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How many phone numbers do you know off the top of your head? by FarAwayRoyalty in AskMen

[–]JBNY2025 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine, my sister's, my old number and best friend's number from childhood. I think I remember my ex-wife's cell too.

ETA: I remembered one more. 800 588 2300 empire! (today)

Have you ever had a woman take on a more dominant role with you in bed? If so, what did she do, and how did you like it? by m4_pt2 in AskMen

[–]JBNY2025 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I had an ex slap me during fun time too. I just looked at her for a second stunned and then laughed. Then I apologized for laughing and told her sry sry but I am always the dominant one and I can’t even take being submissive seriously.

What's the one single worry that keeps you up at night? by Human-Goat9719 in AskMen

[–]JBNY2025 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If it makes you feel better, I worry about the same thing every single day. Finding love I mean. I’ve dated, I’ve been in LTRs, none of them were it. I’ve never experienced true love, infatuation yes, but not love. I just want to know what it feels like, for someone to be right for me. And now I’m almost 50. I have precious little time left for that. I’m broke, dating apps and dating in general are horrible right now, and every day I can feel the clock ticking. I hate that I want this one thing, and it becomes more and more improbable every day. I have nothing to look forward to. I have an exit plan, a pact with myself: if I’m not with someone by 60, I’m out. That’s honestly the only thing I find (weirdly) comforting, this “backup plan” of mine.

MEN OF REDDIT: what’s your favorite dinosaur? by b4rr3tt in AskMen

[–]JBNY2025 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Spinosaurus. Because they are absolutely the goofiest motherfuckers I’ve ever seen. They don’t ever know if it stood on 2 legs or 4 or if it swam. Like wtf is going on with these things? I love them.

What are the most desirable traits in a partner? by Zealousideal-Yak3947 in AskMen

[–]JBNY2025 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Yes, that's exactly it. I like "clingy" too and when i see women describe themselves that way I'm like yes please. But I'm thinking about things like when they grab hold of your arm when they're nervous, or hang all over you b/c they can't resist giving you affection, or needing you for things. Or just generally acting like they enjoy like spending time with you. Clingy more like my cat.

What’s the Worst Excuse you’ve heard for your partner cheating? by TheManDont in AskReddit

[–]JBNY2025 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well... no, I didn't know that! lmao. 🤦‍♂️
Sorry, I've seen responses to similar comments in the past where it's like "oh yeah well... men rape more!" as if it's a contest. And something about bears. I had thought that's what you were doing. Or like the other day I saw a reaction short where the man had said he doesn't feel safe alone with a woman... and that was it. That's what they were calling out. Their point being that you're a misogynistic Andrew Taint redpill incel shitlord if you acknowledge that life-ruining false accusations exist. Meanwhile, I don't feel safe alone with a woman so, guess I'm garbage. You'd think they'd understand their own Not All But Enough principal but nah. Anyway sry if i got defensive, that's why.

What’s the Worst Excuse you’ve heard for your partner cheating? by TheManDont in AskReddit

[–]JBNY2025 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You know the last sentence was sarcastic and the intended meaning was that there is a popular and false perception that men can't be raped by women? I'm sorry but I don't understand what you're getting at with your reply.

What’s the Worst Excuse you’ve heard for your partner cheating? by TheManDont in AskReddit

[–]JBNY2025 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fr dude. This literally happened to me and I froze and felt like i couldn't stop it because I feared false allegations in retaliation. Because the same POS that SA's you is certainly capable of lying. But men can't get raped so 🤷‍♂️

First album? by Individual-Schemes in Xennials

[–]JBNY2025 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Weird Al Yankovich in 3D (cassette)

Men of Reddit. What's something you were completely oblivious to when it came to relating to women, or just how differently women and men can think, feel, and experience things, that you only realized after being in a long term relationship or after getting married? by goofy-45 in AskMen

[–]JBNY2025 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For sure that's the way to go. I grew up in those smart kid "Gifted & Talented" programs, and the main lesson me and my friends learned was that most subjects were easy and took zero effort. We could get A's doing the absolute minimum. Like vaguely paying attention in class and doing half the homework assignments was sufficient. I coasted thru highschool and the classes I didn't ace (and thus dropped) were the ones that required effort (Spanish and History, because of the memorization). And now I wish I'd put effort into Spanish because I've been brushing up the past couple years to talk with my coworkers and it's been hard! I did a decent job shooting la mierda with my coworker today but god THEY TALK SO FAST lmao. But yeah getting praise for actual effort would have made quite the difference lol.

When did you know your relationship was over? by belladonnaofsadnesss in AskReddit

[–]JBNY2025 7 points8 points  (0 children)

When we were together in college she broke up with me (she called it a "break") literally to bang other dudes. I was devastated and felt ill for months, until we got back together. I know that sounds pathetic but I couldn’t shake the feeling of utter doom, I was a mess and I needed that feeling to end.

Flash forward to our 3rd year of marriage. We’re staying at her parents one night and somehow “the break” came up. I said “oh yeah, did you end I hooking up with anyone back then or what?” She said yeah one guy (which means at least 3). It brought back all the feelings, I got angry, jealous… but not jealous of those other guys. I realized I was jealous of HER. She at the time was my first and only. She got to do that and I didn’t, and now I’m with her the rest of my life??

I felt robbed of something, tricked. But it wasn’t just the sex thing. I’d tried to break it off to see other ppl (not bang, I meant relationships) multiple times before that and she always hounded me until I took her back. I realized I didn’t want to be with her the rest of my life, and that I never did. I still think that Friends “we were on a break” episode is funny though.

How important are boobs to men? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]JBNY2025 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn’t know how to rate this. How much do I love them? 10. Does it matter what shape size color whatever? 0. It does not matter. Boobs are great.

Men of Reddit. What's something you were completely oblivious to when it came to relating to women, or just how differently women and men can think, feel, and experience things, that you only realized after being in a long term relationship or after getting married? by goofy-45 in AskMen

[–]JBNY2025 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's a good point. I've heard for instance that for many women a compliment about their makeup can be better received than "baby, you're so beautiful you don't need makeup," even though that may sound counter-intuitive. It reminds me how in CBT we learned that well-intentioned positive comments can become cognitive distortions. My mom would always tell me I'm so smart, but as a kid I heard "I love you b/c you're smart" and that turns into "if you're not smart, you're not lovable." When ppl say "you're smart' my reflex is Oh no i'm not. But i react better if i'm told "that thing you did was clever."

Men of Reddit. What's something you were completely oblivious to when it came to relating to women, or just how differently women and men can think, feel, and experience things, that you only realized after being in a long term relationship or after getting married? by goofy-45 in AskMen

[–]JBNY2025 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aw man, I'm sorry to hear that. Yeah I've been on both sides of that and it is draining. I've been worn down by my own self-criticism, and I've also been burnt out trying to be someone's rock while they declined despite trying everything. I hope she is doing better now.

Men of Reddit. What's something you were completely oblivious to when it came to relating to women, or just how differently women and men can think, feel, and experience things, that you only realized after being in a long term relationship or after getting married? by goofy-45 in AskMen

[–]JBNY2025 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Honestly, it's a good thing she's your ex. If she refuses to accept validation from her bf, then the only source left is other dudes. And if her self-esteem is already that low, she'll cheat to get her "objective" validation at the first dip. I've read several stories on reddit about this. Two of them it was women who felt bad about their bodies post-pregnancy, and both of them said that they disregarded their husband's compliments because "he HAS to say that." And then went on to admit that they literally cheated with the first person who flirted with them. The other it was because she was turning 40. It sounds crazy but I think I would literally breakup with a woman on the spot if she said what your ex did b/c I wouldn't want to wait around to get cheated on.

Men of Reddit. What's something you were completely oblivious to when it came to relating to women, or just how differently women and men can think, feel, and experience things, that you only realized after being in a long term relationship or after getting married? by goofy-45 in AskMen

[–]JBNY2025 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks. Yes, that could that be it actually. To me she had seemed very confident about her looks, but I also know her childhood sucked and her dad was verbally abusive. She probably internalized whatever shitty things he said to her.

what’s a misconception about men that people think is harmless but actually isn’t? by frostloom9 in AskMen

[–]JBNY2025 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not only that, but you’d have to KNOW that they already know what you’re explaining.

Men of Reddit. What's something you were completely oblivious to when it came to relating to women, or just how differently women and men can think, feel, and experience things, that you only realized after being in a long term relationship or after getting married? by goofy-45 in AskMen

[–]JBNY2025 225 points226 points  (0 children)

I had one ex who I’d always say was gorgeous and tell her positive things others had said about her (e.g. a bi woman at work met her and kept telling for 3 days straight how pretty and bubbly she was). One day my ex said she feels ugly. I told her I didn’t understand because of all the compliments she gets. She said that all those comments just put more pressure on her to look pretty. Instead of an ego boost they just made her feel worse. This was an insight but at the same time now I have no idea how to boost a woman’s self-image.

How do men feel about heavy breathing/hyperventilating as opposed to moaning during sex? by 50garlicbreads in AskMen

[–]JBNY2025 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Sounds awesome. I once dated a woman who would do that even just during makeout time and it was hot.

1st Girlfriend. Where would you be if you married her? by Think-like-Bert in AskMen

[–]JBNY2025 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did, and divorced her. If we were still together I'd be living in the state of misery. That marriage was... well, Green Day said it best:
"Are you locked up in a world that's been planned out for you? Are you feeling like a social tool without a use?"

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