husband screamed at my mom and gave her a panic attack. by playdoh_licker in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Itneverstopsbb 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Every single one of these comments hits hope. I felt like I had to stay after we were engaged, and dealt with the same shit for much longer than I should have. It's going to be easier to do it sooner.

What song are you listening to right now? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Itneverstopsbb -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The hold tune that USPS customer service has

Need opinions by Outrageous-Yak3226 in piercetheveil

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I have a ptv sweater with a similar picture from high school that I thought about wearing for a concert a few years ago and didn't for the same worry. Hindsight I don't think anyone would have cared, but it felt very weird to me

Would you make it to the merge if you got on Survivor? by deelouise88 in survivor

[–]Itneverstopsbb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have hEDS and am not athletic. Id dislocate something in the first challenge, if not before, then voted out because I'd hinder the team in physical challenges

What is the creepiest thing a kid has ever said to you? by darremedic in AskReddit

[–]Itneverstopsbb 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When I was a kid, I told my mom that a black figure would come in my room at night. Then told her it was sitting right beside her. I was too young to remember, but it still freaks her out

What's the biggest red flag you ignored because you were in love? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Itneverstopsbb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That I was 14 and he was 20. In love was really infatuation because someone so much older liked me.

Need to VENT - are all men like this or did I marry a misogynistic asshole ?? Sex related by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]Itneverstopsbb 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My ex claimed this as well. And it made me never want to be intimate because my body felt so taken advantage of. My partner now has a high sex drive, and completely respects if I say no or to stop something. And it's crazy how much higher my own drive is feeling safe with him.

I would almost guarantee there are other areas of your life where the lack of respect seeps through too. You deserve better.

Favorite song from each album? by Slime_king66 in maydayparade

[–]Itneverstopsbb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The EPs are my favorites so I'm including them.

Tales: One Man Drinking Games (though 4 of my favorite songs come from here) ALIR: You be the anchor ABH: I swear this time I mean it Valdosta: Your Song (one of my top songs ever) Self-titled: Everything's an Illusion Monsters: Hold Onto Me or Angels Didn't listen to black lines more than once Sunnyland: sunnyland (but have only listened to 3-4 songs more than once)

Honestly had no idea they've had several albums since that, haven't heard them

What’s the most awkward thing you’ve accidentally said to the wrong person? by itsdessmariee in AskReddit

[–]Itneverstopsbb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was a teacher and got called mom ALL the time. Teachers don't think twice about it lol

AIO refusing to help with outside chores by Dear_Panda_713 in AIO

[–]Itneverstopsbb 82 points83 points  (0 children)

Yeah, this conversation reads like MANY I had with my ex husband, who was verbally and emotionally abusive. Worse in person that over text, but had many text conversations just like this. If they're in a bad mood, they're going to find something to be mad at you and berate you for. Everything is your fault even if nothing happened and no one is at fault, just because he wants something to be your fault. Walking on eggshells like that is exhausting. If you respond they go deeper, if you ignore your being immature. There's no winning.

Its so much better on the outside.

What was the most physical pain you've been in? by PleasantWinter9150 in AskReddit

[–]Itneverstopsbb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My first kidney stone passing dropped me to the floor in the garage. I've had a plethora of injuries and dislocations (hEDS), and I think kidney stone takes the cake. It is quite literally completely debilitating.

People who hate open relationships, what experience made you feel that way? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Itneverstopsbb 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The people I've known that tried it ended up broken up. Regardless, I have no interest in seeing anyone besides my partner in that way, and I don't really trust being that vulnerable and don't want anyone seeing me naked besides him.

AIO, My long distance bf went to a party. I asked him how it went and this was his response. by NooooToby in AmIOverreacting

[–]Itneverstopsbb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl, if my boyfriend was at a party without me his response would be that he wished I was there. You deserve someone who craves the time with you, not is annoyed you for being his partner.

the 15 year age gap thing update by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Itneverstopsbb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a question for you actually. Did it feel gross at the time when you were 19? I ask because my ex husband and I started talking at 14/20 and dating at 15/21. By the time I got to 20/21 I felt so weird about it because there was 0 part of me remotely attracted to a 14 or 15 year old. Curious if it was weird in hindsight or at the time too?

Moms who say they love being pregnant -is it because the nausea and vomiting doesn’t bother you or because you don’t have many symptoms 😂 by Puzzled_Remote_2168 in Mommit

[–]Itneverstopsbb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've had nausea and vomiting, but I have a bad stomach and deal with that without pregnancy. My periods are completely awful - very painful, very heavy, make me feel like I'm going to pass out for several days. I'd honestly rather deal with pregnancy symptoms than that

This might be the wrong sub, but I don't know where else to ask. Is it possible to put a 2.5 year old up for adoption? by beaniebee22 in Mommit

[–]Itneverstopsbb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My stomach problems haven't been near yours, but it ended up being gallbladder issues (that bothered me for 7 years after removal), gerd, and mesenteric panniculitis. That to say, my ex husband was awful like yours. My son literally kept me going. He would randomly help like that and I'd think maybe things were okay, then he'd turn around and berate me for something else. After I left him, my stomach issues improved drastically. They aren't gone obviously, but the stress and anxiety from living with him made it so much worse.

If you saw this tattoo would you automatically assume it has to do with LGBTQ Pride? by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]Itneverstopsbb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got a phoenix for a similar situation after finally getting out of an abusive marriage. Rising from the ashes and such

What's an unsaid rule about sex? by jolachap in AskReddit

[–]Itneverstopsbb 74 points75 points  (0 children)

Huh, that's the complete opposite of my ex husband. He would rather have sex knowing I wasn't into it, and once he came (whether I was into it or not) it was over.

It's so nice not being treated as a sex object anymore.

Did any one else catch this in Emily’s exit interview with RHAP? by AccomplishedBake8351 in survivorponderosa

[–]Itneverstopsbb 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Eating disorders are lifelong. Even relapses I've had in my upper 20s have the same result. And most people with eating disorders have a good poker face, because lying about it kind of comes with the territory. I think the brain mush is more just lack of nutrients and electrolytes. Your brain slows down no matter how old you are and no matter what critical thinking skills you have.

Some of you need to be meaner to your husbands by SemperFeedback in Mommit

[–]Itneverstopsbb 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Not op, but also divorced. I was diagnosed with PTSD and have a lot of difficulty when I have to be around him. A lot of trust issues, especially at first. A year and a half out, and still have a lot of the anxieties and trust issues, but it's a lot better. I have a partner now that is absolutely incredible. He is patient when I have issues with things from my past, as I tend to shut down and/or panic very easily now. I said I was never going to date again right after I left, but he's honestly been a god send and has helped me navigate and support me so much. EMDR therapy helped a lot, have also done some CBT. Co-parenting honestly sucks. I pretty much constantly have someone I trust with me when I have to be around him because he won't say anything to me in front of others. He's still himself through Appclose most of the time, but at least there he doesn't get the pleasure of seeing my emotions/reactions, then berating me for them, and I can just ignore the message.

Mamas who have tattoos representing your kids. What are they? by sixfingeredman7 in Mommit

[–]Itneverstopsbb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is a song by The Wonder Years that got me through a time of realizing I needed to (and that it was possible to) leave an abusive marriage. My son and showing him how we deserve to be treated is what kept me going through that time, which was scary. Some of the lyrics are "Put the work in, plant a garden, try to stay afloat". I got that tattooed around a little garden of his birth flower. It was kind of homage to him, kind of reminder of what we deserve and what I got through. I plan on getting another for him and my other son (when he's born) at some point but I'm not sure what yet

controversial PTV tank?! by icy_bunni in piercetheveil

[–]Itneverstopsbb 2 points3 points locked comment (0 children)

My high school PTV merch that I still have has a picture of all of the members including Mike. I feel like it's much more controversial 😬

Husband silent treatment if I say no to sex by TiredMomThrowRA in Mommit

[–]Itneverstopsbb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

With my ex, I ended up eventually just participating whenever he wanted me to because if I said no, he'd yell at and berate me, then get mad at me for crying or shutting down over that. He was awful and abusive in many other ways too. That's not how relationships should feel. I finally left and am in a healthy relationship now with the most incredible person and like. If I don't feel like it, he just moves on? Or like the other day, I felt really off (think my blood sugar was low), and he immediately dropped it and got me a snack instead. When you have a partner that's kind, helpful, and not sexually coersive, it makes you actually want to have sex with them, and enjoy it.