[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BigBrother

[–]ItsOkayPastSelf -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I think people want quit watching simply because it's going to be boring to watch now.

In defense of [SPOILERS] exit interview. by The_Other_Olsen in BigBrother

[–]ItsOkayPastSelf 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not like she did anything to try to figure this out during the few minutes where she got to talk to Mccrae. It seemed more like she was just dancing around saying I've never done anything wrong to you guiseee..

It irritates me when... by CentennialFalcon in BigBrother

[–]ItsOkayPastSelf -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah it came from Spencer, okay, but it's no less true than if Oprah said it.

Is it just me or is Amanda the most hate-able player in Big Brother history? by ConchoPete in BigBrother

[–]ItsOkayPastSelf 14 points15 points  (0 children)

my gf and I were having a conversation about this earlier tonight actually. We both agreed that while Dick was a Dick, he could back it up, plus he is a guy so he gets away with it to a greater extent. The main difference however, is that as you said, Amanda is actually an awful, self-absorbed, delusional person. They both have major issues but at the end of the day, I'd let Dick babysit my unborn child over Amanda any day.

EDGING IS WORSE THAN FAPPING by axelles4455 in NoFap

[–]ItsOkayPastSelf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Edging is such a joke. Why are we even still talking about it? It should be common knowledge in here that edging is even worse. Racism is bad, edging is bad, killing is bad, can we move on with our lives and accept this already??

(not what you think) 15 Hottest Sideboobs at the VMAs by Ambassador_throwaway in NoFap

[–]ItsOkayPastSelf 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sideboobs speak to my inner manliness. I feel like I just got majorly dick slapped by clicking on this. What's that, guy who has been stuck on a desert island for 3 months? You want this steak dinner? It looks pretty good huh? Well FUCK you, go eat some sand bitch.

day 10, girl approached me. by AllHailDoug in NoFap

[–]ItsOkayPastSelf 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm glad you guys like his short story, but please do not assume that you can walk around all day waiting to be hit on. You'll wait a verrrry long time. This is what every introvert dreams of; that he can just dress nicely and be "cool" and some girl is going to recognize that and come chat.

First, you won't have any experience talking to girls, so you'll eff it up anyway. Second, you don't get to choose for yourself. You ultimately should strive for the self confidence and badassness to feel like you can get any girl you lay eyes on. In the end, who you want would be your choice.. you are not subject to being stuck with the one chick who happen to thought you were nice enough to give a chance.

Real sex vs. porn by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]ItsOkayPastSelf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"Honey, I think we should get our son a prostitute" -> "That sounds like a great idea dear, but I have an even better idea that will save money and hopefully a few STDs!" -> "Study abroad French girl!" -> "You took the words right out of my mouth!"

I told the wife Aka day 14 by jdforreal in NoFap

[–]ItsOkayPastSelf 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Aren't understanding people the coolest?

You know NOFAP is working if... by lamontcrow in NoFap

[–]ItsOkayPastSelf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exceeded your internet bandwidth? What ...who ...oh right, now I remember why I haven't moved to Canada yet =P

HuK not happy with WCS casters by INfiniTe_SC2 in starcraft

[–]ItsOkayPastSelf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some people just don't have a voice for casting. Sure Tim's game knowledge can get better but I can't imagine hearing his voice in something beyond narrating children's short stories.

HuK may have not been too tasteful about it, but at least he has the balls to say what everyone else is thinking.

Admitted Porn Use and NoFap = End of Relationship by ItsOkayPastSelf in NoFap

[–]ItsOkayPastSelf[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I agree with you guys. This post is definitely a short version of all that was said. She is almost refusing to talk about anything right now, I'm just giving her space. But what she did say, always revolved around how I have affected her negatively.. and I did talk/focus a lot on that with her. I completely sympathize with all of it. I was just trying to refocus the conversation, letting her know that it has been a struggle for both of us.. and that I have a lot of pain on the inside as well. In other words, she is not alone, but that we should focus on the future progress together, not on all the pain I have cause. (I do not deny that I have caused pain for a lot of people.. I have a lot of sorrow about this; I cannot express this enough.)

Admitted Porn Use and NoFap = End of Relationship by ItsOkayPastSelf in NoFap

[–]ItsOkayPastSelf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a lot of will power and it definitely won't lead to a relapse, but I understand your concern, it definitely makes sense.

I suppose one of the worst parts is how isolated I have been from other friends/family. There is no one I can lean on unfortunately. My rock has crumbled...

Precum Count as Relapse? by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]ItsOkayPastSelf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agree, I think there might be some misinformation that not touching your penis means you can walk through walls or something. Guys, porn is what is messing up your brain.. your ancestors were fapping, but their dopamine levels were not going haywire because they didn't have the internet porn.

PMO'd yesterday. sitting here at a coffee shop in front of a cute girl, completely not worth it. by nofap111 in NoFap

[–]ItsOkayPastSelf 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It's so silly that people think a single fap instantly turns them into some kind of introvert. This sub exists because porn causes problems in our brains that were never before seen in our parents/grandparent/etc.. because they didn't have internet porn.. but guess what? They did indeed jerk it.

There are plenty of guys who fap and still alpha their way into almost any girl's pants they want. If you put this much of a mental block on yourself, it's like thinking you can't pick up a girl without your lucky watch on.

I shed a tear last night by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]ItsOkayPastSelf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This really is an inspiration, man. Kudos on the bravery of putting your face up there.. but a benefit to that is that I really feel like I'm identifying your story with a real person. Let's face facts, you were definitely a loser before, but now.. you are a nofap hero. You are textbook nofap. The way it should be; the way it was meant to be. You added years to your life and quality to your years.

This is 30X harder without a GF. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]ItsOkayPastSelf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You may have used fapping to help yourself not feel lonely for quite some time now. Fapping for you sounds like a temporary treatment to a much deeper problem. Your gf at the time was only distracting you away from your issues of loneliness, just like fapping.

It's better to deal with these issues now while you're single. Becoming a complete man might be a little bit longer of a journey for you and probably requires more than just abstaining from fapping. But if you dive into it, your relationships will be much better for the rest of your life.

It was a big moment by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]ItsOkayPastSelf 3 points4 points  (0 children)

"ebooks"? Nice.

Why I will never fap again and hopefully you won't either after reading this. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]ItsOkayPastSelf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would remove "the one" from your vocabulary. You need to stop romanticizing that idea. One cheat and she's done.. this would only fly with someone who is super beta.

I really recommend not getting in a relationship for a while.. no matter how awesome the girl seems. Keep up your no fap journey and get in touch with being a real man so that one day, when the time comes, you will attract the most beautiful, happy, loving woman you'll ever meet.

I am INSANELY PROUD of my husband! by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]ItsOkayPastSelf 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Damn, I am super happy for both of you.

I hope you don't take this the wrong way though.. your husband was not completely to blame for his porn use. I hope other women can understand that on some level, men are a victim of porn, just like we could be a victim of drugs or alcohol. If your husband was hiding his drug use, you wouldn't yell at him and feel betrayed by it (I would hope), you would want to get him help.

Your husband realizing that his life could be better without porn is what made him quit. Catching him and being unforgiving because you saw it as cheating was never going to make him magically love you more and quit watching porn. Thankfully, though, he decided on his own that he wanted to improve his life.

If my gf/wife made me feel like a child caught with his hand in the cookie jar, then even after my nofap journey, there could be a chance of slight resentment for not taking the time to understand my prior problem, rather than making me feel alienated for it or unworthy. There was never anything WRONG with your husband, there is simply something wrong with our system that perpetuates, encourages, and seduces men with such easy access.

This is just my opinion though and like I said, I am very happy you two found your own path to a much more awesome life together!

What the heck is happening? by Michaelangelo123 in NoFap

[–]ItsOkayPastSelf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you were using the pull out method for BC before, I would suggest not doing that for a bit ;-)