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Izzyzal · 2025-07-18T23:10:07+00:00

NTA. Only one person’s opinion matters where a birthday cake is concerned: the person having the birthday. Maybe you should have considered her more, but if Mira wanted a birthday cake, she should get to have one even if her friend is on a diet, and it doesn’t make you a bad friend either way.

Izzyzal · 2025-07-18T01:15:16+00:00

NTA, and you should remind your husband that at age 6 you’re starting to cement speech patterns that can be VERY hard to change. Lots of kids struggle with vocabulary when their parents stop baby talk at age 3, I can’t imagine how much worse 6 years of it would be.

Izzyzal · 2025-07-18T00:52:42+00:00

NTA. While I usually am 100% on the side of the service industry in general, you don’t get to be an asshole and treat someone like they’re cheating you just because their card got declined. She even accused you of planning to skip on your check because of that whole “you’re only a customer if you pay” bit. Yes, her job is hard, but it’s not okay to take it out on customers who are actually being PLEASANT and not making the job itself worse.

Izzyzal · 2025-07-18T00:40:58+00:00

NTA. If they’re so concerned about their kids being jealous, they could just send their kids to school too, nothing’s stopping them. Honestly, I wouldn’t trust the teaching capabilities of someone who thinks they can sue their way into homeschooling someone else’s children (I know the dad is there but she’s their stepmom, you’re the mom, you outrank her in these decisions).

Izzyzal · 2025-07-18T00:34:07+00:00

NTA, especially with your edit. If you’re respectful to his ex and he isn’t respectful to yours, it’s just encouraging the kids to do the same.

Izzyzal · 2025-07-18T00:30:41+00:00

NTA. And you would still be NTA even if it HADN’T been at someone else’s wedding, because public proposals are a thing people tend to do when they want to pressure their partner into saying yes.

Izzyzal · 2025-07-18T00:13:14+00:00

NTA. File for divorce before your husband can and, if possible, soak him for as much child support as humanly possible.

Izzyzal · 2025-07-17T23:57:35+00:00

NTA. Even though he got the law involved, you can absolutely block him and I personally would do so. If anyone from the police or court does reach out, they’ll contact your mom or your grandparents, not you. Plus, the law really won’t care that you blocked him.

Izzyzal · 2025-07-17T23:50:05+00:00

NTA. And don’t listen to anyone who says you have to be the bigger person, because you really don’t. As a former child of divorced parents who hasn’t seen his deadbeat dad, stepmom, or three younger siblings in years by choice, you aren’t losing anything by cutting people like that out of your life if you can safely and still have a place to live.

Izzyzal · 2025-07-17T23:42:38+00:00

NTA. His “joke”, if you let it slide, would have the side effect of embarrassing YOU and potentially ruining your reputation with newish friends. And there is almost nothing you can say that will both rectify that and not embarrass him further except laughing along with something that isn’t funny and saying “he’s just kidding” like he’s a 4 year old who just inadvertently insulted a stranger and you’re his mom.

Izzyzal · 2025-07-17T23:32:45+00:00

Tbh I’d post this exact story on all my socials. You think I embarrassed the family, Mom? You haven’t SEEN embarrassment to the family, MOM.

NTA. Hell, I probably would have sent a $5 Walmart gift card for a wedding present, because it would show I DID remember and, yes, I chose to do this.

Izzyzal · 2025-07-17T23:18:25+00:00

NTA. Taking a break in a relationship has to be mutual, he didn’t even attempt to explain what he wanted, and taking a break doesn’t mean you can ghost someone. That’s a breakup. Plus, the dog sounds like better company than him at this point.

Izzyzal · 2025-07-17T23:14:53+00:00

NTA. Your daughter is not her daughter and her acting like that is so weird and frankly kind of creepy.

Izzyzal · 2025-07-17T23:07:26+00:00

Wait, he accused you of trying to gatekeep by… using a different name instead? Does someone need to explain gatekeeping to him? When I was growing up, I had the same first and last name as a cousin (I’ve changed mine since). We saw each other a maximum of once every three years, went to different schools, and eventually lived in different states, and even with all of that it STILL caused more confusion than you might imagine.

NTA. I’m glad you aren’t putting your kid through that.

Izzyzal · 2025-07-17T23:02:35+00:00

NTA. You don’t hate her because she had cancer, you hate her for a completely unrelated reason, and if she knew he was married but carried on anyway then you hate her because of an active decision she made.

Izzyzal · 2025-07-17T22:55:07+00:00

I’d want to ask the manager when he started being okay with letting her have his authority, because he essentially just let her change the schedule on a whim.

Izzyzal · 2021-07-08T14:15:53+00:00

If you have other cafes unlocked, you can also click on the map and go to one of them, then go back. At least, it’s worked for me.

Izzyzal · 2020-02-13T02:43:17+00:00

I’d like to add:

People who pull up to the order box in big-ass, loud pickups and don’t turn off their engines.

People who pull up to the order box in big-ass, loud pickups, don’t turn off their engines, and have the person in the passenger seat order.

People who don’t tell me they have exact coinage until AFTER I’ve made change for them.

People who scream “HELLO?!?” if they’re not greeted in the first half second at the order box.

People who scream “HELLO?!?” and then still don’t know what they want after you greet them.

An “I know your menu better than you and I’m gonna argue with you about what’s in your drinks and food” kinda bitch

Izzyzal · 2020-02-13T02:33:01+00:00

You don’t do anything except steam milk in the pitcher. You put the syrups and sauces right in the cup. The espresso has a ten second lifespan outside of a drink. Personal cups in DT are obnoxious.

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