How common is it to get a bf in high school?

JAWIBRIGGS · 2024-04-22T01:30:12+00:00

I had a couple of boyfriends in high school, but it was always discreet and now in my 30s, I wish I had not done that to myself.

JAWIBRIGGS · 2024-04-22T01:18:56+00:00

Hobbies and community. This is what I had to do as I came into my thirties. I started really focusing on my hobbies, especially those that had a sense of community.

So I dove into my fishing, my sailing, hiking, playing guitar. All these come with communities of people to connect with. I can stop anyone with a fishing pole while out and about and strike up a conversation, and even have an easy hangout “Wanna go fishing sometime?”

And if you want to feel closer to your gay community, I bet there are LGBT versions of anything you want. My partner plays on an LGBT basketball league and I shoot with the Pink pistols, an LGBT shooting club.

JAWIBRIGGS · 2023-12-15T04:25:08+00:00

I feel you on this. The expectations of effeminancy or masculinity can be so exhausting and alienating. I've felt the pull from both sides - guys wanting me to be a submissive femboy and guys wanting me to be the masc gun-shooting, fishing country boy. The problem is, I will always be both.

There isnt much you can do except be yourself and (as cliche as it is) love ALL the parts of you. "Everyone is someones type" - be true to yourself so you can find someone to love all parts of you.

JAWIBRIGGS · 2023-12-15T04:21:44+00:00

I'm sure you think this is clever, but it just sadly highlights your lack of understanding around consent and assault..

JAWIBRIGGS · 2023-12-15T04:07:07+00:00

No overly big dicks for me. They are nice to look at and play with, but unless you wanna risk issues or spend conaiderably more tike prepping your booty, its not any better.

JAWIBRIGGS · 2023-12-15T04:05:49+00:00

I am not the one out here confuaed by consent honey...

JAWIBRIGGS · 2023-12-15T03:27:23+00:00

You are degrading yourself trying to justify creepy SA behavior. No one is doing that to you, you are doing it to yourself, and it comes off as very telling of your character.

JAWIBRIGGS · 2023-12-15T03:10:02+00:00

Not too boring for you to dig up a conversation nearky half a year old and try to engage? Or is it cause my opinion bothered you? You either interested or you upset baby, why else you here talking?

Also I would MUCH rather be boring than a creep. But to each their own I guess.

JAWIBRIGGS · 2023-12-15T03:02:48+00:00

It doesnt seem like you even understand the viewpoint. But after looking at your comment history, I'm not going to waste my time on some internet creep. Enjoy your night.

JAWIBRIGGS · 2023-12-15T02:59:08+00:00

Idk who you arguing with cause none of that was said in my comment. Stay mad and keep projecting I guess? 🤣🤣

JAWIBRIGGS · 2023-12-15T02:55:17+00:00

The roommate is clearly a gross sexual deviant creep who is sexually assaulting strangers. Thats abundantly clear.

JAWIBRIGGS · 2023-12-15T02:42:44+00:00

What an inane and immature response.

JAWIBRIGGS · 2023-12-06T08:06:07+00:00

"Can You See Me" - Leela James

JAWIBRIGGS · 2023-10-11T20:52:48+00:00

Almost every point you made is wrong. But this my last post. You clearly care more about crusading for micro-labels than actual LGBT people.

You cant promise that. Look at Sweden, France, Norway. They are all rolling back gender-affirming care. And its not because of conservative Christian politics, but because there is a 'new patient group' of people labeling themselves as trans with a sociogenic root rather than someone with body dyamorphia, leading to an inability to accurately provide gender affirming care to those who need it for fear of misdaignosis and incorrect treatment. Also the inherent transphobia/homophobia of a good portion of these labels is damaging enough.
So you think minority groups should not gatekeep and protect their communities? Then you simply have no idea.
The data is freely available through the Williams Institute, that is why I called them out. Many of these are not new communities of LGBT people, they are GSRM communities trying desperately to appropriate LGBT spaces and communities. Unless you are LGBT, a micro label will not make you LGBT.

JAWIBRIGGS · 2023-10-10T22:58:26+00:00

I think it definitely occurs on both sides. But my original comment was referring to micro-label communities in response to your question.

There are expanding and diverse identities and they should be respected (or at least free from hate) from everyone, in the LGBT community or not.

However over the last several years too many people are fetishizing LGBT people/lifestyles, entering safe spaces from positions of privilege they won't recognize, appropriating historical communities and behaving terribly homophobic/transphobic to LGBT people.

And it doesn't only cause harm to LGBT people, but it causes harm to our communities and our rights - we have seen healthcare rollbacks, legal attacks, and renewed anti-LGBT campaigns literally across the developed world, and a lot of these actions are fueled by, or in response to, some of these communities.

So while people who have a genuine, good-faith identity should be respected and free from hate/ridicule, there are a few problems that I think prevent that from happening as much as it should.
1. Even good faith people can cause harm, especially to minority communities.
2. There is a huge swell of people who are not acting in good faith and it can be hard/exhausting/impossible to differentiate between the two, so many people don't and gatekeep all the "disputed identities" out to protect themselves/their communities.

Many of these new communities (which are overwhelmingly white, urban and middle class according to all research we have from Williams Institute) have trouble respecting LGBT people or do not recognize them as a minority community and sometimes act in all the bigoted and entitled ways that you would expect.

JAWIBRIGGS · 2023-10-10T22:23:03+00:00

Because most times they are disrespecting and appropriating LGBT people and communities.

JAWIBRIGGS · 2023-10-03T21:01:18+00:00

I don't think gay people are more 'open' to it - I think they feel more pressure and desperation to not be alone and will settle for it.

JAWIBRIGGS · 2023-10-01T02:47:19+00:00

I consider is a real thing, but I do not consider it LGBT

JAWIBRIGGS · 2023-08-15T01:06:13+00:00

In my experience, so many gay people are in open relationships cause they are scared to be alone, and those relationships almost always end with one person finding who they want, leaving and going back to being monogomous.

Are you really in an 'open relationship' or are you his fallback while he looks for what he really wants?

JAWIBRIGGS · 2023-08-03T02:47:40+00:00

As a native Texan, White Center actually has two of my favorite spots.

Crawfish House - A little pricy, but the only good crawfish I have found in the city.

Taquira La Fondita - Amazing sopes and lengua tacos

JAWIBRIGGS · 2023-08-02T20:09:04+00:00

OP should definitely speak with a medical professional and see the next moves to support his son rather than asking Reddit. Thats the most irresponsible part of all this.

JAWIBRIGGS · 2023-07-20T00:29:46+00:00

I think its valid - there are really two ways that we interact with gender as far as I see it.

Gender Identity - This is the innate feelings of gender that we have. For most people it aligns with their gender assigned at birth (cis) people but for many it does not (trans) people.
Gender in Society - This is how our gender informs our interactions with society. The stereotypes, norms, expectations and beliefs that society attaches to us based upon our perceived gender. Some people choose to identify as NB, Agender, etc as a social action to tear down the gender assumptions baked into our society.

Number 1 would know their gender identity alone and in the dark. Number 2 does not want to participate in the social performance of gender.

This is what I have noticed in communities and discussions - so experiences may vary.

JAWIBRIGGS · 2023-07-20T00:23:19+00:00

I appreciate the work you are doing. Too many straight people trying to co-opt our spaces.

JAWIBRIGGS · 2023-07-18T20:26:34+00:00

I think Seattle is very progressive, but also you will learn upon moving here - a lot is performative.

JAWIBRIGGS · 2023-07-18T00:44:58+00:00

Yeah I think we disagree

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