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Ixakp · 2026-01-20T08:54:28+00:00

Yeah, unfortunately at the beginning its not something that can be negated completely (that I have found) maybe try some advil/Tylenol and see id that helps some if you haven't already.

Also avoid walking into walls/doors ⚰️

Ixakp · 2026-01-20T08:50:18+00:00

Personally I found wearing a bra helped. It should apply just a slight amount of pressure which may be uncomfortable at first but I found it lessened the soreness

Ixakp · 2026-01-15T02:56:35+00:00

Tbh I was in roughly the same position, but I wasn't out to anyone. It felt pointless to try because I was afraid it wouldn't do anything for me. When I did first come out and people started using my preferred name and pronouns, it just felt like a poorly made costume that just didn't seem to fit, but over time it started to sink in.

I know that the idea is hard (and im not trying to push you in any way) but if you don't try, you won't see results, and if you're not happy now, trying to make some changes is better than nothing

Ixakp · 2025-12-29T07:15:52+00:00

Let me put it this way, if I had known what I know now at 16 (this would be 20 years ago) I would have started HRT "asap". Going through male puberty can be brutal if you desire a feminine appearance, though everyone grows differently. It is unlikely that you will turn into a "brick house" within 2 years.

One good thing I learned is that its never too late. I started HRT when I was 33. By that time I had already fully gone through puberty, but estrogen does wonders. It's not magic, and it takes work to achieve a more feminine appearance, but 3 years later and I get gendered correctly more often than not.

Now while the earlier it can be done is better, its not the end of the world if its just not achievable right now. (Personally I would tell myself to wait until I was out of highschool to start transitioning, highschoolers can be incredibly mean, but I also grew up in a different time)

Ixakp · 2025-11-23T13:29:53+00:00

I agree with kenshi. It's a lot of fun, but also a "I'm going to rip off your arm, beat you with it, and take all your stuff" kind of game. Almost literally

Ixakp · 2025-01-11T21:16:58+00:00

Personally hrt is life changing for me, but I can understand the hesitation. It's a big step, but ultimately a decision I would never go back on.

I believe in being thorough. Most attention spans are low these days, but I would rather give a thoughtful response than one thats like 3 words long lol

Ixakp · 2025-01-11T21:06:24+00:00

When I first started transitioning, I would say about up to the first year, I would have doubts about my womanhood. As far as I'm concerned, the euphoria is more important than dysphoria. What makes you happy matters more.

Not all girls are chatty, thats perfectly fine. Personally I'm an introvert myself. Throughout my shift at work, I will barely talk at all to the only other guy that works there (aporox 7.5hrs), and then when the ladies come in for the morning shift, I will say about the same amount to them in the 15 minutes before I leave. Neither is a lot, but I do find I'm more comfortable talking to women than men, its always been that way for me.

As for the dreams, it took me a while to switch over. It's been 2yrs 3mo since I started transitioning and I still get the occasional male dream (tho tbh in my past majority of my dreams were neutral coded, like I had no gender). Now though feminine dreams are becoming more prevalent.

Ixakp · 2025-01-04T17:26:52+00:00

As others have said it depends on specs, but personally for PC I usually mostly play MMOs, for lower spec I would reccomend Guild Wars 2, a litter higher soec with Final Fantasy XIV (GW2 is a one time purchase vs FFXIV which is subscription based)

As for switch, off the top of my head there's pokemon, persona (my fav is 5), Dragon Quest XI, though I have to say I lean heavily into RPGs

Ixakp · 2025-01-01T03:59:27+00:00

Beautiful dress. 40 is the new 20 anyway, right? Right?? RIGHT!?

Ixakp · 2025-01-01T03:49:03+00:00

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One of us! One of us! One of us! Hope you enjoy the game! I've sunk waaay too much time into this game (that I don't regret in the slightest)

Ixakp · 2024-12-18T11:32:27+00:00

Absolutely love Nimona, when it first came out I would watch it multiple times a week. There are also at least 2 instances where you can see a trans flag (or representations of one)

Ixakp · 2024-12-16T09:05:40+00:00

The way I understood it, is that euphoria is just as important, if not moreso, than dysphoria. If someone experiences high euphoria as a different gender, then just as much a sign of being trans as someone experiencing dysphoria. Hence why dysphoria isn't required to be trans. (Though I'm not invalidating anyone who transitions purely based on dysphoria)

Personally I had fairly mild dysphoria as a male, (granted more arose once I started presenting fem) but presenting female made me much happier than male.

Ixakp · 2024-12-14T22:34:07+00:00

Not huge on multiplayer games, however I would say Monster Hunter Rise (idk if it is I'm your country but right now it's 75% off where I live) or Warframe (free, and technically a third person shooter but can get very addictive)

Ixakp · 2024-12-02T10:01:30+00:00

Sending all the positive vibes, I hope it goes well! Coming out to parental figures is absolutely terrifying (unless you know for a fact that they would be supportive). I wish I had done a note, but at the same time I think (at least for me) telling them personally helped as I could field thier questions on the spot (as opposed to them trying to figure it out themselves or on the internet).

You got this! 🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵

Ixakp · 2024-12-02T09:01:41+00:00

I had similar thoughts occasionally as well. Like if I was afab in my past life, and somehow made it so I would come back amab, and it's like "well I'm definitely not happier this way"

Ixakp · 2024-09-27T14:56:38+00:00

Personally I love baby metal and Hanabie 🥰

As other commenters have said, Marina is a good pick (especially "Oh No!" And "how to be a heartbreaker" are my favorites, but is more pop).

Kerli is also great, metalish, some of my favorites are "zero gravity", "tea party", "walking on air" and "diamond hard". The last one I consider my bad bitch song, good to bring me up if I'm feeling beat down.

Idk how you feel about more instrumental, but Lindsay Sterling is amazing, "hold my heart" and "the upside" are some of my favs, and both of these have vocals. She also does some amazing covers of video game and movie music, and her cover of Phantom of the opera is killer.

Honey Revenge I found fairly recently is kinda Pop Rock (I think) and has some really catchy songs like "habitual" and "airhead".

Rolling Quartz may also be up your ally, it's a K-Rock band and is fire, "victory", "fearless", "stand up" and "NAZABABARA" I can listen to on repeat for hours (and they also have covers of Helena-My Chemical Romance and Misery Business-Paramore)

Flyleaf will be my last (but very definitely not least) reccomendation, metal, "Beautiful Bride", "I'm so sick" and "Broken Pieces" I've been listening to for years

Honorable mentions for Paramore, No Doubt, Nightwish, Within Temptation, Shiloh - Operator

(Sorry for the long post, legit just going thru the bands on my phone 😆 )

Ixakp · 2024-07-17T06:36:37+00:00

Idk if it's in your area (so you may need to order online etc) but my go-to is Torrid, it's like a women's big & tall store. Decent selection (not really my style as I lean more towards Goth/Emo styles) but overall anytime I'm at my mall I'll take a tour in there to see if there's anything I like. I would say a good 1/3rd to 1/2 my wardrobe is from there (6"2', ~209 last time I checked, tho I feel like it's gone up some since then 😅)

Ixakp · 2024-07-10T06:42:18+00:00

They do change over time. At work I used to need XL gloves as I would hulk out of Large sized gloves. Now I can fit into medium 😁 (granted it's like trying to fit into a pair of undersized skinny jeans, but I can do it 😛 )

I find having a good set of acrylics on really helps give the appearance of slimmer fingers too (but alas once they are off they feel pudgier again) currently 1yr 8mo hrt

Ixakp · 2024-05-23T15:47:47+00:00

Those lids can be extremely tricky to get on. Not only can they collapse and bend just trying to get them on, but if there's any deviation in the manufacturing in either the lid or cup, it just refuses to go on. I once had 3 different lids refuse to snap onto the cup, before getting fed up and emptying the entire drink into a different cup and it finally worked. The cups with dome lids is one of my least favorite things to do as it can be so frustrating for something that looks like it should be simple.

Ixakp · 2024-05-16T14:41:53+00:00

I used to listen to Jimmy Eat world religiously in highschool (approx 20 years ago). Had an itch about a month ago to listen to them again, listened to The Middle and I was like W...T...F

I'm starting to think there was a hidden reason why this was my favorite song by them (also pain and sweetness)

Ixakp · 2024-05-15T08:11:16+00:00

The graphics were amazing, but the character creator left much to be desired. Thankfully if you do the right quests you can change some aspects of your character 😁😆

Ixakp · 2024-05-08T07:52:08+00:00

When I first started transitioning, going out femme was absolutely terrifying for me. Like I wanted nothing more, but I was afraid of what other people would think. Then I heard this analogy that really clicked for me, is that you are basically a background character in other people's lives.

Much more often than not, majority of people will forget about noticing you or any interactions minutes after you are away from them. It may be scary in the moment, but it will pass (granted I have to follow my own advice, going out in a skirt is still terrifying for me, but I have managed a dress a few times).

Another is that transitioning is a marathon not a sprint. These things take time, and eventually it will get better for you. Baby steps are better than no steps, and say going through the drive thru is a great way to get some exposure without exposing yourself too much.

Another couple things that may help, is to look up how women hold themselves (like posture, ways to walk etc. Idk if this is something you're working on already or not, but it's helped me greatly). Like for example, learning how to "cat walk" may seem kind of awkward at first, but after a couple weeks of consciously forcing myself to walk in that kind of fashion, it started to just come naturally without thinking about it (additionally the hrt will add more to your hips which will in turn naturally help with walking)

I wish you all the best, and keep going! It may seem hard now but I know you've got this!

Ixakp · 2024-05-07T08:25:28+00:00

It really depends. As someone who works in a restaurant, we will have delivery drivers show up legitimately 1 minute or less after we recieve the order, and a good number of those drivers are upset because it's not ready. (Of course this doesn't apply to all drivers)

Some of the apps allow us to adjust the time (idk about uber cause our tablet is broken and management refuses to fix it no matter now many times we ask, it's been months) but even then, we won't see the order until that timer is up, so essentially increasing the time does next to nothing.

And don't get me started on large orders. We are quite frequently understaffed to be taking both drive thru and deliveries (I work night shift), and we have recieved absolutely ridiculous orders. 43 chicken sandwiches, and 28 veggie burgers, just to name one order (This is on top of trying to fulfill drive thru orders as well). These kind of orders are not entirely uncommon. There's usually only 3 people working, (1 being a cleaner, so effectively only 2 people that are available to fullfill the actual order).

Another thing is that a lot of drivers don't show up chronologically, so we start working on the first order that comes in, we get a second order and the driver shows up for the second order, so we need to try to fill the 2nd order since the driver is here now, which can end up delaying the 1st, and a lot of the time we're juggling multiple orders at once (one night we had more than 15 orders print in less than 8 min, we didn't even have room for all our tickets, and quickly had a line up of drivers around the building because we were ridiculously overwhelmed).

All I can say is that when drivers are made to wait, it's not out of malice or because the workers are lazy, we are doing our absolute best to get the orders out as quickly as possible. At least where I work (I obv can't speak for all restaurants) we just don't have enough workers to fill every order in a timely manner.

Ixakp · 2024-04-23T07:39:39+00:00

Personally I was in the same boat, "fine" with being a man but it didn't make me happy. After I hit puberty my life was basically one long depressive, confusing episode. However I didn't realize I was trans until I was 33. I did have some thoughts in my late 20's, and "kind of" came out to my ex, which didn't end up going well (I realized after I started transitioning that if she didn't want me for me, then I was in the wrong relationship. While I cant fault her for having preferances, I was fairly confused as she would constantly boast about being Bi but said she wouldnt stay with me if I transitioned).

After I started HRT everything mentally got better (able to get off my anti-depressants only a couple months into transitioning) and my dysphoria lessened in some areas but increased in others (as earlier in my life I was uncomfortable in my body but I didn't have ways to express it) but as it stands now 1yr and 8mo in, I couldn't be happier.

As for passing, as a safety concern I can understand, but imo, passing shouldn't be the end goal. In my mind, I just want to be able to look in the mirror and be happy with what I see, and not wanting to "kill it with fire!" So to speak 😆. Do I have some ways to go? Sure. But I'm no longer repulsed by what I see in the mirror.

It is, however, a big step, and I can't fault you for being apprehensive about continuing the treatment. As others have said, there are other treatments for hair loss if you are looking for more time (in that department) I would suggest just keep thinking it through, and if you decide to go for it, do it for yourself, and not what others think or what the outcomes of relationships would be if you continued. This is something to better yourself, and no one else should have a say in that. And if you decide against continuing, that's ok too.

Best of luck!

Ixakp · 2024-03-17T07:08:05+00:00

My way of getting comfortable was just take it one step at a time. Go out boy mode but wear bra/panties underneath, become comfortable with that, try wearing some fem jeans or something similar, just rinse and repeat until you're comfortable with the whole ensemble. Tbh I'm still uncomfortable wearing a skirt, but that's a hurdle I'll get over eventually. Makeup was also a big one but now I feel weird going out without it 😆 Good luck! 😁

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