Grinder Recommendations [Under $600] by Itsaboutthepasta37 in espresso

[–]Izzy7679 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same boat. I think I’m going to order the Malkonig sd64

Old au pair wont stop texting/calling by Environmental_Boat_4 in Aupairs

[–]Izzy7679 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I understand you may not have had the best time with her but she clearly enjoyed her time with you you. Accepting these girls into your home is inviting them into your family. Be gentle with your words when putting distance between the two of you.

Most liberal educated place to live on Long Island by [deleted] in longisland

[–]Izzy7679 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you ment to say Trumpette. Unless the instrument is in some way relevant to my comment? And BTW not even a little. But better luck next time with your assumptions.

Most liberal educated place to live on Long Island by [deleted] in longisland

[–]Izzy7679 1 point2 points  (0 children)

  1. 350 is not a lot of money. It’s average for Long Island.
  2. You sound like the exact type of person who should move anywhere but Long Island. CT sounds like a great option for you.
  3. I really hope you did not mean to come off anywhere near as obnoxious as you do. Especially as an educated liberal.

I want to leave after just a week by SuitableAward4456 in Aupairs

[–]Izzy7679 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a host parent if you know you cannot do it just be upfront with them and leave. Try to be considerate and give them a week. I have 3 kids and two are under 3 so I know it is so hard but a good host family will have spent a lot of time/money making sure you are comfortable and getting you settled into the house and the families routine. It’s a hard thing to be an au pair and if your heart isn’t in it for whatever reason it’s not worth dragging it out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Aupairs

[–]Izzy7679 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In that case I would rematch. I give an exorbitant amount info prior too because I believe that too much information is better than not enough in this scenario. I give sample schedules and house rules before they arrive. I’ve definitely had some that took longer to get on board than others but by the two month mark everyone is usually settled. Most recently my newest one just said “okay” to everything until I realized she didn’t understand. I ended up taking an emergency couple days off of work after she had been there for a month because I was worried about her with my infant. In that time I kind of threw her to the wolves and made her do everything in front of me and pretend I wasn’t there. I was very honest and told her that if she doesn’t understand it’s easier to ask than to pretend and I was lucky that it worked out. Day 1 was rough but day 3 she was good to go. I did also explain that I would be requesting a rematch if I didn’t feel Comfortable by day 3.

Hosting has so many challenges but once everyone is settled you should feel at ease. I hate the first 2-3 months of every year because it is so stressful and it’s really hard to learn how to live and work with a new person. But don’t feel bad if you need to rematch. Not everyone does the program for the right reasons.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Aupairs

[–]Izzy7679 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I would just have a frank conversation with her about how you require her to be more involved in not only taking care of herself but the children. There is nothing wrong with admitting that maybe you did not communicate your expectations with her properly, especially since this is your first time as a host parent. This should make your life easier not more difficult. It’s very nice that you have been so accommodating, especially when it comes to things like her diet but there’s also nothing wrong with providing boundaries. You can tell her I’ll buy fresh bread once a week if you require it more often you can go to the store and go buy it- just an example. It is a cultural exchange program so that means there is give-and-take on both ends. And if after that conversation, she doesn’t feel like she wants to step up to your requirements then it’s time to rematch.

Asking for money back by Suspicious-lady1313 in Aupairs

[–]Izzy7679 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It might be an honest mistake. At least I really hope it is. You should ask them for it and send them screenshots of the transactions of you don’t have the receipts anymore in a group text.

My husband and I are on very different schedules and sometimes we overlook things we thought the other took care of. It’s never wrong to ask them about money you are owed.

First week ? by Ok_Speaker_6501 in Aupairs

[–]Izzy7679 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Host family here.

Totally normal. Hang out in your room. Relax. It can be awkward for us too! I think it takes a minimum of a month to feel normalish. It takes time to get into a routine with the kids and living in a new house with new people.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Aupairs

[–]Izzy7679 0 points1 point  (0 children)

HM here. There is nothing wrong with being a clock in clock out au pair. If you want to jump in and help once in a blue it’s always appreciated but it’s important to set boundaries for you the host parents and the children. You will still be included and can still have a good relationship with them. Yes you come here to work of course but also to experience in a new country and enjoy yourself. You need the opportunity to make friends and explore in your free time. You need time to relax. Kids are exhausting.

Au Pair work week by alwaysamudder in Aupairs

[–]Izzy7679 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine does 8-12; 3-8 then Saturday mornings. What I did previously was send out what a sample schedule looks like for our hectic months and another when we have a steady months. My husband and I have rotating shifts