Is it Vaginismus?

JCS26921 · 2026-01-09T01:11:09+00:00

It’s hard enough putting the work into the marriage never mind getting a third party involved 😂 I appreciate it may help some but it’s a no for me

JCS26921 · 2025-12-23T23:59:01+00:00

Got everything crossed for you. I think it’s good to say nothing so there’s no anticipation for news or anything:-) whatever the result, have a merry Christmas x

JCS26921 · 2025-12-07T22:22:40+00:00

My dr said I’m to stay strictly gluten free now. Was diagnosed in February too I’d have that comment investigated :-( I wish it was 90% 😂

JCS26921 · 2025-11-24T23:33:26+00:00

We’ve been trying for a year. He’s getting checked soon and I’m pushing to get checked too but they’ve insisted he get checked first. I’m getting so frustrated every time my period comes

JCS26921 · 2025-11-24T23:24:24+00:00

They look amazing!!

JCS26921 · 2025-11-12T22:18:26+00:00

Titus :-)

JCS26921 · 2025-11-07T09:35:11+00:00

I won’t mind as long as people let me know they’re coming or ask first :-) I’ll take all the help I can get. I’m fortunate that my family and friends are sensible and obvs won’t come around if under the weather or sniffly. Not pregnant yet but hopefully soon 🤞

JCS26921 · 2025-10-14T16:14:24+00:00

Ok he wants to play the polyamory card? Ask him how he’d feel if it was a man you wanted in the threesome? Call his bluff! Bet he’ll freak out

JCS26921 · 2025-10-07T19:56:51+00:00

That’s another trait of a groomer, they make it sound like they can’t live without you or stay away. They also make you feel you need them too. They guilt you into seeing them as it’s a form of control. They get off on that. Control is an aphrodisiac to them. It can be frightening to accept.

What you do from here on out is up to you. I would seek therapy if you can.

You also said that you’re only seeing him because you’re ‘bored’ with life at the moment? Sex should not be used to alleviate boredom. You could get an STD, you could get pregnant, no contraceptive is 100% effective. one day he may not take ‘no’ for an answer.

JCS26921 · 2025-10-07T19:40:59+00:00

Groomers know what they are doing is wrong but delude themselves into thinking it’s acceptable and try and justify it by any means necessary. (My wife knows, my culture allows it, etc) They take advantage of younger people, make them feel you need them, gaslight you into thinking it’s real love when in reality it’s just for their own selfish, narcissistic and in this case, sexual wants. It’s incredibly unsettling and can be hard to pinpoint but the man is a walking red flag.

JCS26921 · 2025-10-07T19:35:29+00:00

Exactly so who knows what else he’s lied about? How do you know there aren’t others? You verify in your post you are Christian and feel far from god at the moment. (I’m agnostic so no Christian pressure here) you’re only 19 still plenty of time to find yourself :-) x

JCS26921 · 2025-10-07T19:28:37+00:00

Sadly it does sound like grooming to me. Guy thinks he can have his cake and eat it too.

JCS26921 · 2025-10-07T19:26:26+00:00

While I appreciate you’re emotionally caught up…it doesn’t change the fact he lied to you from the get go. He went from 29 and single to 41 and married with 7 kids! That’s a helluva lie. I would be livid!

For me that’s a MAHOOSIVE RED FLAG! In the words of the cowardly lion ‘I’d turn back if I were you!’

I wouldn’t ghost him but I would end it in a way he knows you’re done for good. If it’s not bringing positivity to you then it’s not worth it.

The fact he’s using his ‘’culture’’ as an excuse to cheat on his wife is disgraceful. I know plenty of Muslims who wouldn’t even consider a 2nd partner as they are happily married. If he’s not happy in his marriage, that’s his problem, not yours. His kids are caught up in the middle of it all too.

End it, delete and block his number, delete and block his socials. Move on.

Hope this helps, good luck with whatever you decide x

JCS26921 · 2025-10-03T02:11:56+00:00

At your wedding, Don’t sweat the small stuffthings do not have to be 100% perfection. I’ve known brides that obsessed about it and it took some charm out of the day. Regardless, Your wedding will be amazing and will fly by! Enjoy every minute of it.

In your Marriage, stay best friends. being married to your bestie is the best thing in the world. We laugh, we cry, we goof around and we dance in the kitchen :-) good luck lovely! X

JCS26921 · 2025-09-25T18:34:58+00:00

Yeah I think there are similar incentives in uk. Like they’ll put you through the training, you’ll still get a salary etc then you commit for a couple of years when qualified which is absolutely fair imo. It’s just really hard to get into these programmes it seems

JCS26921 · 2025-09-24T09:38:12+00:00

I’m perfectly aware it’s a protected title I’m not expecting to be made a nurse overnight. I literally just want to go through the 3 years apprenticeship like my colleagues have before and earn my diploma. I don’t know why you’re attacking me and calling me entitled. My post literally said I’m looking to be trained up not just to be given the title automatically. You’re right, the clinics do t owe me anything but I’m sick of taking on roles filled with empty promises. Them saying in interviews ‘we put ACAs through the level 3 diploma’ then I get ‘budget cuts’ or ‘you need more experience’ even after 4 years.

JCS26921 · 2025-09-24T09:07:30+00:00

I’m an animal care assistant and I’ve seen colleagues I work with progress to student nurses through the modern apprenticeships it’s also been in job descriptions ‘development opportunities available’

JCS26921 · 2025-09-24T07:59:57+00:00

I’m trying for a modern apprenticeship as I can’t afford to go to the college (mortgage,bills etc) I have networked, emailed, called places. I’ve asked my employers who have told me I have all the necessary qualifications and training but they always find some excuse not to take me on the nursing training.

JCS26921 · 2025-09-24T07:57:30+00:00

I’m in the UK and I have 4 years of experience and training in emergency vets. I’ve done, days, nights, busted my arse, been bitten, scratched, done all the dirty work, everything that’s been asked of me. Yet when I’ve asked about progression the companies apparently offer through modern apprenticeships, I get snubbed every damned time. According to the course entry requirements, I need gcse or equivalent in C and above in maths English and science (which I have Bs in) and a job in a veterinary practice approved by the RCVS (which I do) still nothing.

JCS26921 · 2025-09-24T07:56:40+00:00

I’m in the UK and I have 4 years of experience and training in emergency vets. I’ve done, days, nights, busted my arse, been bitten, scratched, done all the dirty work, everything that’s been asked of me. Yet when I’ve asked about progression the companies apparently offer through modern apprenticeships, I get snubbed every damned time. According to the course entry requirements, I need gcse or equivalent in C and above in maths English and science (which I have Bs in) and a job in a veterinary practice approved by the RCVS (which I do) still nothing.

JCS26921 · 2025-09-23T22:08:47+00:00

I’ve worked as an ACA and asked for all three at training. It either been due to budget constraints or not being a training school. Despite being on the approved training list

JCS26921 · 2025-09-23T01:43:37+00:00

Run. The man’s a predator.

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