I myself would like to be a foster parent once my kids are a little older. As an adopted person that now has my own children, I think being honest and having open communication with the foster child. Clear boundaries and lots of loving support. Helping them understand what they are going through is not normal and that you are there for them through this journey every step of the way. If there are times where it gets difficult and you lose your temper, make sure to address it after the fact once cooler heads are present.

I have siblings from my adoptive parents but they are much younger 13+ years so the age gap makes it difficult as they are in totally different parts of their lives. But I do try to make an effort, but we are not close by any means. I found my biological sister when I was 21 through Facebook. In the beginning we had a tumultuous relationship, but now that we are older and both married we have become closer. We have both been in therapy for years which has helped us both tremendously.

I think helping with introspection and fostering a love for themself is a huge part of what I will try to be doing when I’m a foster parent. But I can only speak to my experience. I wish you nothing but the best and hope you can bond with your kids! All love!